Facebook Threatened to Give Me the Boot

Charita:  I am sure it is simply that you and I have different ways of looking at something like "friends" on Facebook.  The LAST thing I want is to have five or six hundred "friends..." and have many of them be people I have not corresponded with in a year or more.  It is not the way I value things.  But, that's just me.  Your mileage may vary.

Charita... these comments are once again out of order.  Notice they are both numbered #59 !  I have complained about this to Kelly Pflugrath at Active Rain.  The cause, I think, is that the Active Rain clock (in their servers ?) is eleven minutes ahead of the actual time... not taking into account the different time zones, which do not matter in this case.

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Anyway... back to the topic.  We Actually Agree !  Hooray for us!  I am impressed with both of us... you and me.  Cool Beans !

I am at a much different place in my career... and really do not want to use something like Facebook to get leads.  I need to be careful how I word what I am about to say... but if I have to "compete" for a lead... I probably do not want it in the first place.

My Sphere of Relationships (which most refer to as their Sphere of Influence) gives me all the personal referrals I want or need.

For example... if I am set up to do a listing presentation, and then find that the sellers are also "interviewing" three or four other Realtors... I will not participate.  I will cancel, wish them well, and go back to my "Sphere."  Again... at this time in my career... it is what works for me.

fb is schizophrenic. Unfortunately, it's an evil we must deal with for the time being. Don't get me wrong - I love seeing photos of people climbing Kilimanjaro, people's kids, people's pets and gardens; the event manager makes it easy to keep a group of people informed of happenings; the funny photos, videos and stories are entertaining (when one has the time..) but it's a time sucker with silly rules and constant, unwanted changes that consume even more time if one allows. Yeah, I liked your page ^_^ Cheers!

I had that happen to me last year... and it keeps you from being able to request a friend for a short period of time too... I think mine came because my Son constantly says NO to my friend request just to be a pain in the butt, the joys of having teens!...

If I get a request from someone I dont know I look to see who they are and decide if I want to be associated with them, click yes or no and move on.. I dont report them... The old days of facebook you could add a note with a friend request, they broke the system with one of their many changes!

Charita,

I've heard FB can be a bit testy sometimes. But giving you static over a friend request seems a bit over the top

I'm not sure if this has been said in the comments above, most of which I read....but I would not want to be in a social media network that didn't have safeguards against spammers. Facebook is consistent, I think, in wanting us to be able to connect with legitimate friends but not wanting spammers to be able to ruin this amazing platform. That is a difficult balance and I think they spend a lot of money trying to implement reasonable policies that accomplish both goals.

Do they fall short? Absolutely. I certainly share the sense of frustration with terms of service and policies, and massive companies like Facebook that we invest a lot of time in, but they just aren't responsive to us as individuals.

Same thing happened to me Charita.  :(  And I don't spam people.  So it was such a bummer when I got the message that I can not "friend" people for a week.  So, I'd like to add you, but sorry, I can't ask to friend you right now.  :(  Nor can I request to friend my nephew (who I tried to add him yesterday).  Aack!  But I did 'Like' your page!  Since I was able to do that!  :D  And please do friend request me.  I will accept!  :)

Facebook is funny- funny strange.   Somehow my three "close friends" were another agent I barely know and the teen-age son of a friend and - I forget who the third one was.   I do have more than three friends.

Charita,

FB is plum crazy lately!  I have had that happen to me when using FB.  I think it is silly how they tell encourage you to friend people and when you do, you are called out as a spammer.  C-r-a-z-y, I say.

Ultimately, I agree with you in saying 'can't we just all be friends'.

Make it a Great Day!

- Christina

Not only is FB having this issue, so does LinkedIn.  Their business "Fan Pages" has issues with not being able to send requests to people that you know without having to upload an addresss book that is too much of a hassle. I just don't like these issues that they have.

Wow. I haven't had this happen, yet anyway. I thought you could "friend" anyone that you wanted to as long as they accepted, and if they didn't they you just were not connected with them. Thanks for the heads up.

Seems ridiculous that facebook would try to determine whether I "know" people or not.  Just because their algorithm doesn't think that I know someone doesn't mean that is the case.  Strange!

Usually, it happens because the person clicks on the option not to friend and says they do not know a person. Some people do this with almost everyone, or will do it if you have many business-related posts on your personal page.

You can send a message and ask first but, even then, the person needs to accept the friends request or at least not report you. I had a person gt back in touch with me via email recently and I sent her a FB request. She said we'd just email for now and see how it went then, a week or two later after several emails that seemed to be going fine, I got a message that I'd been reported to facebook. I asked why, because she was the only friend request I had opened, and she said she didn't want to be friends there because she disagreed with my support for certain causes. That's fine, but it was kind of petty to aslo claim she didn't know me and try to get me in trouble with FB.

I got the same message...and I couldn't figure out why....shoot I get so many requests from folks I have no idea who they are.....crazy isn't it??