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Are You Truly Smiling?

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Real Estate Agent with Ask4Ferguson - Your House-SOLD Name in Real Estate

It’s Valentine’s Day.  And I have to admit, mine has been fatabulous.  While I was sitting at dinner with my lovely ‘Lil’ Lady I caught a quick refection of myself and there was almost a ‘perm-a-grin’ .  The feeling I felt was one of pure contentment.  I knew that my outward appearance truly mirrored my inward.  I am HAPPY!

 

That got me to thinking about how I feel on a daily basis and how I portray myself to my clients.  We all have bad days and just hope that we can make it thru the day without saying something that is going to turn off my clients or another agent during transactions and negotiations.  What I do to move thru these ‘blah’ barriers is to laugh, laugh from my belly and if I can I do it in front of a mirror and genuinely smile.

 

You can read all the self help books you want (and trust me, I’ve got one open every night) but unless you can positively internalize what you are reading, all that you have taken in will be stuck on the ‘surface’.  The best way that I know is to smile.   It’s been written that smiling has the ‘force to forge bonds, calm storms and break ice’.  And I challenge you like I was challenged in the past to try and smile and feel bad at the same time.  I know I can’t. And for the cynical, I’m talking about genuinely smiling.  Just give it a try.

 

And the practice of smiling is no different that exercising or any other positive lifestyle change.  At first it will be awkward and not feel normal, but after awhile like anything else it will become a habit. 

 

That’s what happened to me tonight.  I’ve been practicing my smile as much as I prospect at work, or train at the gym.  It was kind of reaping the rewards from hard work. 

 

I know this blog is a bit ‘chick flicky’ or sappy but hey it is Valentine’s Day J

 

So are you truly smiling?................

Comments(6)

Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Good for you!  I know exactly how you feel.  They say a smile can be "heard" through the phone.  And anyone in this business right now needs to learn how to be heard the right way - by listening and using empathy.  But smiling - hey it's not that hard and anyone can do it with a little practice.  Great post and I'm going to suggest it, too!

Feb 14, 2011 02:18 PM
L. Scott Ferguson
Ask4Ferguson - Your House-SOLD Name in Real Estate - West Palm Beach, FL
Sunny Florida Real Estate Professional

Jan, thanks for taking the time to read!  I love what you said about 'hearing a smile thru the phone' ABSOLUTELY TRUE!

Feb 14, 2011 02:33 PM
Anonymous
krysia

I agree!  It's really hard to not feel happy when laughing or 'really' smiling!

Feb 14, 2011 03:31 PM
#3
Krista Lombardi
Prudential Calfornia Realty - San Diego, CA

That's a good exercise, Scott! It's good for the heart! :)

Feb 14, 2011 03:46 PM
John Pusa
Glendale, CA

Scott - Thank you for sharing very good blog. Happy Valentine's Day.

Feb 14, 2011 04:14 PM
L. Scott Ferguson
Ask4Ferguson - Your House-SOLD Name in Real Estate - West Palm Beach, FL
Sunny Florida Real Estate Professional

Hi Krista and John.

 

Thanks for the comments, it means a ton!

Feb 15, 2011 01:22 AM