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Real Estate Agent with Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 UT DRE# 6541633-SA00

No Comment Necessary. Just Click Off!

I recently read a post from a fellow blogger who wondered whether her posts were good enough to send out, and another, where a recently featured blogger received some undeserved nasty comments...well, that led me to write this in response.

 

I quit participating in another realtor driven web site blog because there was no mediation and it was a free-for-all for rude, obnoxious posters who often intimidated others by attacking them personally or calling names in order to incite a response! They could have just clicked off!

 

There is no reason to post flippant, demeaning or offensive remarks on someones blog just because it ‘isn't your style' or you have a differing opinion. Find your own comfort zone among your peer groups and comment and post to your heart's content. Or if your style is to be antagonistic and argumentative, then there are groups out there that are very accommodating. Find them and join them! After all, there are over 5000 groups here on ActiveRain.

 

When someone takes the time to put something into words and put it out there, it means something to them and that should be respected. My grandfather always said, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all!" And to this day, this quote still helps me to refrain from saying what I really would like to say at times! And if you don't like my post or my blog, no comment necessary.

 

Please...just click off.

 

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Buying or selling a home in southern Utah? I can help with your residential real estate needs because Wanda Can! 435.632.9374 or wanda@buynsellutah.com.

  

A portion of every successful transaction of mine goes to Bed 'n' Biscuits to help fund Switchpoint, a local homeless shelter.

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Comments(150)

Diane Rice
Rice Prprty Mgmnt & Rlty, LLC, South Holland, IL - Lansing, IL
SFR, SRES, CNC

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Nov 23, 2009 06:15 AM
Diane Rice
Rice Prprty Mgmnt & Rlty, LLC, South Holland, IL - Lansing, IL
SFR, SRES, CNC

HOW's THIS?    zipped-lip.jpg&w=200&h=210 ...

Nov 23, 2009 06:16 AM
Diane Rice
Rice Prprty Mgmnt & Rlty, LLC, South Holland, IL - Lansing, IL
SFR, SRES, CNC

HOW's THIS?    zipped-lip.jpg&w=200&h=210 ...

Nov 23, 2009 06:16 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Wow! That really says it all without saying a word! Ha-ha! Thanks Diane!

Nov 23, 2009 06:52 AM
Jenny Kotulak
RE/MAX Real Estate Centre Inc., Brokerage - Oakville, ON
Broker - Oakville Ontario Real Estate

Well Ms. Wanda,

Look what I have missed while I have been busy replying to comments.  I find it interesting that we both touched on the same subject and had close to 300 comments between us with very few members commenting on both blog posts.

That tells me there are plenty of folks out there that feel the same way.  As I said in my post, I think I was barking up the wrong tree because most commenters felt the same way, as do the majority of your commenters.

How do you reach those who feel they can leave rude, uncalled for comments in other's posts?  I don't think we do unfortunately.  We can try to call them out but I don't think they care.

What bothers me is when a bully  intimidates a newer member.  Don't they remember what it was like to be new?  Blogging isn't easy but everyone could use some encouragement.  My advice to the couple of new bloggers above, if I may Madam Chair lol, is to find posts you enjoy and follow those writers.  Learn lots from the Newbies group.  Join other groups that interest you.  Keep commenting on posts.  You will get a following and everything will fall into place.

Sorry to hijack your post Wanda.  Congratulations on the feature kiddo.

 

Nov 23, 2009 04:24 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

I think we are alike in our way of thinking regarding this subject and Haris's post is why I finally decide to do this one. I had it in draft for quite some time (due to a prior post) and kept adding to it until I could make it a positive one. New members should be welcomed with open arms and helped along the way when necessary. You can hijack my post any day and I hope to be as gracious as you someday! Thank you Jenny!

