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What can we learn from this?

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A new twist on just taking your ball and going home!

 

Sadly our season of observing grandsons playing little league has been plagued with some dismal displays of poor sportsmanship.

 

The poor conduct is not from the young players, but  from one of the coaches from the opposing team (now granted our coach did not take the high road on this one either!)  What sort of example is that setting?

 

Last weeks game was a second contest between our team and an opposition who had played poorly a few weeks ago.  The result was that we won the game by a large score.  

 

I wondered at the time if perhaps there should be some rule by which when too large a score had been run up,  the game would just be gently over and both teams could just practice for the remaining time.

 

This time the score was once again lopsided in favor of our team.  The opposing coach made a mockery of the coaching by yelling obscenities at our coach and the umpire.  His tactics did not improve the playing skills on either side.

 

As the game progressed his additude became more and more objectionable.

 

Then as the teams changed positions on the field at the beginning of the fourth inning,  the yelling coach screamed at the umpire.  " We want to just forfeit... Let them win!"

 

The umpire went to seek counsel and was told by an official that it would be alright.

 

So,  the take home lesson from the game was " if you are behind,  just quit?". Clearly this was a case of take your team and go home when things do not suit you.". Not the way to let youngsters experience winning!


So..... what can we learn from this?  We can learn that life is sometimes not fair and others sometimes play the game better and we can learn to sharpen our skills and get back in the game and compete better!!  That's what winners do!  Which are you?

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Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
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It is considered poor sportsmanship to "run up the score".   College and Pro Teams will play 2nd, 3rd, 4th strings when they get way ahead.  But what does a team do when there are no 2nd or 3rd strings?

It is equally poor sportsmanship for the Losing Coach to throw a temper tantrum and stomp off the field.  This guy should be put out of The League.

Mar 27, 2012 12:02 PM
John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
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This is a shame and disgrace for all involved.  Real winners take the high road at all times.  Period.

Mar 27, 2012 12:51 PM
Bruce Hicks
Best Homes Hawaii - Honolulu, HI
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When I was young, 6-7-8 years, I went to a baseball game to watch my older friend play.  My friend did good, for an elementary schooler but then I saw the bad side.  I saw parents yelling at their child, that they didn't throw right, they didn't bat well enough or they argued with the other parents.  After that I was scarred for life.  I did not want to play any organized team sports after that.  I would still play with friends but not where the parents would be in charge.

Mar 27, 2012 01:28 PM
Lisa Von Domek
Lisa Von Domek Team - Dallas, TX
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Good morning Jeanne and Ralph,

What a sad example that was set for these youngsters, adults are supposed to lead (well) by their examples.  Those adults need to be thrown out of the game for life!

Mar 27, 2012 09:44 PM
Ralph Janisch ABR CRS Broker
Janisch & Co. - Conroe, TX
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Fred, In this league they limit the score to 7 runs per inning and as soon as it becomes mathmatically impossible for one of the teams to actually win in the amount of innings or time allotted the game is automatically called.  Neither situation occurred here.  This was simply a case of the opposing coach getting his panties in a wad.  I agree that the coach should be banned for life.  And, our coach should have taken the high road and not become involved in the fray.

 

John, I agree.  It would have shown true leadership and courage if our coach would have taken the high road.

 

Bruce, that's precisely my point in this case.  I'm sure some of the kids will remember this and be turned off by the coaches behavior.  I hope not but I suspect that it will.

 

Lisa,  I agree.  I would like to see even the pro's banned for life when they act like jerks too.

 

I believe that you work hard, play to your maximum potential and then accept the outcome.  If you don't win go figure out why and do better next time.

Mar 27, 2012 11:33 PM
Joshua Zargari
MJ Decorators Workshop LI staging and home decorating - Lynbrook, NY
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A bad example indeed.

Mar 28, 2012 03:05 AM
Kathy Sheehan
Bay Equity, LLC 770-634-4021 - Atlanta, GA
Senior Loan Officer

If I coach isn't displaying the right attitude and sportsmanship, he shouldn't be coaching, in my opinion.

Mar 29, 2012 10:35 AM
John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
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I wanted to stop by to say thanks for supporting my posts with your comments and wish you both a grand weekend ahead in all you do! 

Mar 30, 2012 01:40 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
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Whoa. You raised such memories for me with this post. My daughter played softball all through her school years...involved in ASA - it was a big deal. But, it should have been about positive aspects of sports and competition. Sadly it was parents, and over zealous coaches who often brought out the "ugly" side of athletics.

Mar 30, 2012 01:52 AM
Ralph Janisch ABR CRS Broker
Janisch & Co. - Conroe, TX
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Kathy.  I absolutely agree!

John, Thanks for stopping by!!  I hope your weekend is fabulously productive!!

Debb, you are absolutely right.  Sports can be wonderfully positive for many kids.  It all depends on the attitudes of the parents and coaches.  In the above case I'm sure some of the kids will be scarred for life by having witnessed the fiasco.

Mar 30, 2012 02:12 AM
Kristine Ginsberg
Elite Staging and Redesign, LLC - Short Hills, NJ
NJ Home Stager

Jeanne & Ralph - it's never the kids that act up during sports, it's always the parents and coaches. Just goes to show you!

Mar 30, 2012 02:24 AM
Ralph Janisch ABR CRS Broker
Janisch & Co. - Conroe, TX
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Kristine,  for the most part you are absolutely right.  I've seen a couple of kids over the years who act out but I'm guessing that's what they see at home and they are the ones who grow up to be the jerks who sometimes coach our kids and grandkids.  But that said.... there are many wonderful and positive coaches and assistants out there and they far outweigh the bad apples.

Mar 30, 2012 02:34 AM