Well, it's back to school time. You know what that means, lunchboxes, getting up and OUT the door on time AND the dreaded homework!
My boys started a brand new school today in a brand new city. We moved to New Braunfels, Texas about 3 months ago.
So, let's just say that my little one (well, he's 9yrs old...but still my baby!) didn't get much sleep last night and was VERY nervous when we showed up. It started in the car as I was driving him. I asked if he wanted to go in by himself. The answer was "yes, I'm fine Mom". The closer we got to the school it turned into "can you come in with me?" (This is the question that I was secretly wishing for...I hear from other parents that in a couple of years I will no longer be invited:))
We parked the car and walked up (let me set the scene: parents everywhere, cars illegally parked, cameras flashing, video cameras also, everyone is wearing brand new clothes..I thought I was in Hollywood for a second). As we walked up I reminded him that the best way to meet someone is to walk up to them and introduce yourself. I mentioned to him that should he not have a lunch mate that if someone was already sitting down to ask if he could join them (he was unaware that I had put in his lunchbox a bag that had 3 cookies that said "2 for you, 1 to share with a new friend"). So, this little scenario that I was trying to set up in advance would work! I lingered on and on about how he had always made friends before and this would be the same. How he needed to be BOLD and reach out to someone if he wanted success! (I'm sure all he heard from me was: blah, blah, blah).
Then I watched my "baby" walk into his classroom.
I left and went to the office and was thinking about all of my words of "wisdom" that I had bestowed upon this young mind that I'm helping to shape. And I realized that I was asking him to be BOLD and step out of his comfort zone. To be the first to reach out. To intentionally engage someone for the purpose of what he perceived to be his success for this first day of school.
It dawned on me that I was asking my son to DO AS I SAY AND NOT AS I DO. I thought "okay, miss smarty pants" when was the last time that I had done something BOLD? When did I step out of my comfort zone? What have I done lately that has rattled my cage? (so, to speak. They let me out every so often.)
I prospect all the time that's a no brain-er. I'm talking about few other ideas (floating around this head of mine) that I have that "might" come my way and then they "might" not if I don't make them happen. There are a few contacts that I have been wanting to make. A few contracts that I have been wanting to write. Yet, I haven't put my cookies in order to have the opportune time to have it happen. Why? I never have made the point of stepping up and asking someone to help me with it. Nor to negotiate an opportune time when I might have a chance to be a part of something.
I planned TODAY to make a plan, yes a plan, and make 2 phone calls by the end of this week. These 2 phone calls might not lead me right down the path that I'm looking for, but who knows where it will lead? It might lead me closer to my PLAN or it might lead me to a better one! The point is that I need to remind myself to also DO AS I SAY and step out of my circle and possibly into someone else's.
So, I ask you my compadres...When was the last time that you stood up to the plate and took a swing? When did you intentionally make something happen in your world? Are you waiting for it to happen to you.... or are you going to go out and get it? !
My Son came home today and I asked about the cookies. He said that he had lunch with 3 new friends and didn't know which one to give the cookie to (and didn't want to hurt the rest of the tables feelings)....so, he ATE the 3rd cookie! Wow, he got everything he wanted today AND the last cookie. Way to go!
p.s. one phone call down, 1 to go this week.
I would love it if you would share some of your BOLD moves with me.
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