Avoiding Negative Thoughts And People. Fight Through Or Join The Crowd

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picture of man fighting through crowd of people trying to stop him from achieving his goals


Avoiding Negative Thoughts And People.  Fight Through Or Join The Crowd


Before you read another word of this post take a second and look at the picture above.  Take yourself back to the moment in your life where it was you you standing at the beginning of your journey.  Now think about all of the obstacles that you had in front of you that either seemed overwhelming and made you want to quit or instead motivated you to bust through, work harder and become the successful person you are today.


When I saw this picture it hit home and I knew I wanted to use it for my next post.  It spoke to me because I'm still working and manuvering my way up that path to reach all of my goals.  As you guys know, being in the real estate world is not easy at all.  It takes knowledge, patience, relationships and persistance to succeed.  Along the way to success though there are going to be numerous challenges that you can either face head on and conquer or you can fold and turn into one of the problems for the next person looking to achieve their goals.


Failure wasn't an option for me so I took a deep breath and dove in.  Each day brings a different shape and size puzzle piece but I really do enjoy figuring out what goes where and why.  For those of you who are starting off on your journey or still working your way through like me remember to KEEP YOUR EYES ON YOUR GOALS at all times.  Don't let anyone or anything stop you from accomplishing your dreams.  There has been times where doubt has set in or I've wanted to take one of those objects out of the characters hands and take a swing.  To have those temporary thoughts are normal but quiting isn't and should never be an option.


For this post I want to do something different.  I want to hear some of the war stories and challenges that you may have had to endure over the years.  What where some of the things that made you want to pull your hair out but now you look back and laugh about it?  What advice can you share for the readers that we all can take with us and use to keep us moving forward?


I hope my post reaches the eyes of everyone who may have needed some motivation on this Wednesday morning.  Be safe out there, wash those hands and until next time I'm Out..................


Chris Ivy


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Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

Every job has obstacles--that's what makes it challenging!  I've done some stupid things, learned from those incidents and then I've come up with some good, creative ideas that my clients really like and appreciate!

Jul 23, 2020 09:12 AM #17
Gloria Todor
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services - Newtown Square, PA
& Doug Durren (484) 431-3686 in SE PA

Chris welcome to AR.  Yes keeping your eyes on your goal is the way to go for sure. I guess the times I get discouraged the most, is when we work so hard to get to the table and then the deal falls through.  The feeling of working and not getting paid for our efforts sometimes makes me want to leave the business. But then Doug reminds me of the many other good situations where our hard work does make a difference in someone's life by helping them close, and we get to pay our bills. Luckily this does not happen often!!

Jul 23, 2020 10:41 AM #18
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Chris Ivy - First of all, Welcome to ActiveRain and congratulations on your well-deserved feature. Many of us call it the "gold star".  I appreciate the way you set up the image you used.  I didn't even see the "you" figure at first.  

I have so many stories that I could write a book!  My latest one was just a couple of days ago.  This happened right in front of my sellers.  The buyer agent comes into the garage.  I was 20 feet away and started to approach her.  She yells and holds her hand up in a stop position and says over and over "STOP! Social distancing! Social distancing! Social distancing!"  I thought to myself, this is starting out very well. LOL!  I got a very interesting look from my client and a call later to ask if I was OK!  I only wish I would have started writing these stories down when I first started.  Nothing surprises me anymore! I wish you the best in ActiveRain.

Jul 23, 2020 11:50 AM #19
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR
Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results

Morning Chris.

Been there, when I was young I knew I wanted to be in the military or a police officer.  After 29 years, I retired and took up real estate.  Twelve years later, I'm on my way, breaking through the ceilings.  Hang in there, it will get easier  

Jul 24, 2020 01:55 AM #20
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR
Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results

Morning Chris.

Well lets try this again.  Shorter version, hang in there, things will work out.

Jul 24, 2020 01:58 AM #21
Debra Leisek
Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska - Homer, AK

I so enjoy your posts. You have a really fresh way of presenting your thoughts and ideas.

I was born positive and my mother was a role model for when the going gets tough the tough get going... so set your sights, never settle and keep on going till you get there!!

thank you for another wonderful post!!

Jul 24, 2020 02:04 AM #22
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good morning Chris - that graphic brings back memories of my journey to goals.  You need to remember that friends and family think they are protecting you but you need to be kind but keep moving past them.

Jul 24, 2020 05:34 AM #23
John Henry, Florida Architect
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

The only thing I have to fear is.... maybe I should have tried another profession and the biggest thing holding me back now is.... me!  Thanks for your well thought out post!

