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What Your Boss Is Stealing From You (And How To Get It Back)

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Services for Real Estate Pros with The Silent Partner Marketing

What to do when the boss is stealing from you.I once knew a guy who rarely needed to go to the store.

Toilet paper.  Pens.  Bottles of water.  You name it.  If it was to be found in his office, it was also soon to be found in his house.

He was one of countless employees out there stealing from his company.

Last year, The Global Retail Barometer revealed that American retail staff actually steal more from their employers than crooks in the stores.  While shoplifters account for 37 percent of revenue lost...employees account for 43 percent.

According to the report, the majority of it is from sleight-of-hand at the register - canceling transactions that shouldn't be canceled, issuing refunds that shouldn't be issued, etc.

It's this type of theft that gets all of the media coverage, and rightfully so.  But did we ever stop to think about how it is ... or WHAT it is ... that bosses are stealing from employees?  It's time to call them to the carpet.

1.  Confidence

I'll never forget the first time working in television that I brought a spectacular story to my News Director...only to have it shot down.  You've experienced this.  You've got an idea or a concept that you think will do great for the company.  A good boss will help you either develop the idea or help you to understand why it might not be all you think it's cracked up to be.  A bad boss will crush your soul.  Not only was my story shot down, but the ND went on to berate me for what an idiot I had been for even suggesting something like that in the first place.

My confidence was stolen.

So how do you get it back?  

Look for positive affirmation from your coworkers.  Take the idea and run with it anyway, but use their input to strengthen it.  Sometimes it's better to beg for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission.

2.  Integrity

We had a restaurant group that we were doing business with.  Our point of contact was the General Manager.  Red flags started going up left and right when the checks stopped coming in, and the GM kept apologizing and promising them next week.

Guess what?  The checks never came.

Who had to call us and apologize with his tail between his legs?  The General Manager.  He was the guy who brought us in and signed the contract.

His integrity was stolen.

How do you get it back?

If you're being asked to perform tasks that are a violation of your ethics or integrity, you need to ask yourself why you are working for the company to begin with.  Integrity has a price, and sometimes you need to know when the cost is so great that it's time for you to start looking.

3.  Time with family and quality of life

You remember the scene from Office Space.  The one where the boss tells him he's got to work on the weekend.

Then there are the bosses who expect you to respond to emails at 5am and at 11pm.  They'll text you at 1am with something they forgot to send you earlier...and expect that by the time they wake up, it'll be done.  

Is that your boss?  Does he or she respect your time off?  

Listen - I'm a firm believer in working your butt off - whether you are salary or hourly.  It's what sets the good employees apart from the great employees.  But when looking at MY employees, I also value them as PEOPLE when I see what good mothers and fathers they are.  

So how do we draw the line?

First of all, if you have vacation time coming to you...take it.  If you've got family time planned for the nights or weekends... take it.  And make sure to let your boss know that the sign of a good employee is one who is able to strike the balance of effectively accomplishing tasks and exceeding their expectations while striking a balance of simultaneously providing for your family.

And if you want to save your marriage...shut off your cell phone at the dinner table.  Trust me.

4.  Mental sanity and health

A good friend of mine is the VP for an international insurance company.  The guy does very well for himself.  But lately, he's losing his edge.  His boss read an article about the importance of being an efficient multi-tasker and is pushing the staff on this approach.  My buddy is a TERRIBLE multi-tasker.  And so instead of increasing his productivity, this boss is shooting his stress level through the roof and he's starting to crumble.

He refuses to take sick time.  Let's not forget that his boss also thinks it's good to be "tough" and work through the flu...which just creates a hotbed of illness in the workplace.

Stolen: mental sanity and health.

How do you get it back?

Sit down with your boss and discuss realistic expectations for the job and explain what will help you, as an employee, to be as productive as possible.  

5.  Creativity, innovation and passion

There are countless bosses out there who like to say they like innovation and creativity, but when push comes to shove...they prefer conformity.

The problem with conformity is that when you encourage creativity and innovation and then replace it with bureaucratic red tape, you stifle passion.  That quickly leads to the passion being replaced with something then confused with laziness.

So how do we get it back?

