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NAIL IN THE FENCE STORY

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Real Estate Agent with KELLER WILLIAMS REAL ESTATE, LLC

I just received an email containing this story.  It's a good one that easily applies to our everyday lives and interactions with people.  Thought it was good enough to share...

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one."

"When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them ovey us, we can turn the whole animal.  Or take shipas as an example.  Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go.   Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts.  Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark." 

Krista Ingram - Colorado Realtor

Mary McCleskey & Michelle Gumeny
Assist-2-Sell, Home Buyers & Sellers Realty, Inc. - Acworth, GA
What a great lesson. I should try that on my sons. They would be very busy hammering if I made them do that when they get angry and say ugly things to eachother!
Apr 22, 2008 01:41 PM
Cynthia Tilghman, Realtor® Onslow County NC Home Specialist
Kingsbridge Realty, Inc - Hubert, NC
Hello Krista,
My minister used that story in a sermon a few months ago.  What a great lesson.
Apr 22, 2008 01:45 PM
Latonia Parks
Top Bragg Realty, Fayetteville NC, Home of the 82d ABN DIV - Fayetteville, NC
Certified Military Relocation Expert
I have heard this story before as well.  It is a great one to pass along.
Apr 23, 2008 12:45 AM
Jeff&Grace Safrin
F.C.Tucker 1st Team Real Estate - Valparaiso, IN
SpousesSellingHousesTM

Hello Krista - Thanks for sharing ( I had never heard this) and I will definitely be passing this one on to family & friends - awesome lesson!

Sincerely,

Grace

Apr 23, 2008 01:35 AM
Cynthia Mader
Long and Foster Real Estate inc. - Brunswick, MD
Thanks for sharing, I think that is a great lesson
Apr 23, 2008 08:00 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth
Krista, a great story about the fact that their are consequences no matter what. Thanks.
Apr 23, 2008 08:19 AM
David Saks
Memphis, TN
Broker / Industry Analyst

John Lennon told a story in a BBC interview, the night he passed away, just before Christmas on December 8, 1980, about how he met Yoko Ono. He said that she handed him an imaginary board, an imaginary hammer and an imaginary nail. She told him to use the imaginary hammer to hammer the imaginary nail into the imaginary board and that his frustrations would become imaginary. Hence: the song 'Imagine', although he didn't come right out and say that her demonstration of fantasy was the inspirational force behind his lyricism. The scars and damages to the imaginary board were imaginary and no damage was done. The benefits were ripe. Nice story, Krista. Just wanted to share this one with you.

Apr 23, 2008 08:38 AM
Shannon Aldrich
Keller Williams Coastal Realty - Rye, NH
NH & Maine Real Estate Seacoast
Love the lesson from the heart. Than you for sharing.
Apr 29, 2008 05:35 AM
L. Wayne Denton
Denton Properties, Inc. - Loganville, GA
I have a handle on your market!!!

I have loved that story for a long time.  I really like what you wrote after the story though.  The idea of the things we say, whether it be by the spoken word or the written word, has such an impact on how people see us.  I find that I tend to gravitate towards people who are very positive and seldom, if ever, say a negative word.  Active Rain folks ought to speak loudly the positive things we do for people every day.

Thank you for your smile, your inspiration, and your positive attitude.

Apr 30, 2008 07:20 AM
KRISTA INGRAM
KELLER WILLIAMS REAL ESTATE, LLC - Littleton, CO

Hi Wayne, and thanks for your comment!  Life is so much better when we focus on the good and possible instead of the negative and seemingly impossible.  :)

Krista Ingram

Apr 30, 2008 07:26 AM
Anonymous
Sue Atkins

This brought back great memories of when I was  a teacher and a wonderful lesson I shared with my 8 year olds talking about it afterwards  - thank you for sharing

 

Sue Atkins

Author of "Raising Happy Children for Dummies

 

www.positive-parents.com

Feb 24, 2009 12:26 AM
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Anonymous
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.....it was a very very inspirational story..especially to those teenagers have a bad temper with someone.

Feb 08, 2010 01:52 PM
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