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How Humiliating...I was stood up today!

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Real Estate Agent with Prudential Verani Realty

I can't remember when the last time I was stood up...maybe I haven't ever been stood up before..I don't know because I can't remember it. But today I was and I didn't like it one bit.

I had booked 4 condos to show a customer. We were to meet the listing agent at the first showing and then go on our own to see the rest.

This was to be our third time out and we had talked buyer agency representation but had not yet entered into that relationship.  We had good rapport and I thought she felt comfortable with me.

Was I wrong? How could I have missed the boat on this?

I called her yesterday (Monday) as I had told her I would, during a layover from my flight home from St. Louis and left a detailed message about where to meet. I gave her all my contact information just in case...she was running late or needed to change the time.

I showed up 10 minutes early and the listing agent was already there. We made small talk as we waited and waited. Finally I called my customer on her cell phone, got voice mail and told her we were waiting and repeated the unit #...just in case I forgot to tell her which unit. Of course I had told her which unit but I was trying to save face...hers.

10 minutes later the co-broker has to leave. I'm mortified! He is looking at me with pity! No customer in sight. He must have thought what a fool! I was dumbstruck and didn't know what to do!

I drove to appointment # 2 and called her again, telling her that I would be waiting at that unit and while we no longer could get into the other one, we could still see the rest. I asked her to please call me on my cell and repeated the number to her. I was polite and concerned that maybe something happened to her.

I also called her house and was told by a teenager that she just left.  Was she going to go see houses I ask? He told me he had no idea where she was going. So I decide to wait a little longer. After all I have nothing better to do than sit in my car waiting!

Feeling totally stupid I finally left.  I've wasted a couple of hours of my time, gas, a co-brokers time, his gas and 4 sellers who prepared for showings that never happened.

Embarrassed, I called Jay and told him I had been stood up, he couldn't believe it!  I was prepared for his lecture...he never gave it.

I have to ask...Where are manners today? Don't they matter anymore? How can someone book an appointment and simply not care enough to cancel it...to just let other people sit and wait. I don't get it.

My mother taught me to respect other people and it amazes me that something so simple...so easy can be so over looked...respect for other people! Didn't I deserve that much? Didn't those sellers?

RESPECT...is it really that hard?  It's 10:30 pm and I still have not had the courtesy of a call back.

I'll call her again tomorrow morning but I really don't know what to say I'm simply so disappointed.

Update...I called and left a message this morning stating that I sure hoped everything was okay and asked that she call me to let me know...even if she found a house already with someone else. Just to please let me know. No call back as of yet. 6-13-07 7:39 pm

Update...June 16th, I don't bite...really I don't. All I ask is that my time is respected. I don't want to waste anyones time and would never push myself on anyone.  

 

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
   

Serving Southern New Hampshire and Rockingham County

Jay and Monika McGillicuddy

Prudential Verani Realty

Hampstead NH 

603-548-7728 
Ray Delao
Home Foundations LLC - Grayslake, IL

Wow! that really stinks. A runaway client? I hope the next one is a keeper

 

thanks for the post

Ray

Jun 12, 2007 03:59 PM
Monika McGillicuddy
Prudential Verani Realty - Atkinson, NH
NH Real Estate Broker
LOL..A runaway client..that is a good one Ray. I wonder if an other agent found her?
Jun 12, 2007 04:03 PM
Jay McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Exeter, NH
Real Estate Broker
It happens and that's part of Real Estate, I feel bad for you especially after you called her and confirmed. Something must have happened. I usually try and give the benefit of the doubt and give a another chance until they never call me back. LOL Sorry!
Jun 12, 2007 04:04 PM
Monika McGillicuddy
Prudential Verani Realty - Atkinson, NH
NH Real Estate Broker
Thanks honey...I know you felt bad for me.
Jun 12, 2007 04:07 PM
Suzanne Cutler
SUCCESS! Real Estate - Braintree, MA

I would give her another chance.  I had a buyer not show when I was waiting for her and the listing agent and she got caught up at work and didn't have my number at the time.  She did call later and we rescheduled.

Jun 12, 2007 04:15 PM
Monika McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Hampstead, NH
Southern NH & the Seacoast Area

Suzanne...I will give her another chance but I sure hope she calls me tomorrow. Thanks so much for commenting.

 

Jun 12, 2007 04:42 PM
Ann Cummings
RE/MAX Shoreline - NH and Maine - Portsmouth, NH
Portsmouth NH Real Estate Preferrable Agent

Hi Monika - what stinky behavior from someone, especially someone you'd already been out with twice.  No buyer agency agreement at that point?  It kinda smells like a rat to me - either she found someone else and didn't have the decency and guts to let you know, or she got cold feet or just really wasn't serious at all.

Like you, I will NEVER understand rudeness and complete inconsiderate behavior from others like this person.  Even if she decided, for whatever reason, she didn't want to continue with you, she could have called your office voice mail during the night knowing she'd get your voice mail or she could have sent a simple email, another way to avoid an actual conversation.  You already called her repeatedly yesterday with no return phone call or email, not sure how much, if any, more time I'd spend on someone who obviously thought so little of someone else.  It's a new day and maybe by now you have heard from her....

