Seattle Holiday Party Etiquette – Hostess Gifts and Thank You Notes

It’s holiday party season again in Seattle (okay, okay... and the rest of the country), and it’s better to give than to receive - okay, it’s fun to receive too. Whether you’re hosting or attending, here are a few etiquette tips to help you navigate the waters of hostess gifts and thank you notes.

Unless you’re attending an office holiday party or large charity-type event, it’s appropriate to bring a hostess gift. A bottle of wine or flowers are traditional options. However, don’t be afraid to think outside the gift box and choose an item better suited to your host.

For example, a “foodie” host and hostess might enjoy gourmet chocolates, decadent artisanal cheeses, and aged balsamic vinegar or limited-release olive oil. Dried fruits, premium nuts and exotic spices are also great options. Or consider fresh baked breads and locally made jams. Forgo the bouquet of flowers and bring potted rosemary or other herbs instead.

Throwing a holiday party is hard work, and gifts that help the host and hostess relax are popular as a result. Consider luxury bath oils and salts, bubble bath, aromatic candles, or a CD featuring soothing seasonal music. A tasteful quality little teapot, teacups, and selection of stress-relieving teas are another thoughtful option.

If you’re hosting and you’ve received a gift of food or wine, don’t feel as though you have to open it to share at the party. It is perfectly appropriate to save the gift for a time when you can relax and unwind alone. Thank the giver sincerely and let her know that you’ll be enjoying the gift later.

As a party guest, make an effort to say goodbye to your host at the end of the night, no matter how crowded the party may still be when you leave. Wait around if necessary, but do not leave without saying "Thank You" for their holiday hospitality. And while email is acceptable for almost everything these days, make your grandmother proud and follow up with a handwritten thank you note instead.