After Taking My Own Advice, I don't Like Me One Bit

Real Estate Agent with Cherimie Crane & Associates

I took my own advice. I decluttered, I depersonalized (well mostly) and I cleaned myself into a frenzy. Recently I introduced you to my absolutely worst client ever, and she is me. For years I have been the Queen of the conversion, lord of the living room make over and the Dr. Phil of spouting orders to sellers. I stressed the importance of updating to the point of upchucking, with elegance and poise I pointed out all the flaws that must be corrected prior to presenting their property to the buying population.


It is amazing anyone still likes me at all. After taking my own advice, I don’t like me much. It is hard work. It is emotional. It is slightly less fun than a root canal. Packing away my memories, my special moments and gifts was not at all as easy as it was telling others to do so.


Fixing all the little imperfections that drove me crazy, made us laugh and swear never again to buy anything that wasn’t brand spanking new, wasn’t as joyful as I had imagined.








I miss the squeaky door, the cabinet drawer that gave my patient husband fits and all those light switches to nowhere are now real light switches to somewhere.  Who knew that would sting a bit? All of those things are now replaced, repaired only to be remembered.


To all my sellers past and present, I get it.You followed my instructions with a smile and most likely cursed my name in private. I understand. You did what you had to do because you trusted my professional opinion. I appreciate it.






 I do know my business. I do know what it takes to sell real estate and now I know what it means to sell a home. I have sold hundreds of homes, not just hundreds of houses. You trusted me and now I have to trust myself. 



My little imperfect domicile was perfect for me and now it will be ready for the scrutiny of buyers, the reflection of Realtors and the changing of the guards.


Never again will I spout off my list of to-do’s to any seller, without a more gentle understanding of what it means to sell a home.




There is no doubt I am my most challenging client, when it comes to selling my own home, I don’t like myself one stinking bit; however, I do know I know what I am doing. I hope I will listen to myself.



If you know of anyone who is searching for a three bedroom, three bath, extremely lovingly cared for condo by the water, I happen to know just where they can find one!




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Robert Rauf
HomeBridge Financial Services (NJ) - Toms River, NJ

Now you are better equipped with Empathy, having experienced the "fun" first hand!  I dread the day I decide to sell my house, that 'honey do' list just seems to grow and grow!

Sep 24, 2012 04:24 AM #29
Joleen Brann
Premiere Property Group - Portland, OR

Just this morning as I was making my coffee, I looked around and thought, "Jeez, I hope I never have to sell this house!"  Yours looks fantastic, and you have done everything I tell my clients to do!  It will sell!  I would love to see the "before" photos!


Sep 24, 2012 04:39 AM #30
Christie Lane Craven
Blackwell Real Estate - Odenton, MD
Your Anne Arundel County Agent

Cherimie, I am just beginning to feel your pain.  We are a couple of years out from listing, but I have already started on my punch list of things that need to be done before we list.  

Sep 24, 2012 04:45 AM #31
Mary Padilla
YES! Realty - Albuquerque, NM

So true!  Just one of the reasons why I love sitting at Open Houses of my clients who have followed my directions.  Their house is clean, decluttered and beautiful!  Then I come hom to mine and like Joleen, hope I don't have to sell it anytime soon. 

Great read!

Sep 24, 2012 04:47 AM #32
Cherimie Crane
Cherimie Crane & Associates - Beaufort, SC

Thank you all so much for commenting. Selling is HARD. Selling your own home takes copious amounts of wine and patience:).

My home was built in 1976, so I have done countless improvements, most of which I will never gain a penny back; however, I have so enjoyed each and every one of them. Just as I tell my clients, not all improvements will see a monetary return. I have so loved living here, but it is time for my husband and I to move forward. We are very excited and a little sad all at the same time.

Afterall, it has been HOME.

Sep 24, 2012 04:51 AM #33
Kimo Jarrett
WikiWiki Realty - Huntington Beach, CA
Pro Lifestyle Solutions

I wouldn't expect any homeowner to keep their home in market ready condition until it's time to sell, so the circumstances have changed and when you are marketing your home, you must do whatever it takes to sell, don't you? Have another glass of wine and toast to your success. Life is great, isn't it?

