Am I more Disciplined than you?
by Lori Ballen
by Definition:
Discipline by Wikipedia.com
In its original sense, discipline is systematic instruction intended to train a person, sometimes literally called a disciple, in a craft, trade or other activity
Webster defines Discipline as
orderly or prescribed conduct or pattern of behavior
orderly or prescribed conduct or pattern of behavior
Discipline as defined by Lori Ballen
A willingness to repeat a particular act or activity repetitively and consistently to achieve a particular goal.
The most commonly received facebook messages, emails, and calls that I get contain the question "How do you do it? How are you so disciplined?" or comments that say "I'm struggling with my discipline."
So the first thing I wonder is this - Is it REALLY a discipline issue? Or is it something else? Do you believe in what you are doing and in the end result? Do you care enough? Are you really more struggling with just taking action at all - The "Getting Started" of it more than the time on task? Are you keeping score? Do you know when you are winning??
Am I really a more disciplined person than you? No, I don't think so. I need to lose weight, but am struggling with the "discipline" of eating better and the "discipline" of excercise. Why? Because I don't yet care enough. That's it. Plain and simple. If I cared more about the end result, I would find the discipline to achieve the goal. But I can tell you this... Nobody every has to kick me in the rear to get me going. I am self motivated. And my guess is, that just that one adjective alone puts me ahead of most when it comes to activities that require discipiline. The key for me then, is making sure I know the PRIZE to keep myself motivated to achieve it.
I also am no more "wired" to be more disciplined than you. For those that understand the disc profile or AVA profile, I'm 100% D and I and a 7*8*1*4 on the AVA. What this means is yes, I'm probably more result oriented than many... but it also means I have the attention span of a new born baby and would rather stick toothpicks in my eyes than spend a lot of time on one particular task.
Am I really a more disciplined person than you? No, I don't think so. I need to lose weight, but am struggling with the "discipline" of eating better and the "discipline" of excercise. Why? Because I don't yet care enough. That's it. Plain and simple. If I cared more about the end result, I would find the discipline to achieve the goal. But I can tell you this... Nobody every has to kick me in the rear to get me going. I am self motivated. And my guess is, that just that one adjective alone puts me ahead of most when it comes to activities that require discipiline. The key for me then, is making sure I know the PRIZE to keep myself motivated to achieve it.
I also am no more "wired" to be more disciplined than you. For those that understand the disc profile or AVA profile, I'm 100% D and I and a 7*8*1*4 on the AVA. What this means is yes, I'm probably more result oriented than many... but it also means I have the attention span of a new born baby and would rather stick toothpicks in my eyes than spend a lot of time on one particular task.
But I do it... When I have a goal and understanding of what it means. I also find activities that will bring me the most enjoyment possible to get to that end goal. For example, in my Las Vegas Real Estate Business, I understand that if I pick up the phone, and call prospective customers, I'm likely to gain a lot of business. Guess what though, I won't do it! I bet I would if I could not find an alternative, but I did - I found Online Marketing and Offline Marketing and would prefer to find a niche audience, create a message and a product that appeals to that audience, and then find a way to get it to them in mass volume using print campaigns, blogging, classified ads, video marketing, press releases, and through Social Media. I call it www.TheBallenMethod.com and it works great for me. It's MUCH easier to spend time on task when you find something you enjoy doing.
When I was in Jr. High School, I wanted the #1 chair in my band/music class. I played the flute. And I understood that "winning" for me, would be that #1 chair. So I practiced - up to 6 hours a day. And I did not just practice the fun music, I practiced my scales. I measured the results. I measured my speed. I measured improvement and I saw the results. This made me want to come back each day until I knew I was the best. You know what happened? I earned that first chair. Of course then I realized there was nowhere else to go, nobody else to compete with, and no more chairs, so I did not sign back up the next year.
People often ask for my advice on their "Lack of Discipline"
In many cases, I find it's not a lack of discipline at all. Often times, I see it as a symptom of time management issues. There is too much to do and too little time to do it, so people wind up putting out fires instead of focusing on the things that matter most. They need to learn more about the skill of time blocking and of leverage.
In many cases, the problem is Focus. It has nothing to do with the task at hand, but everything to do with the environment. It's very hard to focus if the world directly around you is loud, and visually stimulating, and distracting.
In many cases, the problem is Focus. It has nothing to do with the task at hand, but everything to do with the environment. It's very hard to focus if the world directly around you is loud, and visually stimulating, and distracting.
In many cases, the problem is lack of purpose. Without determining what is really important, everything seems important and the things that really matter are get ignored. One has to find the purpose of the activity that they need to be more "disciplined about". Clarity.
"If I do ________ it will bring in __________ which does _________ for my family or does this for me. "
There must be real, tangible and measurable goals attached to the activity. There needs to be a scoreboard. Something that is measured clearly each day so that the results being attained are clear and there is then a feeling of accomplishment once that activity is complete. When you see these results and see that your purpose for doing those activities is met, it makes you start to WANT to to that activity more. It becomes less about "disclipine" and more about becoming result oriented.
And in many cases, the problem is a lack of a plan. Without a clear cut plan.. failure sticks around really closely. If you have a clearly written, visual plan of HOW you will do this activity, WHEN you will do this activity, and WHERE you will do this activity, and WHO will be involved in this activity (if any) and then tie in the purpose (end result) and the scoreboard (accountabiliy), your chance of success goes through the roof!
So ask yourself this question first "Am I really lacking Discipline? Are am I missing Passion, Purpose and A Plan?"
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