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How Foolishly We Waste Our Time and Money

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Real Estate Agent with KW at the Parks 651506396

How Foolishly We Waste Our Time and Money

The other day on the news, the television crews were filming the exploits of a few hearty souls who have already pitched their tents in a Best Buy parking lot; in anticipation of the huge savings they expect to reap on Black Friday. This is no small undertaking here in Ohio, since the days and nights are slipping into below freezing temperatures. If you are planning to spend a week in a parking lot, you need generators, and heaters. You also need someone to spell you a bit while you go to work, or the bathroom. Some of the people have even planned their vacations around this new form of waiting in line.

Seeing all this made me sad. Oh sure, I get the whole commerce aspect of the holidays. A great deal of money needs to change hands in order for companies to make money and therefore…keep people employed. I get the whole capitalism thing, but it makes me sad none-the-less.

I am 64 years old. That’s not ancient, and it certainly doesn’t give me sage status…but it does give me perspective. I have fifty-plus holiday seasons to reflect upon, and you know what is interesting? I can count on one hand all the Christmas presents I received as a boy that I can still remember. There was my Robby the Robot; which had a cable connected to it that you cranked to make it “walk”. I can remember my Davy Crockett metal fort with little plastic Indians and frontiersmen. I can remember a slot car set that I found under my parent’s bed prior to Christmas; which I played with every time my parents needed to leave the house to do more Christmas shopping. I remember the slot car set because I learned a valuable lesson-it’s more fun opening up a gift on Christmas morning that you haven’t already played with!!

I also remember a chemistry set my older brother bought me for Christmas. I remember it  because I was shopping with him and his future wife when he purchased it. That chemistry set was important, not because it was a gift, but because it was associated with a wonderful evening I spent with the two of them. That night they made me feel special…I wasn’t a clunky little brother that they had to drag along with them that night while my parents were out doing something.

What pops into my head these days, when I think of Thanksgiving and Christmas, are the wonderful times I had with my family. My mom and dad, and my brother and I used to go to my Uncle Norm’s home for Christmas Eve, and my Aunt Mildred’s home on Christmas afternoon. Uncle Norm was my mom’s brother, and Aunt Mildred was my dad’s sister. My cousins were all there. In the case of my Aunt Mildred; my dad’s brother, Earl, and his family also came.

Neither home was very big, so everyone was crammed into every nook and cranny of the living room. Christmas decorations consisted of either a real tree…or one of those aluminum trees with a light that changed colors shinning on it. There were the Christmas cards scotch taped up for all to see. There where Christmas lights on the sills of frost-covered windows. By today’s standards, it wasn’t much.

But those rooms were filled with the people I loved, and the people who loved me. Except for my brother and me…and a handful of cousins, they are all gone now.

I’d like to tell the people in those tents at Best Buy to take their tent down and go home. I know they wouldn’t listen because they are young and they haven’t lost their parents and their grandparents, and their aunts and uncles. One day they will know, and they will be sad for having wasted time in a tent when they could have been with the people they loved.

 

Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

I agree with you.  I like shopping at Christmas to some extent.  My wife and I generally take a night and go to dinner then go shopping for the kids.  But I do not do the Black Friday thing - I don't like crowds and I view Thanksgiving as a Holiday weekend worth observing with the family. Cooking Good Food, playing games, watching a football game or two and Thanking God for our blessings.

This Christmas will be a little thinner than usual, but we are OK.  The food and fun will still be good, Santa will bring some stuff for the kids.  But best of all we can celebrate the Light of the World Coming into Darkness.  I already feel a Joy and Peace in my heart and am as bad as the mall as I have started listening to Christmas Music early.  

Nov 21, 2013 02:04 AM
Graziella Bruner
NCS Premier Real Estate - Detroit, MI
Associate Broker - Serving Wayne & Oakland County

That's one thing I could never understand is being out in the cold for several hours or even a few days, just to get an item at the store.  What they don't realize is the best time to buy any electronic gift is after the New Year, so why not spend the family time and the real reason why we celebrate the Seasons we do!  Life is too short and people are leaving our sides each and every day.  Make the most of what you have and who's around you today. 

Great post and thanks for sharing.

Nov 21, 2013 02:31 AM
Elisa Uribe Realtor #01427070
Golden Gate Sotheby's International - Berkeley, CA
Opening the Doors to California Homes -East Bay

Every time someone I know turns 50 I  and ask friends and family to finish the sentence.  "I remember when..." and I make a book for the birthday person with all the fun stories. Without fail, tears shed. Remembering moments in our lifetime and connections we make is what love is all about.

If someone doesn't know what you know in this lifetime, hopefully they will in the next.

I miss my mom and dad dearly and it's the first year in my life without them. It also hit me yesterday, my sisters have something my parents wrote but I do not since I'm not 50. What I do have is my parents voice on tape singing, and old VHS movies I need to convert to DVD. Priceless!

It's time for new memories with friends and families and this year I'm going to ask people to leave the gifts behind. Unless it's food or wine we can share:) ha ha!

Nov 21, 2013 03:10 AM
Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner
Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395 - Mission Viejo, CA
Orange County & Lake Arrowhead, CA (949)510-2395

Anyone who has lost someone special can relate to this. But shopping is also part of the fun. 

Nov 21, 2013 03:19 AM
Thomas Craig
KW at the Parks - Orlando, FL

Again, thanks to all of you who continue to post comments. It simply points out what we already know...you can't buy love. It isn't for sale in Best Buy. I get that kids today want electronics, just like my kids wanted Cabbage Patch Kids, or Davy Crockett coonskin caps when I was little; and as parents, we want give our kids a Christmas they will remember. But with 50 years of mileage on me, they won't remember the gift. They won't remember the gift...but they will remember the warmth and the love you provided in a loving home.