Sep 24, 2012 05:05 AM #34
Sharon Parisi
United Real Estate Dallas - Dallas, TX
Dallas Homes

Cherimie, you did a wonderful job preparing your home. It will give you extra empathy for future sellers. Putting a house on the market takes time, energy, courage and money!

Sep 24, 2012 06:53 AM #35
Liane Thomas -Top Listing Agent
Professional Realty Services® International - Corona, CA
Bringing you Home!

Wonderful photos. Everything looks model home perfect. Wishing you a willing buyer and a fast escrow!

Sep 24, 2012 07:00 AM #36
Dana Smithers
PRES Staging Resource Centre - Vancouver, BC
PRES Staging Training, Redesign Training & Busines

I couldn't agree more Cherimie! As a home stager it's easy peasy for me to tell my sellers what they need to do. But I do know when it comes to us selling our condo (which isn't big) I will have a hard time taking my own advice. "What do  you mean get rid of the king size bed and rent a smaller one?" I don't think so but we'll see.

Sep 24, 2012 07:00 AM #37
Bob Miller
Keller Williams Cornerstone Realty - Ocala, FL
The Ocala Dream Team

Hi Cherimie, we heard something recently that you just reminded us about.  That after we live with a "defect" in our surrounds for a few weeks we cease to even notice it.

Sep 24, 2012 07:01 AM #38
Sylvie Stuart
Realty One Group Mountain Desert 928-600-2765 - Flagstaff, AZ
Home Buying, Home Selling and Investment - Flagsta

It's good to take a walk in your client's shoes every once in a while. This home shows beautifully! Good luck with the sale!!

Sep 24, 2012 10:20 AM #39
Laura Moore
Coldwell Banker - Granite Bay, CA
Competent ~ Caring ~ Committed

Cute post.  It's why they say, as Realtors, we should move every few years.  Being an expert is one thing.  Being an expert with empathy and understandingis more valuable.

Sep 24, 2012 10:36 AM #40

It looks great - you did a wonderful job!  I am on the side of I hope I never have to sell my house.


Sep 24, 2012 01:40 PM #41
Frank Castaldini
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Realtor - Homes for Sale in San Francisco

I did a declutter and depersonalize sort of in my home office...I really feel so much better in here.  I need to keep it this way.  I feel the old tempations and habits knocking on my brain's door...

Sep 24, 2012 02:26 PM #42
Debbie Cook
Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc - Silver Spring, MD
Silver Spring and Takoma Park Maryland Real Estate

I feel for you and I think I will be in my house until they take me out in a pine box - just to avoid having to go through selling it!
Pretty Adorable condo you are selling.

Sep 24, 2012 09:50 PM #43
Lyn Sims
RE/MAX Suburban - Schaumburg, IL
Schaumburg Real Estate

I sold my home a few years ago & just did it. The showings I thought were the hardest with agents being late, people saying stupid things.  It was worth every penny & minute spent.  I was known as the 'model house that should be on TV'.  That's ok with me! 

Patience & good luck.

Sep 25, 2012 03:03 AM #44
Digital Digital
Alachua, FL
full service


Well done!

Beautiful photos, this should sell quickly as it's inviting.

All the best with a speedy sale!

Sep 25, 2012 02:20 PM #45
Larry O'Sullivan
Sandy, UT

Cherimie - loved your post. Had our daughter arrive recently to get us organized. I joked that her determination seemed to be preparing the property for an estate sale. The result is magnificent. Shouldn't take us too long to find things again. Glad you have sensitiviity for your clients' feelings.

Sep 25, 2012 10:34 PM #46
Nan Jester
Exit Real Estate Gallery Jacksonville Beach, FL - Jacksonville Beach, FL
Realtor, Exit Real Estate Gallery

A lot easier to give advice than take it, isn't it?

Sep 25, 2012 11:38 PM #47
Wayne B. Pruner
Oregon First - Tigard, OR
Tigard Oregon Homes for Sale, Realtor, GRI

The trick is for Sellers (you) to emotionally detach themselves from the home. It's best to think it's not yours anymore. Yea I know. Easier said than done!

Nov 23, 2012 05:47 AM #48
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