This post is a "rerun", but in light of something I read and being reminded of this lesson I decided it was a good post for today.
I'll start by saying that I don't expect people to always agree with me. I'm not silly enough to think my way is the best way for everyone, even when I know it's the best way for me. My opinion is just that, my opinion. I am professional enough to know on ActiveRain when I should keep my opinion to myself. 
Sometimes I find it's okay to politely and respectfully disagree on a comment. And on members only posts or when someone is inviting opinions I'm happy to share my disagreement.
BUT
When I come across a post that is public pointing and I don't share the viewpoint of the author I just move on. Some days I read as many posts and don't comment on them than I read and do comment on. It's just rude to be disagreeable on a public pointed post. If you really disagree with their opinion write your own post about how you view the matter. But it's my belief that it's totally wrong to challenge the author on a post written for consumers.
I've been fortunate that my time here in the rain I've had only a handful of these comments. I was dumb enough back in the early days to engage in those types of opinion challenges and it caused a few dust ups here and there. I was even involved in the occasional pile on. Blogging maturity, lessons learned, people forgiven I now have a different approach when someone comes by my post and leaves a big pile of you know what. I just click and delete it. Now that doesn't happen very often. I'd say that in my 8 years here I've not deleted more than a dozen or so comments.
I wanted to suggest that you might not get into a difference of opinion battle on the thread of post here in the rain. It doesn't make anyone look good. Recently I saw one of these and the respect formerly held for a member really took a nose dive. No longer would that member be someone I would suggest or refer to. If they don't have respect for other members it's likely their own self importance and preservation would come first over a clients' need as well.
Just mind your manners. If someone happens not to do the same on your post before you engage them in the thread defending your opinion stop and consider what the consumer will think of you for being in that back and forth tit for tat. When you consider that you might just want to use the delete button and let your post and your opinion stand on its own. After all, it's YOUR blog.
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