And why would you expect a lecture from your honey-bunny with her standing you up????    ;-)

Hope today is a better day for you!!
Ann

Jun 12, 2007 11:41 PM
Chris Griffith
Downing-Frye Realty, Bonita Springs, FL - Bonita Springs, FL
Bonita Springs Listing Specialist - Agent
What a dirty birdy. It's been years for me, too.  I send Mr & Mrs Buyer across the street to speak to my lender and they never came back.  Never called. Never returned my calls. Nada. 
Jun 12, 2007 11:58 PM
Karen Hurst
RICOASTALLIVING.COM - Warwick, RI
Rhode Island Waterfront!

Monika,

I can't see you "misreading" someone. Maybe there really is a reason. I too find it hard to believe when they don't return any calls, but we always need to try and see where someone is coming from even though you don't always know the reason. I am sure it wasn't personal. Maybe she can't afford to buy and is too embarrassed to tell you.

I agree w/Toby though. Two chances for the client,(if they have a Reason) and one for another Realtor! My biggest gripe is when a Realtor presents an offer and your Seller counters and the Realtor "dissappears" forever without replying. Hope you feel better today:)

 

Jun 13, 2007 01:41 AM
Monika McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Hampstead, NH
Southern NH & the Seacoast Area

Ann...My honey bun loves to lecture me :) 

No buyer agency agreement yet. The first time out was showing one house...we met at the property (she was an up call) and talked agency. The next day we met again and looked at a few condos. We talked Buyer agency and I thought that was where we'd be heading. Of course since she stood me up I obviously didn't read her right.

Chris..It really stinks doesn't it!

Karen...Thanks so much. I do feel a little better!  How is that lovely new brief case of yours?  I loved the picture you posted of it!!!

 

Jun 13, 2007 03:05 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert
Monika, being stood up is never easy.  I have been stood up by Borrowers a few time, but most of the time they have the courtesy to call.  
Jun 13, 2007 03:11 PM
Karen Hurst
RICOASTALLIVING.COM - Warwick, RI
Rhode Island Waterfront!

Monika,

Thanks. I guess I "staged" it:) It's almost empty right now!  Need to fill it back up. But I have been getting a little choosier with listings. I rather spend more time on what I have than be rushing around like an idiot. I am learning little by little!

Jun 14, 2007 12:30 AM
Monika McGillicuddy
Prudential Verani Realty - Atkinson, NH
NH Real Estate Broker

Thanks George. It really stinks and I can't believe it happened!!

Karen...That brief case looks so soft...is it? I love the color as well. I'm jealous LOL...maybe next year I'll buy a new one. 

Jun 14, 2007 06:01 AM
Chris Griffith
Downing-Frye Realty, Bonita Springs, FL - Bonita Springs, FL
Bonita Springs Listing Specialist - Agent
Monika, did she ever call?
Jun 14, 2007 06:07 AM
Monika McGillicuddy
Prudential Verani Realty - Atkinson, NH
NH Real Estate Broker
Chris...She never called. I left a real nice message yesterday and it was ignored. Bummer!
Jun 14, 2007 08:04 AM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans

 

charlie brown

 Monika......   aaaarrrggghhhh....  That's how I feel. I totally agree with you 110%. Respect and courtesy. Some people just don't think, unless it happens to them. This does irk the h e double hockey sticks out of me.

As you stated, even if they found another house or another realtor. Yes, things can happen and we would never want anything to have happened to that person. You only hope and pray. And if not, pick up the phone or leave a message of some sort.

In any case, sorry that this happened.

                                           jeff belonger

 

Jun 16, 2007 04:04 PM
Monika McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Hampstead, NH
Southern NH & the Seacoast Area
Thanks Jeff...I needed to vent a bit! Sometimes I think people think we have no feelings or something...call us for information...expect us to be available  24-7 and then not bother to call if they can't make an appointment! Can you tell I'm still a little upset??
Jun 18, 2007 12:22 AM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans

Monika.... I still would be upset. That is one thing that I have seen since I have been in mortgages since 1992. Just the fact that people think you all are sometime chauffeurs and that it's not an issue if you just don't show. They aren't being charged. And this sometimes happens to loan officers in different ways.  Have a great week and make it a great day.

                                                                                                              jeff belonger

Jun 18, 2007 12:45 AM
Anonymous
Suzan Schultz, Realtor Juneau, AK

I just search for this very topic.  I knew this must have happened to someone else besides me.  Just a couple of days ago I got stood up!  When I scheduled the showing I did it when it was easiest for the potential buyer.  She wanted the that day and time.  I was showing one of my listings that has two tenants.  I had to give them notice.  The buyer never showed up.  When I called her, she answered.   I asked if she would like to reschedule if she was interested.  What did I get?  Not an apology- oh no.  Attitude.  She was completely rude.  I told her that if she would like to see the home she would have to schedule the showing with a different Realtor.  With gas prices these day and the time away from my family and kids to go for nothing.  I am very disappointed and a little mad. 

 

 

Jun 18, 2008 01:27 PM
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Monika McGillicuddy
Prudential Verani Realty - Atkinson, NH
NH Real Estate Broker

Suzan,

It really stinks when this happens. I never did hear back from the buyer and with the price of gas I don't need to waste my time.

Jun 23, 2008 09:50 AM