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Don't Worry Be Happy..Avoid Social Comparison...

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Real Estate Agent with Aubrey and Associates Realty

The trait that Happy People have for this blog is as difficult as any of the other traits that are listed on this list of traits.  When it talks of avoiding social comparisons, it means that we shouldn't be compariing ourselves and are circumstances with someone else.  It is the "keeping up with the Jones'" mentality.  What makes doing this trait even more difficult is that all of the advertisments in the World do this.  Even in our own business we are asking people to move up, down size or choose the right neighborhood.

In the classic country song, Waylon Jennings and Willie Nelson sing "we got a four car garage and we're still building on...". This song talks about how they need to simplify their lives.  The real danger in my mind at least when we compare ourselves socially is that we're never satisified with what we have.  This extends even to our relationships with family and friends.  I am not saying that we shouldn't be motivated to improve ourselves, I am saying that this shouldn't become an all consuming passion for us.  Unchecked, this passion to be better than the neighbors or who ever destroys all sorts of relationships, family, friends, even associates. 

In my life, I have known a few very wealthy people, one of them once told me that in life, it didn't matter how much money you had, you should never have more stuff than you can take care of personally.  He lived a very simple life, he didn't drive a fancy automobile nor wear expensive clothes, he was worth several million dollars, and his lifestyle may have been the reason why he had accumulated so much wealth.  In the Ten Commandments we are told that we shouldn't covet our neighbors possesions, or their wife.  This is wise counsel, it is good to be motivated to succeed, but not to the detriment of everything else. 

This trait is really one of the most difficult in this list to do, it goes against everything that society is telling us.  I do believe that it is important that we don't compare ourselves to anyone else, rather we should make ourselves into the best that we can be.  Another of the negative traits we attain when we comparing ourselves to someone else is that instead of admiring and emulating successful people, we become jealous of them.  We begin to despise them because of their success.  This negativity is detrimental to our lives, success should be a positive.  I don't believe that a positive can be attained from a negative state of mind! 

Don't worry, be happy, avoid Social comparisons!  Be the best you that you can be!  In the end, it really doesn't matter what your neighbor, your parents, your brother or anyone else was or accomplished in their lives.  What matters is who you are and what you have done! 

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Comments(8)

Dale Baker
Baker Energy Audits and Commercial Properties Inspections - Claremont, NH
New Hampshire Relocation Real Estate Information

Howdy and afternoon Tony and Darcy

Tony and Darcy my friends,  I sure can say that I have not ever cared about being like anyone else. If folks are able to accept me the way I am, then so be it.

I sure have enjoyed reading and siting my eyes upon the photo shots of this here mighty fine series!

Have a good one

Dale in New Hampshire

May 01, 2013 05:44 AM
Joshua Zargari
MJ Decorators Workshop LI staging and home decorating - Lynbrook, NY
MJ Decorators Workshop

Good afternoon Tony and Darcy.

Being an individualist and focusing on what you do...

May 01, 2013 06:25 AM
Toni Weidman
Sailwinds Realty - Trinity, FL
20+ Years Selling Homes in New Port Richey, FL

Be proud of your accomplishment no matter what, Tony. Good advice.

May 02, 2013 06:13 AM
Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor
Just be you. That is what I learned from my rather simple parents. Simple because they weren't trying to be 'big shots.' They were happy just to be themselves. Good post.
May 02, 2013 11:26 AM
Tony & Darcy Cannon
Aubrey and Associates Realty - Layton, UT
The C Team

Dale, That is a great attitude to have!

Joshua, That is one way to see it.

Toni, Thank you!

Mary, They sound like very wise people, your parents.

 

May 03, 2013 01:21 AM
Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®
Lewisburg, WV
Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate

Tony, enjoyed reading this post and agree with everything you wrote.  My mom use to tell us kids, "don't try to be like other people, you want be happy, just be yourself".  Suggested

May 03, 2013 01:55 AM
Tony & Darcy Cannon
Aubrey and Associates Realty - Layton, UT
The C Team

Rebecca, That is wise counsel!  Have a great day!

May 03, 2013 02:26 AM
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

Happiness isn't measured by the possessions we have.  What you own, owns you and it can become a trap that's hard to escape.  Learn to be happy with what you have and you will always be happy.

Jun 03, 2013 11:04 AM