Active Rain Challenge: What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger

Industry Observer with Swanepoel T3 Group

Life is full of difficulties, but setbacks and challenges can be the foundation for success. Adversity actually can make people stronger and healthier. The ability to cope with adversity -- to thrive when life is difficult, to get back up when you've been knocked down -- is called resilience.

You don't have to be born with the capacity for resilience, it can be can be learned at any age by studying how other people overcame unusual stress or difficulties.  

This blogging challenge is about becoming more resilient by learning from each other.

Write about a situation that was unusually difficult for you to manage. Describe the situation and then "road map" what you did to solve the problem, save the deal, or live to fight another day. Be specific about the activities you performed, the people you consulted, what worked out and what didn't.

The situation you write about doesn't have to be one of life's great dilemmas. Lots of things we do every day test our mental, ethical and endurance boundaries.

Here's some ideas for topics :

- Your client, partner, team member or brokerage behaved unethically or illegally

- Your family or a significant other didn't support you, your career choice or an important decision

- Dilemmas with representation, dual agency, fair housing

- Working with clients going through major life changes

These are just a few ideas -- write about whatever you've accomplished that other people can learn from. Don't be modest...strut your stuff. Inspiration Here.

The Challenge  

Write a minimum 300 word post and post the link as a comment here by 11:59 pm Pacific Time on September 30, 2012. 

All posts will be awarded 500 points.

Please include this at the bottom of your post: This post is an entry in the Active Rain Challenge: What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger. 

The Winners 

3 posts will be recognized for as being the most inspiring, the most well-written, or the most helpful to other members. The winning posts will be featured on Active Rain and will receive additional bonus points: 

1st Place 2000 points     2nd Place 1500 points     3rd place 1000 points

The judges will be me and my esteemed colleagues J Philip Faranda and Bill Spear. We'll probably lean towards real estate-related topics for contest winners. We look forward to learning from each of you and are grateful to everyone who shares their stories.

PS: This contest was inspired by a book I just read called Rebounders: How Winners Pivot From Setback to Success. It's not your typical self-help book, it was useful and inspiring. I highly recommend it. I'll send copies to people whose posts personally inspire me.



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Evelyn Kennedy
Alain Pinel Realtors - Alameda, CA
Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA


Here I am submitting my contest post on the last day again.  What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

My posts is not as dramatic as some of the other posts but it was a very stressful situation to me.

Sep 30, 2012 12:37 PM #197
Tanya Van Blake-Coleman
Van Blake-Coleman Realty, St. Thomas/ - St Thomas, VI
Improving the Quality of Your Life

Here is my entry in the contest : What Doesn't Kill You Will Make You stronger

Sep 30, 2012 12:41 PM #198
Sharon Parisi
United Real Estate Dallas - Dallas, TX
Dallas Homes
Sep 30, 2012 01:49 PM #199
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale
Sep 30, 2012 02:06 PM #200
Leslie Ebersole
Swanepoel T3 Group - Saint Charles, IL
I help brokers build businesses they love.

I've made it as far as Laura #196 and I am so impressed by everyone here. I'm signing off but I'll read more in the morning...I see 5 more in the last few minutes. Two hours to go...I, too am always "just under the wire".

Good night friends, see you all in the morning. 

Sep 30, 2012 02:23 PM #201
Jon Kolsky
Kolsky Realty & Management - Long Beach, CA
Licensed California Real Estate Broker
Sep 30, 2012 02:41 PM #202
Debi Braulik - Maple Valley, WA
Selling Maple Valley to Fife WA Homes For Sale
Sep 30, 2012 02:46 PM #203
Tiffany Sniezek
RE/MAX The Woodlands & Spring, TX 713-594-9639 direct, - The Woodlands, TX
Tiffany Sniezek 713-594-9639 RE/MAX Woodlands TX
Sep 30, 2012 03:02 PM #204
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams fox cities - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Hi Leslie, I have been thinking about this blogging challenge for a while, and I hope I selected the best story for this blogging challenge.

Sep 30, 2012 04:24 PM #205
Bob & Leilani Souza
Souza Realty 916.408.5500 - Roseville, CA
Greater Sacramento Area Homes, Land & Investments

Here's my entry for this AR challenge...not my happiest story, but it's the truth:

The Greedy Landlords Didn't Kill Me, They Made Me Stronger


Sep 30, 2012 04:36 PM #206
Bill Dean
Haggerty Team St. Louis, Mo. - Fenton, MO
William Dean - Broker, Salesperson

Here's my entry, waited till Sunday and then got a call to show houses and took up my evening but I win the procrastinator award, yes?


Sep 30, 2012 04:38 PM #207
Liz and Bill Spear
RE/MAX Elite 513.520.5305 - Mason, OH
RE/MAX Elite Warren County OH (Cincinnati/Dayton)

It looks like the judges are going to have quite a few posts to read!  And there are some great stories in there too!

Sep 30, 2012 08:20 PM #208
Leslie Ebersole
Swanepoel T3 Group - Saint Charles, IL
I help brokers build businesses they love.
CONTEST IS CLOSED! We'll get back to you in a day or two. Thank you to everyone for sharing their stories. They are important for all of us to learn from.
Sep 30, 2012 10:26 PM #209
Florida Tolbert Team Keller Williams Advantage
Keller Williams Advantage III Realty in Lake Nona - Orlando, FL
Million $ Guild Cert Luxury Home KW Land Division


I had written this but someone commenting on it today told me I may not have entered it here in your comment section:


Port Saint Lucie Short Sales: Love them or hate them, but I get them completed UNTIL NOW!

Oct 01, 2012 11:18 AM #210
Leslie Ebersole
Swanepoel T3 Group - Saint Charles, IL
I help brokers build businesses they love.

Thanks Kevin, since you published it on 09/29 I'll include it. We always need another good short sale story where the men slay the dragons.

Oct 01, 2012 10:36 PM #211
Florida Tolbert Team Keller Williams Advantage
Keller Williams Advantage III Realty in Lake Nona - Orlando, FL
Million $ Guild Cert Luxury Home KW Land Division

Why thank you and boy could I curl your hair with the series of ranting texts that have came from Mr Turkey today when he was told before his home could resell, he has to pay to correct his damage.

Oct 02, 2012 11:08 AM #212
J. Philip Faranda
J. Philip Faranda (J. Philip R.E. LLC) Westchester County NY - Briarcliff Manor, NY

All I can say is how humbled I am at the resilience of the authors. Hemingway's ideal hero exhibited grace under pressure. Your narratives transcended that and then some.

Oct 04, 2012 10:08 PM #213
Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner
Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395 - Mission Viejo, CA
Orange County & Lake Arrowhead, CA (949)510-2395

Just wondering if you've posted the winners yet? I didn't get to all the entries, but working through them...

Oct 08, 2012 11:09 AM #214
Leslie Ebersole
Swanepoel T3 Group - Saint Charles, IL
I help brokers build businesses they love.

Karen, I think Kerrie will post them today. With a little bit of service up and down issues it took us a while to get go back and forth on picking the 3. There were so many good ones!


Oct 10, 2012 10:32 PM #215
Kerrie La Guardia
ActiveRain, Community Manager - Kirkland, WA
Let it Rain!

Oh wow, there were a ton of entries!  All the points have now been awarded, thank you so much for hosting this Leslie.  I've read quite a few and they are very empowering.

Oct 12, 2012 06:02 AM #216
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