It depends on your work environment.  Some bosses are reasonable and you can sit down with them and discuss what drives you to be YOU.  But sometimes...it can't be won back in the office.

That's where your family and friends come in.  Know when to hold them...know when to fold them.  Perhaps that creativity and passion are best served giving back to the community.  Just because it doesn't work on the job doesn't mean you can't use it to still have a positive impact on the lives of others.

Now it's your turn.  What have past bosses stolen from you?  What did you do to get it back?

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Kyle Reyes is the President and Creative Director of The Silent Partner Marketing, a boutique marketing firm focused on helping businesses grow in an age of exploding technology.
 
Reyes is an acclaimed Keynote Speaker on entrepreneurship, leadership, marketing and social media.
 
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

I must say, this isn't an issue for me in real estate. But when I was in the corporate world, I was very lucky to have had terrific bosses, so really didnt' run into these issues. (Of course, I picked my bosses carefully.)

Apr 14, 2015 12:07 AM
Bill Roberts
Brooks and Dunphy Real Estate - Oceanside, CA
"Baby Boomer" Retirement Planner

Hi Kyle, Shortly after graduating college I had a job with a good company, but my boss was horrible. I made the decision to quit. Over the next several years I fought with the idea that I wanted a career with one of these Fortune 500 companies.

Eventually, I decided to be my own boss. I never regretted the decision.

A few years ago (30 years after the fact) I ran into someone from that first company. He told me that that manager had "run off" many good, young employees. The company "knew" they had a bad manager but never did anything about it.

I'm happy with the way things woeked out, but who knows what the future might have been if this guy hadn't stolen my dream.

Bill Roberts

Apr 14, 2015 12:09 AM
John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
Honesty, Integrity, Results, Experienced. HIRE Me!

Good Tuesday morning Kyle Reyes -

A thief is a thief and stealing is stealing no matter how big or small. I had a boss once that stole my personal time.  My young sister died from cancer and he told me if I took off for her funeral I was fired.  I took off and no I did not get fired.   

Apr 14, 2015 12:28 AM
Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert
Zion Realty - Gilbert, AZ
Broker/Owner of Zion Realty ZionRealtyAZ.com

Well since I was an agent for 15 years before I became a broker I'd say my past bosses stole a lot of money from my poor commision splits that they wouldn't negotiate to pay me more inspite of me always being one of the top office producers wherever I've gone. I was perfectly fine understanding that as an agent by law you have a broker and you will pay fees and commision splits to that brokerage but I've been on the receiving end of some bad splits in my day which is why I moved on from those brokerages. 

Apr 14, 2015 12:31 AM
Noah Seidenberg
Coldwell Banker - Evanston, IL
Chicagoland and Suburbs (800) 858-7917

A very sad state Kyle. I have never stolen one thing in my life. I also agree with John McCormack it is a few bad apples that spoil the barrel.

Apr 14, 2015 01:12 AM
John F Muscarella
RIVER FARM PROPERTIES, LLC - Venice, FL
Broker/Owner, Venice, FL, Florida's Suncoast

Prior to real estate I spent 30 yrs. in the corporate world and made it to executive levels.  On the way up I saw numerous examples of the bosses you outlined.  I always used them as references of what NOT to do.  I always found the more I gave away responsibility to the individual and built an environment of trust and kept an open door - the more my team performed.  

 

Apr 22, 2015 08:05 PM
Martin E. Kalisker, Esq.
Natick, MA
Real Estate Law From A Practical Perspective

Unfortunately,  lack of quality mentors and working with senior management who could not look beyond managing the business beyond a 12 month operating cycle to continually "improve shareholder value" to the detriment of mid to long-term strategic investments to improve workplace satisfaction and competitive advantage led me to abandon the "Fast Lane" several years ago (how's that for a run-on sentence?)  Although I was in a career where professional competence was critical to managerial success, people skills were horribly lacking in many of my peers.  Today, the opposite is true.  But that's the result of the age of empowerment, which is, sad to say, going to bite us all in the back side as rugged good looks and b.s. will only get you so far in life.  Look at real estate agents in a tough market.  Only the fittest survive.  And, no offense intended, a monkey could sell real estate in today's market of multiple offers and buyers knocking on doors looking for FSBOs.

May 12, 2015 10:25 AM