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DON'T SHOOT THE MESSENGER

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Sometimes people can become overly defensive when their message is misinterpreted. I recently met with the leaders of one of my Westchester County New York organizations to present results of a survey of their team. The members of the team felt that there were a lot of changes and they felt that leadership was not keeping them informed. Productivity almost always suffers in times of great change because team member stress dramatically increases due to the universal fear of the unknown. Often the leaders genuinely believe they are communicating with the team when it comes to matters that affect them. Unfortunately, they often underestimate the number of matters that includes.

Clearly communicating change

Can you say with certainty that you know what is important to the team and what to tell them? The only way to know is to put yourself in their shoes and see thing from their position and mindset. Think to yourself, “If I were hearing this information what would I be worried about right now in the current situation?” If you were that team member what would be important for you to know? What is the worst thing that could happen, and would you want to know about it in advance? How would you want to be told?

How would you be answering these questions? You can’t answer the questions without the input from your team—the people affected by the changes. Depending on how much you can discuss, or how much is already known, you might ask a few individuals what the grapevine is saying, and what people are worrying and wondering about.

Now, armed with this information, draft the answers to the questions. Of course they must be truthful answers, for insincerity is easily recognized and will deal a deathblow to your communication efforts. Then they must be couched in terms that are clear and uncompromising, but also considerate and compassionate. It's worth spending some time on this part. Lack of commitment to your message is also easily read and will automatically raise the cynicism level among the team.

 

Communication

You should carefully consider the media used to communicate your message. The way a person receives news can dramatically affect how he or she feels about it, so you need to choose the medium very carefully. E-mail can be perceived as cold and unfeeling in many cases, although it is useful for routine updates that don't have emotional overtones. Some messages are better spoken, either by team leaders to their groups or by the CEO to the whole organization.

If the messengers don't have highly developed communication skills, it's worth engaging services of people can coach them in the tools of two way communication. The message must remain honest, clear, and compassionate.

And above all, follow through on your commitments and promises. Nothing turns employees off more than empty words. Sincere, caring, ongoing communication can form the basis for building employee engagement when the present time of turmoil ends.  Read a similar blog on our web site titled WHY ARE THEY SHOOTING THE MESSENGER?

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Comments(36)

Joe Petrowsky
Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT
Your Mortgage Consultant for Life

Good morning Grant. I laughed when I read your title, as I say that to my mortgage clients all the time, but no matter how many times it is repeated, so will get upset. Communication is such an important part of a successful transaction.

Feb 01, 2016 06:48 PM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Robert - sometimes they say things not are not entirely correctly because they are aftraid.

Debbie - yes, that is right.  I know someone that was know to convey anger through emails.

Joe - yes, the truth is what it is.

Feb 01, 2016 08:42 PM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

People do not always take criticism well even if the thoughts are meant to add value and improve the overall situations.  Personal can always be a problem, but true leaders recognize the comments for the positive in which they were intended

Feb 01, 2016 10:42 PM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Ed - yes, true people do no always respond well when they take things personally.

Feb 02, 2016 10:19 AM
Lisa Von Domek
Lisa Von Domek Team - Dallas, TX
....Experience Isn't Expensive.... It's Priceless!

Hello Grant Schneider 

Communicating criticism can be the most difficult task for a team.  Great graphic with the tin cans(!)

Feb 02, 2016 10:38 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Lisa - That is always the big problem and also communicating unpleasant news is another one.

Feb 02, 2016 11:50 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Grant I always tell my clients the same message "do not shoot the messenger just because you do not like the news":)) and it usually works and breaks the ICE:), Endre

Feb 02, 2016 01:48 PM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Endre - yes honesty is always the best approach to telling people what they may not want to hear.

Feb 03, 2016 05:39 AM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

When communication is limited to the written word...no face to face or phone to phone...there is a lot of room for misunderstanding.

Feb 03, 2016 06:39 PM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Sally and David - although poor body language can have an effect too.

Feb 04, 2016 01:16 AM
Donna Foerster
HomeSmart Realty Group - Parker, CO
Metro Denver Real Estate Assistant

Asking good questions is solid advice, no matter the organization!

Feb 04, 2016 06:14 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Donna - that has been my experience.

Feb 05, 2016 09:43 AM
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC

Grant

Effective communication  is essential to have a successful business . . . . and life.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Feb 05, 2016 12:55 PM
Robert Vegas Bob Swetz
Las Vegas, NV

Hello Grant ... great post my friend and I almost missed this one!

Feb 07, 2016 03:48 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Lou - one of the biggest obstacles is poor communication.

Robert - I am glad you didn't miss it.

Feb 07, 2016 04:05 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

This is an excellent message to share. Many team leaders and business owners need to work on their communication skills.

Feb 10, 2016 02:45 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Roy - I hope it helps leaders understand how important communication is.

Feb 10, 2016 07:23 PM
Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor

Thank you Grant Schneider Communication is key to success in all aspects of life.  Love the old fashioned graphic! I remember making one as kids a long, long time ago

Feb 13, 2016 05:40 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Mary - I think the the graphic says it all.  If you are not properly connected you have problems.

Feb 14, 2016 09:29 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Grant Schneider ,

I just caught this when Roy Kelley re-blogged. What an important message to share..thank you!

Feb 25, 2016 10:21 PM