If you live long enough you will find friends that you thought were your friends abandon you. In my discussions with Buyers and Sellers alike about their circle of "friends" they all agree with me on this that you need to
GET RID OF YOUR BAG HEAD FANS.
I once coached a corporate softball intramural team that lost our first nine games straight. We were in the wrong league by the way with superior competition. If anyone deserved bag head fans in the bleachers it was us. But our family and friends stuck behind the screen and cheered us on anyway. They still loved us. You'll be happy to know that our last game ten, almost like a Hoosiers episode, yours truly coach Gary coached our winless team to our sole victory over the eventual league champion. For one shining moment on one day we came together and were Champions!!
This idea of the false friends vs. the good friends and true friends you need to hone in on. Some of those silly and chummy buds of yours are NOT your friends. When ANY kind of adversity in your life or you becoming a "burden" to them shows up, or if they have to do any work for you, "poof" they are gone. Clues that you've found good ones - they return your phone calls and emails, they listen, they care, they appreciate your counsel of them, they drop their shields one shield at a time, they would hug you if they were in the same room with you, they go the extra mile, they defend you, they would go to war for you. I have met many of this great category here within the walls of Active Rain.
And the true friends, who you may only find and be able to count on one hand in your lifetime, they know you so well they would do anything for you. Loyalty to the max. Singing the song about you when you forget your own words. So identify and dump those baggy heads when you call them out. Who needs them? They'll just drain your energy long term. Find yourself some golden true friends too and as that Nigerian proverb says about true friends:
"Hang on to them with both hands."
I wish you well in knowing very well this area of your life. And BTW, in my book you can have multiple "BEST" friends, so don't let that hold you back either.
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