How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count The Ways . . .

Real Estate Agent with Falcon Property Solutions

Too Many to Count

If you know me at all, you know that, several decades later, I'm still madly in love with my husband. His "love language" is Acts of Service, and there's not a day that passes that he doesn't show me in some form or another how much he loves me. While I was contemplating something special he'd done for me this morning, I thought this would be the perfect post to start my November Thanksgiving Gratitude Challenge


We started as neighbors and business partners. I was a single mother of five young daughters (youngest who is developmentally delayed). He was a confirmed bachelor, a contractor who could swing a mean hammer and wanted to rehab Victorians in Downtown Colorado Springs where we lived. The father of my daughters only wanted sons and no longer lived with us nor supported us, so I needed to find a job that would enable me to bring my kids along when they weren't in school. My neighbor asked if I wanted to help him rehab, he'd teach me everything I needed to know, and I got pretty proficient at plumbing, electrical, drywall, mudding, pounding nails, etc. We let the girls tear out sheetrock.


A decade later, the confirmed bachelor decided he couldn't live without us and asked "us" to marry him. Life has been (seriously) blissful since then. I'm the extrovert, he's the introvert. It's an incredible combination.


He does for me every. single. day. He says he's trying to keep up with me and how much I do for him, so it works out well. I let him believe it.

  • He still works as hard as any contractor in their 30s
  • He makes me tapioca and banana/chocolate chip muffins when I'm sick
  • He puts gas in my car whenever I need it
  • He fixes my car when it breaks
  • He indulges me daily
  • I don't remember the last time I was in a grocery store
  • He loves to cook for me
  • He takes Callie (youngest) wherever she needs to go
  • He plays cards with the grandsons
  • He taught the girls to drive. Now it's the grandkids.
  • He makes my incredible real estate signs
  • I asked for a mallet and he made me an entire set of wooden utensils
  • He brought home an 1880 door and made me a headboard
  • He made our living room tables
  • He mows our acre of grass and won't let me get him a riding mower
  • He took loving care of my mother for ten years in our home
  • He leaves notes in random drawers to tell me how much he loves and adores me
  • He grinds the wheat and makes our bread
  • He does the dishes
  • He makes me belly laugh almost daily
  • He rubs my feet to help me sleep
  • He drops what he's doing to fix inspection items on my listings
  • He moves furniture around when I get bored with it
  • He comforts my girls when they're heartbroken. He is their dad.
  • I say something in 1000 words, he profoundly summarizes in 10
  • If I express a desire, he remembers and makes it or brings it home
  • There's nothing he doesn't know how to do - except dance. He can't dance
  • He helps me make the bed every day
  • He does his own laundry
  • He brought Popeye's new chicken sandwiches home for dinner LOL
  • We hop in the car and drive for hours thinking up book plots
  • He cries when he reads my novels
  • There's a little of him reflected in all of my books
  • He still makes my heart skip a beat when he walks in the door
  • He even shared cancer with me

I know I may sound sappy, but in almost thirty years we've never had a fight. We respect each other and listen to what the other has to say. I tell my girls all the time . . . what I want most is for them to find their own Dave.


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Mimi Foster

(719) 460-7570


Mimi has received the honor of being voted one of the best Realtors in Colorado Springs five years in a row. With over two decades of experience, she is committed to making the home buying/selling process as painless and enjoyable as possible. Read Full Bio…

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Comments (29)

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Congratulations on having such a wonderful relationship, treasure and cherish it as you do and keep feeding it with the love you both obviously have for each other.

Nov 08, 2019 06:24 AM
Mimi Foster

Thank you, Nick.

Nov 08, 2019 06:59 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker, eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

What a beautiful love story. I love it. Thank you for sharing!

Nov 08, 2019 06:39 AM
Mimi Foster

It brings joy to my heart to think of him. Thank you, Kat. Hope you're doing well.

Nov 08, 2019 07:00 AM
Alan May
Jameson Sotheby's International Realty - Evanston, IL
A moving experience!

Never argued??   You're missing out on "make-up sex".

Nov 08, 2019 06:55 AM
Mimi Foster

The I-haven't-seen-you-for-twenty-minutes-I-can't-wait-to-rip-your-clothes-off sex ain't bad sometimes. 

Nov 08, 2019 07:04 AM
Alan May

I shoulda knowed the romance writer would have things well in hand.

Nov 08, 2019 07:11 AM
Mimi Foster

Trust me, well indeed 

Nov 08, 2019 07:13 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Is not a good movie or meal or travel episode worthy of mention/sharing? How much more then to mention a person of good character, warmth & worth? Share-on! The brevity of life has the final mention. Lets give it much to say

Nov 08, 2019 10:22 AM
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

What a wonderful story of friendship and yes, romance. I have met you both and concur, you make a good combination and complement one another very well.  Bravo for expressing your love and gratitude for your wonderful partner in life. 