One word of caution, not every home situation was...or is a good one. If there are those around you who are suffering, please share your home and love with them. Lets be sensitive to our extended family, friends and neighbors. As we have all talked about, nothing beats the love you experienced as a child. Imagine what it must be like for those for whom love is withheld, or missing.

Nov 21, 2013 03:27 AM
Jimmy Faulkner
Florida. Homes Realty & Mortgage - Wantagh, NY
The Best Of St. Augustine

I hopethis Christmas will be all about people and not about anything else. How foooooolish to camp out fo material things.There cannot be any comraderie waiting at a store.

Nov 21, 2013 03:51 AM
Thomas Craig
KW at the Parks - Orlando, FL

Karen,

With your comment about shopping being "fun", you have to be related to my wife in some way! She seems to never miss an opportunity to have "fun". Frankly, I am surprised she hasn't pitched a tent in front of Macys, or Nordstrom.

Have a great holiday.

Tom

Nov 21, 2013 03:55 AM
Jeffery Griffin
Jeff Griffin LLC - Wailuku, HI
Broker Owner

Great post the entitlement generation is missing out on many of life's simplest and greatest treasures. Aloha Jeff

Nov 21, 2013 04:18 AM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

I love going shopping with my son or with my friend Sally - and once I went to Black Friday with my son's girlfriend and her mom. We had a blast because we weren't after anything in particular. We were just looking at everything, enjoying the decorations and for whatever reason - the holiday spirit that everyone seemed to have that day. Maybe it was because we didn't get to "the city" until noon - the frenzied shoppers had grabbed their bounty and left. 

Most of my extended family is gone now - and I do have fond memories of my Mom's house being so overloaded with people that we barely had room to move around. I'm sure it was a little hectic for her, but she loved it and we all loved the laughter and the talk. 

Nov 21, 2013 06:34 AM
Bob Miller
Keller Williams Cornerstone Realty - Ocala, FL
The Ocala Dream Team
Thanks Thomas, for a great post. We're only a year younger than you and we agree 100%.
Nov 21, 2013 07:13 AM
Rob Arnold
Sand Dollar Realty Group, Inc. - Altamonte Springs, FL
Metro Orlando Full Service - Investor Friendly & F

Pretty funny to watch people do all that effort just to save a few hundred dollars.  Better to focus on making the big bucks and then enjoy your holidays.

Nov 21, 2013 07:20 AM
David Shamansky
US Mortgages - David Shamansky - Highlands Ranch, CO
Creative, Aggressive & 560 FICO - OK, Colorado Mtg

Whew - you may have just saved me hours of waiting in line to buy something I could have gotten chaeper online with no wait! lol

Nov 21, 2013 08:00 AM
Kimo Jarrett
Cyber Properties - Huntington Beach, CA
Pro Lifestyle Solutions

Oh I remember when I was a young adult, without much experience and wisdom, yet things do change, don't they, as we grow older and wiser? Do you remember your parents, grandparents, uncles and aunts trying to persuade you to do things differently? Did you listen to them or your peers? Your post is wonderful, yet those campers haven't been educated about the value of time, so consequently, it doesn't matter to them until they discover that time is their most precious commodity.

Nov 21, 2013 08:05 AM
Thomas Craig
KW at the Parks - Orlando, FL

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thanks everyone for sharing your time and your thoughts! All of your contributions regarding your own holiday celebrations with family meant a great deal to me. I really appreciated you sharing a moment of your life in such a public forum. May God watch over you all and my He give you a most blessed holiday!

Nov 21, 2013 10:12 PM
Lehel Szucs
All Seasons Real Estate, Inc. - Covina, CA
REALTOR of choice

this whole black friday thing is one of the worst things ever ... if I have to wait weeks toget something and stand in line all that time than I really do not need it ... time with family and friends is much more valuable ..

Nov 22, 2013 12:18 AM
Debbie Holmes
John L. Scott - Boise, ID
Gets the job done!

The idea of missing Thanksgiving to camp out at Best buy is so sad....

Nov 22, 2013 03:31 AM
Elizabeth De Lauro
Coldwell Banker Linwood Real Estate - Littleton, NH
Elizabeth E. De Lauro

What a beautiful blog - we can only hope that your expressed sentiment reaches out somewhere to those who have forgotten that Thanksgiving is a day to be truly grateful.

Nov 22, 2013 11:32 PM
Bryan Robertson
Los Altos, CA

This is a great post and I wish more people would read it and take it to heart.  Our culture is based on "stuff" so much that people have lost sight of what matters most - people.  This Christmas our whole family is focused on giving experiences with only a few token things in boxes so we can unwrap something.  The experiences will live long past the stuff.

Nov 24, 2013 12:14 AM
Susan Harding, HomeStar Video Tours
Portland, OR
Showcasing You and Your Listings, 855-579-6284

Beautiful post and one everyone should read. I was just going through boxes in our garage and found so much stuff from my kids younger days and most of it (that I thought was so important for them to have at the time) is really just a bunch of meaningless junk, stuff that was used a couple of times and forgotten. Yes, we do get wiser with the years!!

Nov 24, 2013 08:26 AM
Thomas Craig
KW at the Parks - Orlando, FL
Again, thank you for all your kind comments, and for taking the time to read my blog and then post a comment.
Nov 24, 2013 07:43 PM