I have been a Broker/Owner for almost 5 years now, I have been a man for 37. In that time there are certain things that I have learned from personal experiences and from business situations that I think needs to be shared.
Several times a year I get a phone call or a knock on the office door and a "female" (Agent or Loan Officer) has a "serious problem". The problem is always the same and the problem always starts the same.
The "female" agent or loan officer was at XYZ function (bar, restaurant, lunch, Gym, meeting, whatever) and this "guy" came over and introduced himself. He was not too "pushy" but was very insistent in learning everything about the "female" and ended up asking the "female" to function (bar, restaurant, meeting, lunch, whatever) when the 'female' responds that "female" is:
A) not looking to date anyone,
B) married
C) dating someone
the "guy" than is "slightly offended" and responds that he had no such intentions that he was only looking at friendship.
This is when the "serious problem" comes to fruition! "Female" goes to function with "male" and "male" makes moves that suggest "friends" is not what he has on his mind. If "female" is lucky she can readdress the fact that she is not looking for A, B, or C stated above and that is the end of that....but you see....this "male" we are talking about is not a normal "male".....do you want to know why? Because NORMAL MALES DO NOT SEE A WOMAN AND THINK, "GEE.....I BET SHE WOULD MAKE A REALLY GREAT FRIEND....I THINK I WANT TO GET TO KNOW HER!!!!"
These guys are the 20% that make the other 80% look bad.
Ladies, please......I know of no one who has a "friend" that they picked out of a crowd, on a sidewalk, in a bar, at a restaurant, at a meeting...and walked up to for the sole purpose of "making a friend".
And Ladies, please.....when that "guy" walks up to you, please look him in the eye and just say NO! Please do not make up excuses about you have to do this or that...that you would love to but....just SAY NO! If he says he just wants to be friends he is a FREAK! Unfortunately if you do not say NO...these guys think you are up to playing the game they are playing!
Sorry for the rant but really....."guys" are that simple....he did not notice your charming personality from across the room....he doesn't want to know your mind....he just wants.......
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