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You Are Not THAT Person Anymore

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Attention BullhornOne thing I see a lot in the Real Estate industry these days is the re-inventing of oneself. Multiple income streams, people going into the business, people exiting the business. Happening in all areas with REALTORS, Stagers, Mortgage folks, etc.

But one thing I would remind people, and blast this out to them with a VERY LOUD speaker or bullhorn to get their attention,

You Are Not THAT Person Anymore.

Why people think they are wearing concrete shoes and stay stuck in the past with their self image is beyond me? How boring life would be to live like that?

 

Freaking OutMaybe you were a school teacher in a past life. Maybe you did your stint as a registered nurse for twenty years and then your back gave out.

In the relationship department you have now found yourself as a single Mom. Perhaps you retired as a man and now are a widower. Or you escaped corporate America.

Life is such this journey we all are on. You found yourself becoming a real estate agent, or you dabbled as an interior decorator or went full time into being a Stager.

Where people I think get stuck is they think they must stay in what they define themselves come hell or high water. Who says so?

They start FREAKING OUT. This change stuff is not very fun AT ALL. I want my Mommy.

Your own self-identity has to be one of the biggest limiting beliefs you may have about yourself. Is it good to be comfortable and stable with your identity? Sure. But know that your real identity, your personal identity is MORE than what you do for work. Much more.

Muscles

 

You are not the same person you were ten years ago as you are today. Sure the core YOU may still reside in your shell but much of you is different. And if you are old enough enjoy a great laugh, look at pictures of you 20 or 30 years ago.

Hopefully you are improving with time. Now we have the NEW and IMPROVED YOU!

Transformation of YOU into a better you is a good thing.

But remember the key to any kind of transformation of you is that

Only YOU can change YOU.

Be good with that thought and be a positive you zig zagging your way each day to a better personal you and a better at work you. Do not ever keep the baggage around in your head that you can't make more money, you're too old to ride motorcycles, skydive out of airplanes, snowboard in Colorado, or enjoy fruity drinks in Fiji.

Not Me

The ONE in life to change you is who???

Drumroll please,      YOU!

Reminds me of that joke.

How many psychiatrists does it take to change a lightbulb?

Only one, but the lightbulb must really want to change.

You can be anything you want, one day at a time, if you want to change.

Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Gary, What a great post.  Change is the one thing we can count on in life and we need to change with the changes (if that makes any sense :).  I've seen some people get stuck from time to time and just sometimes need a little "push" to move forward again.

Mar 10, 2009 02:01 PM
Lynda Eisenmann
Preferred Home Brokers - Brea, CA
Broker Associate ,CRS,GRI,SRES, Brea,CA, Orange Co

Hi Gary,

Good stuff, the journey analogy works for me.

Mar 10, 2009 02:11 PM
Bo Hussung
Bell Title /Triserv LLC - Nashvle, TN

Gary, I love it. Change is inevitable, spirit is inevitable, but never changing. Great post

Bo

Mar 10, 2009 02:25 PM
Barb Szabo, CRS
RE/MAX Above & Beyond - Cleveland, OH
E-pro Realtor, Cleveland Ohio Homes

Gar, So true and so wise! I am definitely not the same person I was 20 years ago and I am o.k. with that.

Mar 10, 2009 02:34 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Gary - It is so true when it comes to reinventon.  Personally, it takes a pretty good sized catalyst to induce the more effective paradigm shifts in my life.  It's one of the reasons I believe it is the worst of times, which cause me to initiate the greatest and most rewarding changes.

Mar 10, 2009 02:43 PM
Sharon Richards
Kirsten Realty Tampa Florida - Tampa, FL

Gary - I don't stay anywhere long for my feet to get stuck. LOL  Great Post - keep on writing your inspirational posts and I hope you don't change for you are such a sweetie!

Mar 10, 2009 03:05 PM
Jason Neumann
Century 21 Assurance Realty Ltd. - Kelowna, BC
Realtor - www.KelownaRealEstateNews.com

Gary,

Change is often thought off in a negative light and not something that one should really aspire towards.  In the words of the infamous Shrek to his pal Donkey..."Change is good donkey!"