Jul 24, 2020 09:34 AM #24
John Wieland
Exp Realty - Delray Beach, FL
Mr Downtown Delray

Awesome Chris,

Whether you're 25, or 55... this visual reign's on point for anyone. No better time than NOW to start over, reinvent yourself and kick fear to the wolves. Thanks for bringing this one tothe table.

Jul 25, 2020 04:03 AM #25
Charles Stallions
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services - Pensacola, FL
800-309-3414 - Pensacola, Pace or Gulf Breeze, Fl.

Very good and well thought out and most take the path of less resistance and lose the goal altogether. 

Jul 25, 2020 04:10 AM #26
Jamie King
Hoty Enterprises, Inc. - Huron, OH
Sandusky, OH

Thank you for this bright note of optimism and perseverance. Very refreshing!

Jul 25, 2020 04:28 AM #27
Jimmy Faulkner
Florida. Homes Realty & Mortgage - Wantagh, NY
The Best Of St. Augustine

What a FANTASTIC post. New people should endevor to read this before they begin their careers.

Jul 25, 2020 06:04 AM #28
Janelle Ancillotti
Seneca Home Staging - Syracuse, NY
HSR Certified Home Stager, Syracuse, NY

Hi Chris! Really good words of wisdom. A lot of folks are surprised to realize that their own friends and relatives are holding them back from reaching their goals!! I don't have a specific story to share, but I am reminded of an often-told analogy about "crabs in the bucket"; maybe you've heard it

Jul 25, 2020 06:48 AM #29
Kimo Jarrett
WikiWiki Realty - Huntington Beach, CA
Pro Lifestyle Solutions

I learned long ago from my position coach when I was playing college football that to be a winner takes commitment, to always strive to be the best you can be and while you are training to hone your skills and then competing, know the difference between winners and losers. Winners get up after being knocked down while losers stay down.

We had a drill called the gauntlet, running through 20 players trying to knock you down, the drill was nasty but the lesson lasted a lifetime. First practice, of two a days, there were 130 players, second practice only 86 suited up and eventually ended with 56 players at the end of the season and a national championship. Great post.

Jul 25, 2020 11:57 AM #30
Paddy Deighan JD PhD
federalfinanciallawgroup.com - Vail, CO
Paddy Deighan J.D. Ph.D

truly a different and thought provoking post...we all have challenges and our response to these challenges is what shapes our personal and business success

Jul 25, 2020 02:21 PM #31
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

Glad I found this one, Chris. I too love your writing and enjoy reading your posts. Last year, a ( very dramatic) client checked herself into a mental health facility the day we got an offer on her home. Fortunately, we muddled our way through and got the offer signed, with her doctor's letter saying she was mentally sound. She ran hot and cold the entire 45 days of selling her home, and buying another. Needless to say, I did a lot of deep breathing and meditation to keep myself healthy.  And, no, I won't be representing her again in any future transactions. Lesson learned. 

Jul 25, 2020 03:09 PM #32
Matthew Klinowski, PA
Downing-Frye - Naples, FL
Golf Community Real Estate Specialist

Good morning Chris, I enjoyed your post and the graphic says a thousand words. Where there are challenges there are also opportunities. I heard a general once sau "failure is an opportunity to learn". Or as Winton Churchill said, "Success consists of going form failure to failure withouts loss of enthusiasm". I don't know about you, but the more obstacles in the way, the more determined I am to overcome them, even if it means slipping now and again. Thanks for sharing your thought proving post!

Jul 26, 2020 08:53 AM #33
Ricki Eichler McCallum
CastNet Realty - Corpus Christi, TX
Broker,GRI,ABR, e-Pro, TAHS

Hi Chris,  I love your post, so encouraging.  I recently wrote a book PANDEMIC Real Estate and in it I share some of the challenges I had in my real estate career.  There have been many ups and downs in the economy and as Realtors we must face the challenge and plow through them.  There will always be obstacles but it will only make you stronger when you get through them.  This pandemic is going to be tough but so was the 2008/2009 recession, the savings and loan fiasco of the late 1980's, etc.  We will survive!

Jul 27, 2020 09:02 AM #34
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I can hold out for small things and enjoy when the day gets better. Love and light and all the best!

Jul 28, 2020 07:44 PM #35
Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR®, Broker

Great information, thanks for sharing.  I hope you have a great day.

Jul 31, 2020 01:45 AM #36
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