Nov 24, 2009 12:41 AM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
Wordpress for Real Estate & Design, Print HaMedia Group

Wanda - congrats on the feature.  I must say I am rather surprised that my comment on Haris's post has now apparently inspired two featured posts...  I will simply reiterate a few things I stated on Jenny's post on the subject, if I may.  

I don't think the idea of "just clicking off" or not saying anything unless we have something nice to say is a viable one for ANY social network.  Social Networks, even and maybe especialy professional ones strive and grow on conversations.  Pats on the backs and 'atta-boy' comments hardly ever result in meaningful discussion on any subject. 

My apologies to Haris, once again, for my less than tactful assessment of his idea of reciprocity when it comes to Real Estate transactions, but I stand by my sentiments.  I don't believe it was a personal attack on my part, and less questioning the gold star, I wouldn't not retract anything I said.

What I find fascinating is that so many people feel inspired to make comments on these two posts without the benefit of any context, and that it's by design. 

Now, if I may answer Jenny's question as to how to reach out to the 'rude' contingent - I would imagine the first step would be to not blog about those members behind their back, just veiled enough to be technically in the right, but not so vague as we can't identify our own words...

Nov 24, 2009 03:51 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Inna, My post was originally inspired by another member, not you as I said in my response to Jenny. (I had it in draft for quite some time (due to a prior post) and kept adding to it until I could make it a positive one.) And just like everyone else, you are entitled to your opinion just as I am.

Nov 24, 2009 05:39 AM
Claude Cross
Homes By Cross, Inc. - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte NC Homes For Sale

Wanda - Boy did you put it out there in clean clear prose. Nicely done ! I am here on AR to glean information from exceptional people and to promote my own business. Thought provoking posts are fine. However civility must reign. I too click off when I see the frazzled response of a foul hand. Cheers

Nov 24, 2009 06:01 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

I am here for many of the same reasons you are and I'm 100% with you regarding civility. Thanks Claude!

Nov 24, 2009 06:32 AM
Al & Peggy Cunningham, Brokers
RE/MAX West Realty Inc., Brokerage - Brampton, ON
Our Family Wants To Help Your Family!

Hey Wanda, my Grandmother used to say the same thing as your Grandfather.  My Mom says the "least said, sooner mended"    

Nov 29, 2009 12:40 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Like the Golden Rule, these teachings are timeless and are worth passing on. Your mom's is short and to the point. Thanks Al & Peggy!

Nov 29, 2009 03:54 AM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Thanks for posting this, it is a good reminder that needs to be said often in this and any online or offline community.

Mar 14, 2017 11:40 PM
Nathan Gesner
American West Realty and Management - Cody, WY
Broker / Property Manager

One thing I like about ActiveRain: civil discourse! Thanks for the article!

Mar 15, 2017 04:41 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

You are welcome Bob Crane. Glad you think so! There are some who seek out posts to disparage as we have noticed in the past rather than have a discussion.

Mar 15, 2017 06:15 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Another reason to be here in the Rain Nathan Gesner, where you can post an opinion, have a conversation whether we agree or not!

Mar 15, 2017 06:16 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Wanda. You are on the money with this. There is enough strife in this world without nastiness here.

Mar 15, 2017 07:33 AM
Kasey & John Boles
Jon Gosche Real Estate, LLC - BoiseMeridianRealEstate.com - Boise, ID
Boise & Meridian, ID Ada/Canyon/Gem/Boise Counties

Here from Praful's reblog.  Sometimes people can just be so mean online with little repercussions.  Discussion is good, nastiness is not okay. -Kasey

Mar 15, 2017 08:13 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Thank you for your supportive comment Sheila Anderson, much appreciated!

Mar 15, 2017 03:40 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Glad Praful Thakkar re-blogged this message. Social media can be a free-for-all caustic environment due to people hiding behind the keyboard, I do agree Kasey & John Boles and the team at Jon Gosche Real Estate, LLC. AR has zero tolerance for personal attacks, thankfully!

Mar 15, 2017 03:44 PM