Mar 10, 2009 03:19 PM
Judy Greenberg
Compass - Long Grove, IL
Compass- Long Grove -Buffalo Grove

Gary, In this changing world.. if you snooze you lose.  I love change, change of seasons, scenery, clients, etc.  

Mar 10, 2009 03:29 PM
William Johnson
Retired - La Jolla, CA
Retired

Hi Gary, I had to almost laugh outloud with the before and after picture of the lucky guy with abs. But had you put the arrow the other way, it would most closely reflect many more of us, LOL.

Mar 10, 2009 04:04 PM
Cathy Lee
CL Design Services Home Staging - Danville, CA
ASP, IAHSP, RESA Danville, CA

If we are willing to change-great things are possible to us!  Wonderful post and fabulous graphics!!  

Mar 10, 2009 05:04 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Gary,

Excellent message! Change is going on all around us. If we want to participate in life we must adapt to change. However you are right only each one of us can allow it to happen. Thanks for bringing this subject up today. It is making me realize how much change I have under gone and how delighted I am it has occurred!!

Mar 10, 2009 10:58 PM
Tara Campbell
RE/MAX Family - Harker Heights, TX
Broker/Owner, GRI, CDPE

Gary, Ive spent the last few years living this philosophy.  When I started being true to myself...it was hard for people to see that transformation but they have accepted it.  This makes me a happier person than I was before because I am able to be "me" now!  Thanks for the post!

Mar 11, 2009 01:12 AM
Kristina Yorke
www.LowestHomeLoanRatesinFL.com ~ FL FHA Mortgage Expert - Saint Petersburg, FL

Good post to read.  We all need to change according to were we want to be in our life personal & business.   What are my dreams and how can I improve myself to get closer to that goal.  Thanks for the encouragement Gary!

Mar 11, 2009 02:47 AM
Sandy Nelson
Riley Jackson Real Estate Inc. - Olympia, WA
your Olympia area Realtor

Gary,

Change is exciting and a fact of life. Not just personal change has the potential for a positive transformation. The current economical changes, although they tear us from the comfort we've gotten used to, bear with them new and exciting opportunities for growth.

Sandy

Mar 11, 2009 04:02 AM
Gail Szeluga & JoAnna Siminerio
Coldwell Banker Realty - Manalapan/Marlboro - Manalapan, NJ
Fostering Community Spirit Through Real Estate

There is so much that is good in this post!

It's motivating and thought provoking.

Personal change and improvement is so important.

Mar 11, 2009 04:10 AM
Rebecca Gaujot, RealtorĀ®
Lewisburg, WV
Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate

Gary, such an inspirational post.   As far as change, I'm all for it.  I look back at my life and I can see how I have changed ... and I LIKE IT!  I am more spiritual, and less demanding of myself, and others.

Mar 11, 2009 11:37 PM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

I really really like who I am right now.  I am helping people find homes they love and sellers sell homes thay cannot afford any more.  It is a rewarding career!

Mar 11, 2009 11:43 PM
Brad Officer
Brad Officer Real Estate - RE/MAX Specialists - Jacksonville, FL
Jacksonville REALTOR

Gary, Great post!  2009 presents an opportunity to step out of the comfort zone and try things we have never done before.  It's time to be great, not just good.  .........at least that's my plan, and I'm sticking with it!

Asheville Real Estate

Mar 12, 2009 10:44 AM
Carol Culkin
Diamond Partners Inc - Overland Park, KS
Overland Park Residential Real Estate

Gary - I am not the same person I was - because I have learned from each life experience along the way which has only made me a new and improved version of who I once was.

Mar 12, 2009 05:20 PM
Mary Ellen Elmore
Nunnelly, TN

What a wonderful and insightfule post.

just may print this and give a copy to each of my children!

Mar 13, 2009 04:23 AM