Special offer

Memories of my Father-The real estate addition

By
Real Estate Agent with The Virtual Real Estate Team 104556

I have enjoyed today reading post here about fathers and sons both living and gone and of course today is a day where I miss my father the most although I think of him often. It has been a lot of years since we were together on this planet and as someone who chose not to be a father a lot of feelings race through my brain and my memory bank is flooded. There is one particular time that stands out for me today and it was when i started in real estate in October 1989. 

I had just finally closed up my retail home electronics business that year after 16.5 years of doing that and enduring 7 of the darkest years of the Oklahoma economy from the bursting of the energy bubble in 1982. In June that year I had done everything to pay everyone back which i am proud of and had paid off the FDIC who tool over my failed bank. I was exhausted and in my 40's wondering what my next step was and then a friend encouraged me to start selling foreclosed real estate and what did I have to lose? This is where my Dad was Andrew Carnegie and Og Mandino rolled into one and made a huge difference in my life.

I was starting off from scratch and flat broke so a little encouragement was needed. My Dad was a great salesman and I like to think that that part of him is in my still and something to be proud of, after all we idolize these men and want to be like them. Before I ever sat on an open house or made a sale my Dad said this to me: Son, you and I are now partners and every time you make a sale and get a commission I want you to come to the house and let me know what it is so I can say, our business is doing great pardner! Way to go! I did that for my Dad's remaining 5 years of his life and we would celebrate by going to the Triple A baseball game and he would never let me by the hot dog and beer, that was my sales bonus.

Many years later I am still closing homes and a lot more of them than when I started. Having your Dad giving you what you can't pay a price for which is love and encouragement is something you never forget. if I am successful now my Dad has a lot to do with that and I never looked back after the first closing in January 1990. Even today I have carried on a tradition of letting my Dad know we made another sale and closing and our partnership is better than ever. I have to stop now because I can't quit crying, but to my dear departed Father I have to say Way to Go Pardner! I couldn't have done it without you.

Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Well you aren't the only one crying Joe. What a beautiful and heartfelt story. You both were so lucky to have each other!

Jun 18, 2017 11:37 AM
Kasey & John Boles
Jon Gosche Real Estate, LLC - BoiseMeridianRealEstate.com - Boise, ID
Boise & Meridian, ID Ada/Canyon/Gem/Boise Counties

Very heartfelt post. Thanks for sharing it. I love the celebration at a Triple A game with a hoy dog and beer. -Kasey

Jun 18, 2017 12:15 PM
Susan Haughton
Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 - Alexandria, VA
Susan & Mindy Team...Honesty. Integrity. Results.

What a wonderful memory of testament to your father, who was clearly everything a dad should be.  He is very, very proud of you. 

Jun 18, 2017 02:36 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Joe- what a wonderful gift your father gave you!  And in turn, you just gave him a beautiful gift as well. 

Jun 18, 2017 02:51 PM
Susan Haughton
Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 - Alexandria, VA
Susan & Mindy Team...Honesty. Integrity. Results.

Congratulations, you have been featured in Bananatude!!

Jun 18, 2017 06:44 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

Good morning Joe.  What a deep and heart jerking post this was.  I know it came from the heart.  Thank you

Jun 19, 2017 03:13 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I once had a neighbor who said, Father's Day is sometimes a kind of "Memorial Day for dads."  Shee had lost her's several years prior, and found it a little difficult to get through the day.

Jun 19, 2017 05:00 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Joe. This was lovely and I was moved by it. Funny triggers and wonderful recollections.

Jun 19, 2017 06:00 AM
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

Aw, what a great story.  Glad you were able to share it with us here.

Jun 19, 2017 08:27 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Sounds like your Dad was a very good man!  It is great when we find we are good at things that we didn't even practice because they were traits handed down to us from our parents!

Jun 19, 2017 08:29 AM
Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi
NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656 - New Lenox, IL
708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience

Fantastic post, Joe Pryor ... sounds like the apple didn't fall too far from the tree.  I like how you share how proud you are of your efforts (and accomplishments) regarding repayment of debt.  It speaks volumes of who and what you are, Joe.

Great read,

Gene

 

Jun 19, 2017 08:59 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Joe Pryor - That is the most beautiful father/son story I ever read. You are blessed you had him in your life for as long as you did with much quality time. I know of some men who had father's who lived a long, long, time and they barely spoke to each other. I too, am crying. 

You're a wonderful man - flesh of his flesh. Heart of his heart. Love of his love. 

Jun 20, 2017 11:05 AM
Nathan Gesner
American West Realty and Management - Cody, WY
Broker / Property Manager

Thanks for sharing this, Joe.  My father died when I was six and I often wonder how that would have changed my life to be around him more. 

Jun 22, 2017 04:49 AM
Lynda White
Bluegrass Homes & Farms Realty, Agent Know How - Louisville, KY
Admin. Mgr., Keller Williams Realty

I am sitting here trying not to cry. What a touching story. Thank you for sharing.

Jun 22, 2017 05:22 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Hi Joe!  It sounds like your Dad was someone incredibly special - and the apple didn't fall far from the tree either! Wonderful post to honor your Dad. I know you've made him unbelievably proud.

Jun 22, 2017 05:38 AM
Greg Large
ERA Real Solutions - Grove City, OH
A Tradition of Trust

wonderful tribute to a man who raised a wonderful son. Thanks for sharing.

Jun 22, 2017 05:53 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Great post, our fathers can be so positive in our lives, as a Dad myself I have tried, and failed many many times to be the most positive person for my sons. But looking at them today I know I did something right with my wife to turn out three good men, just a shame my Dad did not get to meet them, he would have been proud.

Jun 22, 2017 06:50 AM
Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor

  Wow! Thank you, Joe, for sharing your personal 'Thank you' to your father. Kudos!

Jun 22, 2017 06:59 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

My father died in 1967 and I still think about him every day.

He invested in real estate and provided my first real estate office after I graduated from law school.

Jun 22, 2017 08:35 AM
Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert
Richmond, TX

Joe,

 I had missed this one I too wrote one about my mom and I too was crying writing. I feel the love and the sorrow in your post!

Nov 09, 2017 03:09 PM