Nov 08, 2019 10:31 AM
Mimi Foster

Thanks so much, my friend. I will keep him. 

Nov 08, 2019 03:37 PM
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

You sure did get yourself a good one. This is a lovely story.

Nov 08, 2019 01:02 PM
Mimi Foster

The best! Thank you!

Nov 08, 2019 03:37 PM
John Henry, Florida Architect
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

Wonderful.  I think I hit three items on that list!!!  ack

Nov 08, 2019 01:05 PM
Mimi Foster

So maybe you print it out and do a few more? 

Nov 08, 2019 03:38 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Mimi,
Wow... you got a winner there! But, we all know a good relationship is a two-way street so I'm looking forward to you publishing his list of the things you do for him and why he loves YOU!  I'm sure the list is just as long. 

Nov 08, 2019 02:43 PM
Mimi Foster

Too, too funny. Thank you so much. He said it's longer LOL

Nov 08, 2019 03:39 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

What a beautiful story. Just proved that happily ever after is not a fairytale. A

Nov 08, 2019 05:57 PM
Mimi Foster

My own personal fairytale. Many days we just look at each other and say, How'd we get so blessed?

Nov 09, 2019 04:15 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Wow what a guy I do not believe they have these guys running around by the droves... you better keep him:)Endre

Nov 08, 2019 10:43 PM
Mimi Foster

The world would be a whole different place if there were a colony of them, right, Endre? You better believe he's mine for life. Hope you're doing well.

Nov 09, 2019 04:17 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

So beautiful...what a love story!
You and your daughters are blessed to have Dave to love!

Nov 09, 2019 05:27 AM
Mimi Foster

They all think of him as their Dad and they adore him. We've all learned over the years that you can never "out give the giver." LOL Good to see you!

Nov 09, 2019 05:39 AM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Wow! This is a wonderful story.

You did find a very special guy!

Nov 09, 2019 05:58 AM
Mimi Foster

Thanks so much, Roy! My stroke of good luck when we moved in next door to him! 

Nov 09, 2019 06:10 AM
Kimo Jarrett
WikiWiki Realty - Huntington Beach, CA
Pro Lifestyle Solutions

Fabulous post, inspiring and motivating. Your post reminded me of the song, "wind beneath my wings." You and your family are truly Blessed. All the best to your continued success. 

Nov 09, 2019 08:10 AM
Mimi Foster

Beautiful comparison, Kimo. He is definitely the wind beneath my wings. (Wait - does that make me an angel?)

Nov 09, 2019 08:16 AM
Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® 240.593.2860 - Silver Spring, MD
Fluent in German and Real Estate * M.A. ABR ASP

I don't only like this blog post, I love it Mimi, and would hit that button a hundred times if AR would let me!

I feel very fortunate to have been allowed a glimpse of your incredible love story, and wonderful family. The very special bond you all share - even with the ones on the other side of the country - shines through in every single picture you post and story you tell Mimi. You are so blessed,  you inspire, and you give me hope.. maybe there is another historic homes savior/bachelor out there with similar qualities. If not, that's okay, too, but I won't settle for anything less.  

Nov 09, 2019 11:21 AM
Mimi Foster

Don't ever settle again. No matter how long it takes, he's waiting for you too. Love you, girl . . . let's make it happen 

Nov 09, 2019 04:08 PM
Andrea Bedard

I promise, I won't Mimi!  Love you back! 

Nov 11, 2019 09:29 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Mimi - finding "true love" is wonderful and you clearly have found it.  

Nov 09, 2019 03:14 PM
Mimi Foster

Clearly. Thank you, Michael. Hope it's a good weekend.

Nov 09, 2019 04:09 PM
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

You found your soul mate!  I wish there was a better photo of him--to see his entire face!  I'm sure he knows how much you appreciate him.

Nov 10, 2019 09:57 AM
Mimi Foster

He doesn't like having his picture taken too much, but he's kinda cute. Yeah, it's almost a contest to see who can appreciate the other more LOL

Nov 10, 2019 10:04 AM
Lyn Sims
RE/MAX Suburban - Schaumburg, IL
Schaumburg Real Estate

Don't give him up you lucky girl!

Nov 11, 2019 07:50 AM
Mimi Foster

I can't imagine a world where that could happen, Lynn :) 

Nov 11, 2019 10:21 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Mimi:

What a wonderful tribute about Dave and all he means to you! He sounds like a pretty special person, as you are no doubt to him, too!


Nov 11, 2019 12:23 PM
Mimi Foster

It's a tender competition, Jeff. He's the best human I've ever known. Thank you!

Nov 11, 2019 01:40 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor

WOW, I wish we were all "Daves" Mimi Foster . I do a lot of those things and more but regretfully I don't do as much as your Dave.

Nov 11, 2019 06:27 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

So many ways to love and so many reasons to love so keep up all of the love! :)

Nov 15, 2019 10:29 PM