For those who know me at least a little bit, you might guess that this post is inspired something altogether different than it is. I guess all inspiration comes from the same place, so don't get too concerned over this brief glimpse into the melancholy side of my conscience.
I had breakfast with a friend yesterday and our conversation really got to me. He's a newlywed. That's supposed to be the time when you're still infatuated with your spouse. Our conversation should have been about the joyful times he was having with his new bride. Instead, our conversation was a heavy and draining conversation about betrayal, anger, disappointment and divorce. My heart broke for my friend yesterday. I remember those days and how it felt for me when I walked those same dark halls. I walked those halls alone for quite a while and, if it hadn't been for a good friend who came alongside me and helped carry my burden, I don't know where I would have ended up. I won't let that happen now.
Nothing else seems to matter much when your heart is broken. Sleep doesn't come and you soon find yourself in a numb haze that goes on forever. You feel like this song, which speaks so strongly and effectively (as only Evanesence can) about the pain that love brings us when things go wrong. I think that mourning our losses in life is very important to our abilities to grow and move on. I'm mourning my friend's all to premature loss of innocence in his marriage. How often does this happen in America these days? We are a nation of disposable everything, even marriages.
I could easily relate this to the real estate market and our national problem with foreclosures, but I think that correlation is all too apparant. The most important thing right now is my friend and his wife. They're both very angry right now. They're both disappointed and feeling such a loss of hope. They are experiencing a great deal of pain and want it to be over with right now. Divorce isn't the answer to that problem and I made sure he understood that. A divorce doesn't break the bond between two people who have committed themselves to one another. It just provides a legal validation of the decision that they have made to go separate ways physically. Spiritually, those two people still have a connection that will last for all of their lives, whether they like it or not.
I'm praying that they work on their physical relationship, with all of the emotions that are involved with that, and that they let the spiritual connection they have hold them together until they can get the rest figured out. They'll be much happier in the end.
Until next time...
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