Romance - What is it?

A. An intentional focus. Romance doesn't just happen by accident. it's something you either plan for or you just get swept up in it.

B. Creative, not crude. Guys, don't mimic what you see on TV sitcoms! There's a great book you can pick up called 1001 Ways To be Romantic that will get you jump started. Too many times grown men act like 10 year old boys teasing girls on the playground. Get over it and grow up (mature).

C. Enriching touch. Think of these type of words... soft, gentle, light touch, etc.

D. Starts in the morning when you wake up:

           ~e-mail

           ~phone calls

           ~ love notes

The point here is to let her know that you are thinking of her during the day.

E. Value thoughts, ideas, conversation-not just body parts! Show that you value her for more than what she can do in bed. She's your partner/mate after all. Listen to her without interrupting or pulling out the toolbox to immediately try to fix the problem. most women just want you to listen to them talk things through.

F. Anger & unforgiveness will inhibit romance. Mark this one down. try and settle your differences before going sleep at night. There's a much better chance of things not being swept under the rug that way.

~keeping score keeps romance at bay! Marriage is not a sport where you keep score of rights and wrongs. I once knew a couple i counseled who actually kept a tally sheet on the fridge. Each time one hurt the other it got marked down and they held things against each other constantly. Even if you don't write it dowm, are you keeping score in your head?????

*Note: When your mate initiates romance-DO NOT laugh or mock or criticize their attempt!  Learn & grow together, supporting each other in places where they are really stretching to grow. Encourage don't discourage!