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On the Passing of Harrison Town Clerk Joseph Acocella Jr.

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Managing Real Estate Broker with Howard Hanna Rand Realty License # 49FA1074963

This morning I read a brief tribute online from Westchester County Executive Rob Astorino to Joseph Acocella, the town clerk of nearby Harrison, NY who had passed away. I get notices on the loss of Realtors and public officials with some regularity, so I just assumed Mr. Acocella was someone who was older. Who would expect otherwise.  

In logging onto the Journal News, however, I found out that Joe was just 30, and had battled health challenges his whole life. This hits close to home for me- my older brother Paul also died young-too young- after a lifetime of fighting, battling, and overcoming diabetes, kidney failure, a temporarily successful kidney/pancreas transplant, and many other issues, one setback after another. The story had a picture of a wheelchair bound Acocella - a double amputee- on his job as clerk, looking forward. 

Only 30. He was the youngest New Yorker ever elected to a town clerk position in 2007, and he distinguished himself by modernising the town system and putting town records online (something people like me really appreciate). And he did all this despite being on dialysis 3 days per week, which if you are unfamiliar, is utterly exhausting. My brother sometimes needed a day to recover from dialysis, and he wasn't much older than Mr. Acocella.

To distinguish onceself in such a public position despite such physical challenges is really heroic. It takes a very special person. And in a time when we are confronted by bad news all around, it is a reminder that we have good, good people in our midst, and we should appreciate their contribution more than we do. According to the local Patch.com, he was a Fordham guy as well who was a leader going all the way back to high school despite the percieved roadblocks. What an inspiring person. I really wish I knew this guy. I have said it before and I'll say it again: sometimes God takes his best work back early. 

Anne M. Costello
Weidel Realtors - Yardley, PA

"Sometimes God takes back his best work early" - what a wonderful way to convey your sense of loss.  In this time of incivility in government and the always present "what's in it for me" culture that is so prevalent today, it is refreshing to learn of someone who faced great person challenges to promote the general welfare. Condolences to his family and to Harrison. He will be missed.

On a more personal note, your comments on your brother's challenges are always heartfelt and poignant. I am sorry for your loss.

Aug 08, 2011 11:34 PM
J. Philip Faranda
Howard Hanna Rand Realty - Yorktown Heights, NY
Associate Broker / Office Manager

Thanks Anne. At some point I'll write more about Paul Faranda, but suffice to say that he'll always be my hero. 

Paul and me circa 1969

Aug 09, 2011 12:54 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning J. Philip. What a lovely and eloquent tribute to someone you didn't know. I am touched by this story and by your reflections of your brother also gone too soon. You are right to focus on the good around us. Thanks for the reminder.

Aug 09, 2011 01:10 AM
Mona Gersky
MoonDancer Realty, Dillsboro,NC - Sylva, NC
GRI,IMSD-Taking the mystery out of real estate.

J. Phillip, just before reading your post, I visited Lori Bowers who celebrates her 58th birthday today. She reflected on special things that she's greatful for...like still having her parents.  This 30 year old man made so many contributions that affected the lives of many just as your brother did.  The photo of you and your brother brings tears to my eyes and I know that only the most special people can be heroes.

Aug 09, 2011 10:08 AM
Susan Mangigian
RE/MAX Preferred - West Chester, PA
Chester & Delaware County Homes, Delaware and Ches

Phil, the photo of you and your brother Paul made my eyes fill up.  This is a lovely tribute.  I scrolled down to comment on your "you know you're an agent" post and saw this and decided to comment here.  Very nice.  Thank you for honoring this man. 

Aug 10, 2011 01:46 PM