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Many time management educators encourage you to say No to requests or things people ask of you. And I understand the thinking behind that, saying No allows you to say yes to those things that you enjoy and earn you money. But, it can become a bad habit, in that you say No to everything.

This is my last gratitude post for the month, because in a few days I will be saying Yes to my next big adventure at my wedding on Sunday. To say I was nervous when I asked my fiancé to marry me is no understatement. We are both older, lived our lives and bring our baggage along with us. But, we also both understand that. I was not sure for a long time that I wanted to get remarried, having been divorced not that long ago. I also had planned to move to Europe after my divorce, but that plan got changed because of events happening beyond my control, like Brexit and COVID.  

Galapagos large tortoise

But, that allowed me to meet Annie and to say Yes to this next stage of my life. She asked me to travel, I said YES, and have been on some amazing trips through COVID. We visited Key West, Orlando, the Maldives, where we got to eat at an underwater restaurant, France, Iceland, Ecuador and the Galapagos.

Underwater restaurant

She loves music and invited me to concerts, I have never been to a rock concert in my life, I said YES and we went to see the Doobie Brothers 50th Anniversary Concert Tour. we saw a Bruce Springsteen Tribute Band, and got to listen after three years of waiting the The Ringo Starr All Star Band. It encouraged me to get tickets for Andrea Bocelli and The Two Cellos and Annie said YES.

Ringo Starr and his All Starr Band

We have had some amazing meals and wines with new and old friends because we said YES. I have made many new friends as a result of meeting this wonderful woman who is still part of a Dinner Club after forty years with nearly all the original members; a wine and dinner club who meet monthly where we have had the chance to sample some fabulous wines from amazing vintages.

Now, I have the chance to begin a new adventure together with her as husband and wife and I am so grateful and excited. So, all I can encourage you is to say YES because you never know what you might experience and life is short. And I will be saying YES and I know she is going to be saying YES too on Sunday when we have our ceremony. After which we shall have another adventure to share with you all on my return.

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Nick Vandekar
Nick is a Tredyffrin Easttown Residential and Commercial REALTOR selling The Main Line, Chester, Delaware and Montgomery Counties.

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Downingtown , PA 19335
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Comments (50)

Gloria Todor
Premier Property Sales & Rentals - Springfield, PA
& Doug Durren (484) 431-3686 in SE PA

Nick, We only live once!  Best to have no regrets.  Good for you!  All the best in the next chapter in your life!

Nov 17, 2022 07:32 AM
Jerry Newman
Brown Realty, 210-789-4216, - San Antonio, TX
Texas REALTOR, San Antonio Military Relocation

Congratulations, Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 to and Annie. Best Wishes for your upcoming wedding, and may you live the life of your dreams. Your relationship sounds like a match made in heaven. 

Nov 17, 2022 08:10 AM
Eileen Burns 954.483.3912
Trans State Commercial Realty Inc. - Fort Lauderdale, FL
FLorida Real Estate Connector

Such a sweet love story Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 Glad Hannah posted q/a today so we did not have to wait for Kathy or Carol later in the week.  Many healthy and happy years together you lovebirds!  Enjoy the celebration and the honeymoon.  We will look forward to seeing you in the new year😍

Nov 17, 2022 09:03 AM
Ginger Harper
Coldwell Banker Sea Coast Advantage~ Ginger Harper Real Estate Team - Southport, NC
Your Southport~Oak Island Agent~Brunswick County!

Such Joy. Thanks for sharing.

Nov 17, 2022 11:49 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Gloria Todor thank you, this is an exciting chapter and looking forward to it.

Jerry Newman thank you, and for the well wishes too.

Eileen Burns very excited and looking forward to it, still so much to do. thank you.

Nov 17, 2022 11:49 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Ginger Harper thank you so much.

Nov 17, 2022 12:52 PM
Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

I used to think i had to say yes to everyone. It took a fall through a deck to realize who appreciated all those "yesses". Now i pick and choose and are not afraid to say no. CONGRATULATIONS on the upcoming wedding 

Nov 17, 2022 01:14 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Nick good for you and yes I believe YES is better than NO any day of the week...Congratulations that she wants you ..... Endre

Nov 17, 2022 10:33 PM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Nick, I call my wife and myself recycled couple as we were both married before and both had hesitancy about getting re-married. But, when you find a person that makes you feel special and you want to spend as much time with them as you possibly can, and also get to see that special smile on their face, you know you have to make the commitment. Best wished to both of you

Nov 18, 2022 06:26 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Scott Godzyk I know there is a balance, but a lot of people take it too far and say No to everything and miss out on life.

Endre Barath, Jr. I am smiling at your comment, Congratulations that she wants you...very good.

Ed Silva that sums it up really well, thank you.

Nov 18, 2022 09:38 AM
June Piper-Brandon
Coldwell Banker Realty - Columbia, MD
Creating Generational Wealth Through Homeownership

Nick, I can't agree more.  Sometimes saying yes opens us up to some very liberating and special opportunities.  

Nov 18, 2022 02:10 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Nick,

Good for you and Annie! I'm so happy for you!!Isn't it amazing what an YES answer can do for you! Opens up a whole new world!

Nov 18, 2022 08:04 PM
Elyse Berman, PA
LoKation Real Estate - Boca Raton, FL
Boca Raton FL (561) 716-7824

Congratulations Nick to you and Annie!  I'm so happy for you.  When you get to this stage of life, it is indeed a blessing to say yes.  Enjoy all your days saying yes.

Nov 19, 2022 11:40 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

This is the day! Congratulations to you and Annie on saying YES to making the most of life together!

Nov 20, 2022 08:12 AM
Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI
HomeSmart Real Estate - Scottsdale, AZ
Arizona Homes and Land Group/ Buy or Sell

Off on the next great adventure Nick. May God's blessings, peace and grace go with you and Ann. Jeff

Nov 20, 2022 07:58 PM
Diana Dahlberg
1 Month Realty - Pleasant Prairie, WI
Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563

Congatulations are the order of the day and I wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed your blog!  YES is the way to go, especially in a world where people are retreating and removing themselves from the mainstream of things.  Not you!  You are a Yes Man because you have found the Yes Woman and I am more than happy for you.  Best Wishes!  Now and Forever! Yes!

Nov 29, 2022 01:09 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

June Piper-Brandon unless you say Yes, you never know what you may be missing.

Dorie Dillard Austin TX that is so true, thank you.

Elyse Berman, PA I am seizing the days.

Carol Williams it was a wonderful day.

Dec 06, 2022 06:23 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI everything went smoothly, a great day, thanks for your best wishes and good thoughts.

Diana Dahlberg I have never been a shrinking violet and am always willing to dive in and see where it leads me.

Dec 06, 2022 06:24 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 - There are times in our life when it takes courage to say yes. I am delighted to learn you said yes. Annie sounds perfect! Congratulations to a beautiful couple that will never doubt the power of love. 

Dec 13, 2022 12:30 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP she is one amazing lady and extremely loving and caring, wonderful qualities in any person.

Dec 14, 2022 03:58 PM