The Problem Is . . . You See It AS A Problem

Hi Candice - This was great! So many times we create our own problems by worrying about problems that aren't there. 

I agree Candice A. Donofrio ... as a whole our industry seems to fall into 3 categories just like Goldilock and the 3 Bears.  Those that OVERreact ... those that UNDERreact ... and those that react "just right" and fix things quickly and smoothly.  Never a dull day, right?

Gene

It's always good and refreshing to level-set and reframe what we view as problems, disasters, crises- thank you for this post! :-)

Hi Candice:

You are so right in many ways!. Great advice here from someone who knows!

Have a great weekend!

Jeff

Good post Candice. If the client sees it as a problem, then it is a problem even it really isn't. When it comes to potential problems, I try to live by a saying my late mother used"don't cross that bridge until you get to it son"!

... and then there is analysis/paralysis!    Good post and rant.

I know it sounds crazy, but I try to anticipate problems - not create them. At least I'm ready when and if they happen.

Candice A. Donofrio - This is a terrific post and one that is long overdue. I don't recall anyone addressing the issues you described and nobody could explain it as well as you. You received many good comments, i.e., Bill Spears.

With your expertise, you could write a series! As they say, misery loves company, it's familiar territory and people who live in misery have developed a learned behavior and worry constantly. This line of yours is priceless: "In order to 'justify our existence', we occupy our time WORRYING, fretting over what could be wrong in our otherwise blessed and bountiful lives."

Hi Candice A. Donofrio I have long thought many people make mountains out of mole hills. It's all popping up for a reason and people either see a simple solution or not. Some people ask me how I see things so positively and know there's a solution. Because I've only done it over and over thousands of times for years.......and there is always a solution.  It has a way of keeping everyone much calmer in the process of buying or selling - or life!

Love love love your post!!! Divine, yup!

What a great post and congratulations on the well deserved feature. Yes, so many people create a problem where there isn't one. I never knew you wrote horoscopes, or have another business with spiritual counselling. Interesting, at least to an outsider.

I love your take on this age-old situation.

Some people seem to thrive on drama - creating problems where none exist. Phooey on that!

You should use your former writing career to enter this month's challenge (if you haven't already).

Our market seems to be flipping to one of "problems where there are no problems" . . . We would have made an offer but there was a water stain on the kitchen ceiling . . . duh, the house has a new roof, is that not worth something? We'll paint the friggin' thing. Great post. Stupid people. 

Best advice I discovered to "be a Mimi" was to stop editing! In other words, start with the skeleton. Don't go back and add flesh and organs until the skeleton is COMPLETED. Believe me, you'll rewrite that first sentence dozens of times before you get to the second page if you keep editing. When you're done with the skeleton, the "pretties" will come, but you have to have a whole story to edit before you can make it pretty.

Working on taxes this weekend. {gag me} Let's talk soon!

Hi Candice A. Donofrio . I have one of those agents in our brokerage who is always asking about "what if" situations.  It is enough to drive me crazy.  Every conversation with her (and she runs everything by me) takes at least 1/2 an hour.  I have had to get to a point of anticipating her questions and driving her back to the "what is" rather than the "what if." We cannot anticipate every possibility in a real estate transaction as we cannot know all there is to know about the property nor the mind set of the principals involved. All we can do is offer options based upon our experience and expertise. And know to whom to refer our clients when their needs are beyond the scope of our license.

Candice- love, love, love your post and so happy that it was featured. If we're out looking for the problem, one will pop up.  So many times we go through life making major mountains out of teeny molehills, and for what?  

My favorite and true line of yours...We humans are little walking, talking computers, constantly in problem-solving mode. 

If you focus on problem than solutions, you will be disapponted & annoyed! MOST of the time, ooooh, I'd say 99.99999% of the time, the problem isn't a problem at all, but something to be perfected, integrated, massaged into compliance. Or . . . nothing at all.

It's not really a problem if it can be solved, is it?

Oooh I love this. Such great perspective. 

So yes, self fulfilled prophecies can happen.  So I'm going to manifest makeing $25,000/month on my blog.  I can do it, right?  By the spring.  I think it's achievable.  It was my birthday last week, so I wished for it w/ the candles.  It sill happen.

Yup....been there and still doing that.

I'm getting much better....anxiety has been a life long thing....runs in my family.

It's sad how much time is wasted on things we have no control over.

Oh, I SO know what you're talking about here, Candice! I am one who thinks several moves ahead but, as you mentioned, it is to keep things flowing smoothly. That said, rarely does anyone else know how far ahead I am...until I have to make the next move.

I think those agents who disrupt transactions by making a big deal out of NOTHING, just WANT the other agents to think they're on top of their game. I've seen this in the older agents the most. While you'd think they'd peacefully go about their deals, they are oftentimes THE most obnoxious.

One agent, in particular, in my area is known for her nastiness. Everyone hates to see her coming and I've actually heard agents say that they have encouraged their sellers to take other Offers because if they take her buyers' Offers, she'll make their lives hell for the next 30-60 days! How sad to have that reputation?

Hi Candice A. Donofrio, 

I don't even like to acknowledge the "p" word.  I think of issues as challenges and there is always a solution. The universe will help you manifest what you put out there, whether it is positive or negative.