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Don't burn the bridge you're standing on.

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with Cornerstone Business Group Inc 0225086119

I think the greater part of wisdom is to never burn the bridge you're standing on. That makes sense to me. How about you? When a real estate market begins to heat up, it's not unusual to have multiple contract situations happen. Buyers will create crazy contracts to be the winning bid. Sometimes, it works out and everyone is happy, and sometimes it doesn't and the seller is not happy.

There are two ways to approach a bidding war when the winning contract fails to continue. A smart listing agent knows that some contracts fall apart for a variety of reasons. He always has a Plan B, and it's at that time that he will skillfully and graciously return to previous bidders to see if there is still interest in the property.

A talented listing agent is going to keep a list of the bidders, their offers and their buyer's agent's phone number and email address. When offers come in, he will quickly thank all bidders for their interest and assure them that if anything happens with the accepted contract he will reach out to them.

The other way to work with a multiple bid situation is to blow off the losing bids, mock the offers, take the bid with the highest dollar amount regardless of the contingencies and ignore the buyer's agents who ask for updates and requests for a contact if something goes wrong. Burn the bridge you're standing on so that you cannot go back to previous bidders, and you have to bring the property back to market after weeks off of the market. Ignore the fact that you have a handful of buyers who are ready to follow through on their original contract offer. 

The first agent is always putting his client first in the selling process. The second agent is doing something I don't understand. A listing agent can keep a contentious bidding war from becoming a stone wall that's erected between potential buyers and a seller. Things happen with contracts. It is important to keep that bridge open for a return to a previous bid. Don't ever burn the bridge you're standing on. 

 

Comments(24)

Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

Mike, I had to laugh, and laugh and then chuckle. Oh boy have I run into the second example a time or two and just didn't understand it. 

But I do like the thought that it is like burning the bridge you are standing on. Because then the person falls in the water and gets carried far far away, downstream.... sounds like karma if you ask me. 

I just don't understand that type of behavior at all. 

Jun 20, 2015 02:06 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Amen, Pat. 

No we can't, KDJ.

I'm working with agent #1 right now, but I've had my share of agent #2, Andrea.

Jun 20, 2015 02:15 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

This is so true.

I called a listing agent yesterday regarding a house that is under contract; I had a question from a lead as to whether that deal was still moving forward and I called to find out. The listing agent not only answered my questions, but took my name and number to reach out to me in the event something happens with the current transaction. She was definitely watching out for her client.

Jun 20, 2015 06:19 AM
Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi
NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656 - New Lenox, IL
708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience

Totally agree, Mike Cooper .... no matter the situation ... or the profession ... you'll never be sorry you conducted yourself in the proper way or did right by your client.  Your message is always a timely one needing to be heard ...

 

                                          CONGRATULATIONS!   WELL DONE!

 

 

                                            YOU'RE FEATURED IN BANANATUDE!

 

Gene

Jun 20, 2015 06:43 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I've not heard that saying about burning the bridge your standing on.  That's great wisdom.  Kind of like not sawing off the limb your sitting on!

Jun 20, 2015 07:27 AM
Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert
Zion Realty - Gilbert, AZ
Broker/Owner of Zion Realty ZionRealtyAZ.com

In any multiple offer situation I always thank everyone for their offers and advise them that should the accepted contract fall through I will be reaching back out them. That's just good business. 

Jun 20, 2015 11:29 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Don't you love it, Kat?

Thank you, Gene.

Myrl, that is one of my personal beattitudes. 

That's the way to do it, Nicole, and I can guarantee most agents love it too.

Jun 20, 2015 12:15 PM
Lisa Friedman
Great American Dream Realty - Essex, VT
35 Years of Real Estate Experience!

I had not heard that quote either and agree that it is a good one. It is interesting how many times I see a property that is still showing as active or active with contract on MLS that the listing agent will simply say, "It's under contract" and dismiss you without any courtesy. They did not change it on MLS.

Jun 20, 2015 06:05 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

Funny you should right this post for today.  I have an offer on the table now that fits this perfectly.  I do believe the current offer will hold but time will tell

Jun 20, 2015 08:32 PM
John Meussner
Mortgages in AZ, CA, CO, DE, FL, GA, IN, MD, MN, MT, NC, NJ, NV, OK, OR, PA, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VA, WI - Fair Oaks, CA
#MortgageMadeEasy Fair Oaks, CA 484-680-4852

Good advice here, burning bridges is never a good idea, I like your approach to the muti-bid environment.

Jun 23, 2015 04:27 AM
Dan Tabit
Keller Williams Bellevue - Sammamish, WA

Hi Mike, It's all too common for a buyer to win the bid and get a case of "What have I just done?"  I prepare my seller's for this, while doing my best to investigate all I can to reduce the likelihood of this happening, but it still does.  

Jun 23, 2015 05:33 AM
Green Forest Properties
Golden, CO
Your Local Golden, CO Real Estate Professional

Thanks for the advise! great post 

Jun 23, 2015 05:38 AM
Raymond Denton
Homesmart / Evergreen Realty - Irvine, CA
Irvine Realtor®

Reminds me of my Dad's saying - Man who lives in glass house, should not throw stones.

Jun 23, 2015 07:28 AM
Richard Iarossi
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Crofton, MD
Crofton MD Real Estate, Annapolis MD Real Estate

Mike,

This is so true in real estate, just as it is in real life.

Rich

Jun 23, 2015 08:42 AM
Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Broker
Elizabeth Anne Weintraub, Broker - Sacramento, CA
Put 40 years of experience to work for you

Absolutely, sound advice! And I have another bridge analogy for you: don't cross it twice when once will suffice.

Jun 23, 2015 09:02 AM
Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

Excellent, Mike!   We in Tallahassee have not seen the multiple offer situation that we saw during "The Boom" of the mid-2000's, but these principles apply anytime there is more than one offer.

Jun 23, 2015 11:30 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

My dad... is a bridge builder... literally.  But he taught me lessons about having another way to the other side while building a new bridge.  Those lessons have served me well.  No burning here.  You  never know who you might need tomorrow.

Jun 23, 2015 01:37 PM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

You made me laugh, burning the bridge you are standing on doesn't make sense to me either! Well done!

Jun 24, 2015 12:57 PM
Brian Schulman
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage, Lancaster PA - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster County PA RealEstate Expert 717-951-5552

Mike, another way I have seen this situation put is, keep your words sweet on your way up the ladder because you may have to eat them on the way down!

Jun 24, 2015 10:08 PM
Frank Castaldini
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Realtor - Homes for Sale in San Francisco

Well written.  When I explain my competitive edge with sellers I tell them that I' am well respected by the realtor community which means they want to work with me whether it my listing or if I have a buyer down the road.  Being respectful to everyone is the golden rule.  It applies in real estate like in anything else.

Jun 25, 2015 12:39 PM