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One Awe Sh*t Wipes Out 1000 Attaboys (or Girls)

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Real Estate Agent with Retired

In August of 1982 I took my first management job, in San Francisco, running a computer maintenance group that handled the banks and other financial institutions. One of the first things my new boss told me, which I remember clearly to this day is to not forget Chuck's (that was my bosses name) First Rule of Management: One Awe Sh*t Will Wipe Out 1000 Attaboys.

It took me awhile to truly understand this but, after managing the group and the clients for several months it was firmly drilled into my brain. No matter how good the service we gave on a day to day basis, no matter how many crises we curtailed, they only remembered the last time someone screwed up. The last time service was less than stellar. The last time someone couldn't keep an appointment. The last time someone missed a commitment.

So what does that have to do with real estate? Thanks for asking! The same thing it had to do with computer service in 1982. Our clients, our customers, our referrals, all only remember the time we screwed up. Most of them only deal with us once. Some, if we are lucky, you know, the Gary Player kind of luck, where you work at being lucky good, remember us, they come to us again the next time they want to buy or sell. They refer us to their friends, their families.

But, if we screw up, we can forget that referral, we can forget them coming back to us. We can only hope that they forget to mention that we screwed up.

But you know that all of us good agents never screw up. Right. And can I sell you the real estate that goes with that bridge?

So how do we get around it? How do we prevent getting the 179 things we did right from getting wiped out by the one thing we might have screwed up? How do we make it positive.

Which brings me to Chuck's (remember, my boss) Second Rule of Management: Don't Be Afraid to Fall On the Sword. Sounds painful, doesn't it. And yes, it is. Too often pride prevents us from admitting mistakes, especially to ourselves. But we have to get in front of it. We have to be pro-active. We have to admit to and sincerely apologize for them, and let the other parties know what we are going to do to fix it, and when. We have to remember not to blame others. Other agents. Other people. Other things.

And, if we are fortunate, its not a big mistake that we have made that will cost our clients money, or perhaps even the deal. Those, we might have a tough time getting around.

So, no matter how many awards on your wall; no matter how many times you are in the $Million club; no matter how many closed deals; no matter whatever; just remember One Awe Sh*t Will Wipe Out 1000 Attaboys. And try not to step in it!

Mike Saunders
Retired - Athens, GA

Thanks for all the comments. I see that we are all of like minds on this. Nick, thanks for the feature in Silent Majority.

May 17, 2010 02:47 AM
Bill Gillhespy
16 Sunview Blvd - Fort Myers Beach, FL
Fort Myers Beach Realtor, Fort Myers Beach Agent - Homes & Condos

Morning Mike,  Part of being a seasoned real estate professional agent is the ability to look the customer in the eye and admit a mistake.  Well done !

May 17, 2010 04:13 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Mike,

Great post, I agree with you, admit the mistake--it actually raises your esteem in the eyes of the customer.  There is nothing worse than someone who whon't admit a mistake or tries to blame someone for it.

May 17, 2010 04:51 AM
Sajy Mathew
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Lancaster, PA
Making your real estate dreams become a reality!

Boy is this true!  Got to show and shine at every opportunity.  All the accolades do not mean anything to a distressed client.

May 17, 2010 04:53 AM
Sajy Mathew
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Lancaster, PA
Making your real estate dreams become a reality!

Boy is this true!  Got to show and shine at every opportunity.  All the accolades do not mean anything to a distressed client.

May 17, 2010 04:53 AM
Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

Great points Mike.  Lately I've been reading similar posts about how we handle these little problems that arise.  Falling on the sword is a good analogy and I know for myself 1 mistake wipes out quite a few good things.  :-)  Step lightly and go forward!

May 17, 2010 05:05 AM
Laurie Gibson
Windermere Powerhouse Group - Caldwell, ID
SFR, Canyon County Real Estate

Great post,  Especially about admitting your mistakes.  Being up front and honest builds trust and client loyalty.

May 17, 2010 05:21 AM
Ted Tyndall
Davidson Realty Inc. - Saint Augustine, FL
I will help You find the Home YOU want to Buy

Mike, if you go ahead and admit the mistakes and learn from them at least the next customer has no knowlege of your experience.

May 17, 2010 06:52 AM
Marian Goetzinger
Pine Knoll Shores Realty 252-422-9000 - Pine Knoll Shores, NC
Crystal Coast Real Estate NC

Hey Mike.  How did you know this would be the day I desperately need this blog?!  Thank you, thank you, thank you.

 

Now the problem is I went ahead and fell on the sword and that's still not enough.  They want me to pull it out every day and fall on it again and again.  They need to beat me up and stab me to death and then revive me and do it again.  Ouch!

May 17, 2010 08:30 AM
Mike Saunders
Retired - Athens, GA

Marian - sometimes it will never be enough, even a difficult transaction that is perfectly handled. Some people will never be satisfied. As to how did I know, well, if I told you I would have to fall on the sword;^)

May 17, 2010 12:02 PM
Mike Saunders
Retired - Athens, GA

Erica - some times it takes a few more than just one awe sh!t to get us to change, if we have patience and understanding

May 17, 2010 04:36 PM
Jay Markanich
Jay Markanich Real Estate Inspections, LLC - Bristow, VA
Home Inspector - servicing all Northern Virginia

Just don't fall on the sword for someone else's screw up - like underlings do for "presidents..."

May 18, 2010 03:27 AM
Mike Saunders
Retired - Athens, GA

Jay - sometimes you have to do it for those who work for you, or represent you. Then, after its all over, you pull it out and chop their heads off with it.

May 18, 2010 03:34 AM
Trey Thurmond
BCR Realtors - College Station, TX
College Station , Texas Homes

Mike

This is certainly one of your best posts . I will remember the great lesson here.

May 18, 2010 04:43 PM
Mike Saunders
Retired - Athens, GA

Trey - thanks for you nice words

May 19, 2010 01:43 AM
Damon Gettier
Damon Gettier & Associates, REALTORS- Roanoke Va Short Sale Expert - Roanoke, VA
Broker/Owner ABRM, GRI, CDPE

Mike you are so correct!  Just being truthful when something goes wrong can be the smartest, easiest thing to do.

May 19, 2010 10:55 AM
Michael Delaware
North Sky Realty LLC - Battle Creek, MI
REALTORĀ®, CRS, GRI

Unfortunately, mistakes happen.  I have come to learn to look at that as 'tuition' and move on.  If you don't take the education you receive from the mistake, you will be there again, and after awhile it gets real expensive.

May 20, 2010 02:47 AM
Bryant Tutas
Tutas Towne Realty, Inc and Garden Views Realty, LLC - Winter Garden, FL
Selling Florida one home at a time

Mike I actually screw up quite frequently. I admit it. Make it right if I can. Then move forward. 

 There is no doubt in my mind that we can recover from mistakes quickly if we take responsibility for them. many folks don;lt get that and chose to run away or just expect time to heal it. Time only heals if we put a salve on first.

May 20, 2010 10:55 AM
Bill Travis
Captain Bill Realty, LLC - Gilbert, AZ
Broker/Owner

When I was flying for Pan Am, the pilot who made the landing had to go stand in the doorway to say goodbye to the passengers. If it was a rough landing he had to explain it.

May 21, 2010 11:22 AM
Mike Saunders
Retired - Athens, GA

Damon - being up front is what it's about

Michael - if we don't learn from history and mistakes (now that is redundant) what do we learn from?

Bryant - we can't recover from everything but, as you say, if we move honestly and quickly we can fix most

Bill - interesting approach, no pun intended

May 22, 2010 01:47 AM