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Should You Buy A Home With A Friend

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Real Estate Agent with Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395 BRE# 01494165

 

Should You Buy A Home With A Friend

 

You and your best friend have been living together since college. It started with a small dorm room and now that you are both thriving in your careers, you have a nice apartment overlooking the pool. As the parade of the “wrong people” stream in and out of your lives, you wonder if it makes sense to buy a home together and enjoy the financial benefits.

Buying a property with a friend is a big decision, but if neither of you foresee a change in your lifestyle in the near future, it might make sense.

Benefits Of Buying A Home With A Friend

  • Easier to qualify for a mortgage: Let’s face it two incomes are better than one.  If you are applying with a friend, the lender can consider both applicants income and credit. This can allow you to have greater purchasing power and more choices in the home.

  • Shared Costs:  Buying and owning a home can be expensive. Financing a home with a friend means splitting the down payment, mortgage payment, closing costs and costs of ownership.

  • Home Equity Profit: Aside from the sense of pride in ownership, the home purchase is also a sizable financial investment. Hopefully the home will appreciate in value during the home ownership time period. Currently the IRS allows a significant portion of the profit to be realized tax free when the home sells. See you tax professional for details.

  • Mortgage Interest Deduction: Unlike rent, the mortgage interest portion of the payment is tax deductible. You and your friend will determine how much of the mortgage interest you will each deduct from your taxes. This can reduce your overall housing cost if the deduction is large enough.

Concerns About Buying A Home With A Friend

  • Lack of mobility: This is where you must talk about your lifestyle and any future options. What happens if you get that great job offer half a country away? Owning a home with a friend might be more complicated that other types of ownership. Owning a home alone could allow you to sell or rent the home without consideration of another person. Would your friend want a roommate? Would they be willing to sell if you needed to? These are issues to talk about in advance.

  • Potential Credit Damage: When you get a mortgage loan, both parties are equally responsible for the mortgage payment. You might be very prompt with your payments each month, but if your friend is not, then you will either be in the position of paying both halves or suffering the consequences of a mortgage late….or worse. Unforeseen things happen in everyone’s lives, if you are planning to buy with a friend, don’t be shy about talking in advance. Understand how much savings are in reserve and the contingency plans if one of the owners has a financial set back.

  • Difficulty Obtaining Other Loans:  The entire mortgage loan balance will show up equally on both borrowers’ credit reports. Even though you are only responsible for half the payment and half the balance, this will not be separated on the credit reports. It might appear that you are over extended based on the large loan and make getting credit hard or impossible.

Buying a home with a friend can work and work well. There are huge advantages to homeownership and if you are unable to qualify alone, a friend could be the right solution. The key is to have open, honest and detailed conversations in advance. Understand the potential issues up front and plan for all contingencies. Get some advice from a tax professional as well as an attorney. Make sure your rights are protected and that you have a solid legal agreement about the rights and responsibilities as well as your interest in the home, title. Careful planning will ensure that home ownership is a positive investment for you and your friendship. 

Comments(19)

Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI
HomeSmart Real Estate - Scottsdale, AZ
Arizona Homes and Land Group/ Buy or Sell

Good question. Probably not a good idea. As friends may get married or move on and a home mortgage is often for 30 years. Decisions will have to be made now an later. 

Oct 20, 2016 01:39 AM
Jeanne Feenick
NextHome Premier - Basking Ridge, NJ
The Agent you choose REALLY does make a difference

Joint property with family or friends --- my Dad who did alot of estate work used to caution us when we flirted with the idea of a shared vacation home --- don't do it. He saw too many families fracture from the strain.

 

Oct 20, 2016 01:39 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Karen,  It would definitely have to be the right friend.  It can work. As my mom used to say ... "two can live more cheaply than one."  

Oct 20, 2016 01:41 AM
Bill Roberts
Brooks and Dunphy Real Estate - Oceanside, CA
"Baby Boomer" Retirement Planner

Hi Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner It seems that the verdict is in: Don't do it.. But one of them could buy the house while the other "invests" in some other real estate.

Bill Roberts

Oct 20, 2016 01:45 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

This is great information to share with prospective home buyers. 

Buying with a friend is not always the best option.

Oct 20, 2016 01:47 AM
Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

 Interesting post, Karen.   Definitely have an Attorney advise you - maybe draft a "prenuptial agreement" in case one of the friends wants to sell later.

Oct 20, 2016 01:59 AM
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-739-3843

Karen, I am dealing with this very thing right now with "friends", ex-lovers, actually and what a mess. The communication is sporadic, no one is taking charge, there are bad feelings, one owes the other money, as she took over the mortgage but may be losing her job, there are dogs that need to be boarded...it's all bad!

Oct 20, 2016 03:07 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Karen- very informative post.  At least you've outlined the pors and cons and in the end the two parties have to go into it like any other business arrangement. 

Oct 20, 2016 10:19 AM
Florida Tolbert Team Keller Williams Advantage
Keller Williams Advantage III Realty in Lake Nona - Orlando, FL
Keller Williams Land Luxury Division Specialist

I say no way.  Only if you are married and then there is legal separation should things not work out. 

Oct 20, 2016 12:05 PM
Michele Cadogan 917-861-9166
Fillmore Real Estate 2990 Av U, Bklyn , NY 11229 - Brooklyn, NY
Licensed Real Estate Associate Broker -

I recently saw a show on television where in England because owing a house close to the city is so expensive even strangers are joining together and buying homes. 

Oct 20, 2016 12:34 PM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Karen. I have owned investment properties with a friend. It isn't always easy but a strong partnership agreement really makes sense.

Oct 20, 2016 11:25 PM
Mike Bjork
Evolve Bank & Trust - Redondo Beach, CA

Great advice, Karen!  Similar to unmarried couples whom buy a home together.  They really need to think about the ramifications, if an exit plan is required.  If they're with the right person (whether it's a friend or in a relationship), then it can be a really great idea, in order to enjoy the benefits of being a homeowner.

Oct 27, 2016 02:17 AM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

Eyes wide open Boys and Girls...Boys and Boys,   Girls and Girls, Brother and Sister...AND...of course...Husband and Wife...

Oct 30, 2016 03:23 AM
Lisa Von Domek
Lisa Von Domek Team - Dallas, TX
....Experience Isn't Expensive.... It's Priceless!

This can work well for both parties Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner with a strong partnership agreement in place prior to closing.  Just as a marriage can end in divorce, a beautiful friendship can go downhill too.

Oct 30, 2016 04:12 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Great job showing both the good and bad of this idea. I personally wouldn't put myself in that position, but I can see where it would be a great option.

Oct 30, 2016 05:20 AM
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Hi Karen.  I'm sure this can work for some folks, though I don't think that it's something I would ever do.

Oct 30, 2016 10:24 PM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Buying a home with someone that is not a spouse is a big step and should be looked at with all possibilities well in advance to be sure it can be done.

Nov 12, 2016 06:28 AM
Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho
Sandpoint Realty LLC - Sandpoint, ID
North Idaho Real Estate - 208-255.6227

Hello Karen.  A lot of comments on both sides of the fence.  Common thread seems to be a written contract in place if one decides to go ahead with it.  I thought about it once when younger and it was two couples.  We are both divorced right now so most likely would not have worked out.  My buddy amd I are still best of friends and most likely that would have been strained.  Mark

Nov 13, 2016 03:18 AM