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At every technology conference I've been to in the last year, I'm told that I HAVE to be on Facebook to promote my business and that I NEED to be friending every prospect in the world to have them follow me.

I'm not WRONG, I just have a different opinion of the mainstream.  Facebook has been such a personally wonderful experience for me.  I got on to re-connect with old friends.  I was very shy about it for the first year, not posting my picture and not really ever updating it.  But after losing my brother and my step dad last year, I found a new appreciation for how important friends and family are, and the need to connect with those that were important to me.  So I added my picture and within weeks was re-connecting with family, and friends from middle and high school.  What a great experience it has been!

Anyone who has been on Facebook for a while knows "that person" who does nothing but update about work.  "Closed another deal today", "Have important meetings with important people because I am SO important", yadda yadda yadda.  And what do we do with those people, we hit the ignore button. 

Don't get me wrong, I completely understand the delicate balance of the need to post light on business and focus more on engaging others, and letting a little personality come through, but here's the thing.  My best friends and my potential prospects are a completely different audience. Plus I have Twitter, LinkedIn, my blog, ning websites, my website, AND the real world for business.

Yes, I know you can create subgroups in Facebook, but that seems like such a hassle to me.  Every time I post (and I post more from my phone then my PC) I have to remember what the groups are what and who's in what group, etc.  Forget that.

Having said all that, I still "behave" on Facebook.  I don't engage in anything that I wouldn't say or do at a face to face networking event.  But I do post pictures of my kids on FB, and it's fun to announce your excitement about leaving town for vacation for a week.  But if I don't *really* know you - do you need to know that my home will be empty for a week? 

Here's another concern about Facebook that I don't have with any of the others.  Anything my friends post on my wall can be seen by potential clients.  (Once again, restrict with permissions - but I think we beat that horse already).  Come football season, my buddies get a little colorful with their posts.  I don't do this but my potential clients don't need to see it. 

My solution is simple.  I use Facebook for FUN and LinkedIn, Twitter, ning.com sites, my blog, my website, and the real world for business.  Once you understand Twitter, you'll see that it's a better vehicle for business than Facebook away.  The same goes for LinkedIn. 

To those who say I HAVE to be pimping my wares on facebook to everyone who will friend me, isn't it enough to be using those other mediums for that, and just keep Facebook as a simple place to get away from it all?

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Comments(10)

Lizette Fitzpatrick
Lizette Realty - Richmond KY - Lexington, KY
Lizette Realty, Lexington KY MLS - Kentucky Homes

I agree with you about Facebook. I had to block and report a psycho that left a whole page of a rant that a friend alerted me to. I don't check in there every day. I'm careful about what I share.

Jul 28, 2009 02:02 AM
Bill Risser
Fidelity National Title - Saint Petersburg, FL
Fidelity National Title - Tampa District

Steve - What about  a Fan Page?  It's a aimple way to have a Facebook solution strictly for business.  It's definitely worth exploring... 

Jul 28, 2009 02:10 AM
Holly Weatherwax
Associate Broker, Momentum Realty - Reston, VA
A Great Real Estate Experience

I agree with your approach...I engage the same one. I have several business friends on FB, but it makes me nervous and I often ignore new requests.  Does the agent on the other side of the deal really need to hear about my 8th grade exploits (innocent as they were)? Someone recently posted my senior portrait...while that might be interesting to some, that lovely shade of chlorinated life-guard hair should really remain history!

Jul 28, 2009 02:19 AM
Steve Schwartz
AmazingVideoTours.com - Charlotte, NC
Charlottenulls Premier Real Estate Videographer and Photographer

Lizette - Thanks for agreeing - we are definitely in the minority.

Bill -  You are absolutely right about the fan page.  I was gonna say something about that, because you can open that up to the world and keep your personal world, personal -  but I thought my post was getting a little too long (just like this sentence) so I left it out.  Good point.  Thanks

Jul 28, 2009 02:21 AM
Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

My facebook account is minimal, and I don't use it for business. As you said, Linkedin, AR and Twitter would be my work stuff. Great post.

Sorry about your brother and step father. I lost my brother and mom, very difficult times and it does make you want to reconnect.

Jul 28, 2009 02:26 AM
Steve Schwartz
AmazingVideoTours.com - Charlotte, NC
Charlottenulls Premier Real Estate Videographer and Photographer

Holly and Andrea - Wow, two more that agree?  All of you guys are obviously going to different seminars then me, thanks for your comments. 

Andrea - as always - you are one of the sweetest people on AR and thanks for your extra kind words. 

Jul 28, 2009 02:32 AM
Terry Edwards
Russell & Jeffcoat Real Estate Corp. - Columbia, SC

Steve

How timely your article is for me.  I just deleted my Facebook account earlier today.  After reading for 15 minutes about people vacuuming their house and being totally exhausted I sat back and thought "What am I doing here?"

I just decided I don't even enjoy this and left.

Websites, blogs, social blah blah blah.  There certainly are a lot of lonely people out there in the world.

Jul 28, 2009 12:46 PM
Monica Bourgeau
Portland, OR
Authentic Marketing for Heart-Led Agents

Sounds like a good strategy and it's good to hear that Facebook was such a good resource for you to connect and reconnect with other people. We've had a similar experience and use the site for fun and a bit of business.

Jul 29, 2009 02:55 PM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

I have a facebook page but only go there when someone wants to connect with me.  I don't use it at all.

Aug 17, 2009 02:19 AM
Fred Light
| Nashua Video Tours - Nashua, NH
Real Estate Video Tours for MA and NH

It really all depends on HOW you use Facebook and how you WANT to use Facebook.

I use Facebook for business, and I can tell you that 60% of my business comes directly from Facebook - maybe even more than that.  And honestly, if I was a Realtor I would be all OVER Facebook, as I think it's a gift from the real estate marketing Gods!  

The KEY is learning HOW to use it properly for business so it works for you.  But as a Realtor Facebook connects you with friends, family and friends of friends and family - the best source of referrals.

Perfect example:  I did a video tour for a client.  He posted it on his Facebook account (BTW, their HD video is awesome!).  He tagged his client as it was her home.  So now, all of the client's friends and family and connections get to see the video of HER home in their feed and (most importantly), how that particular agent is marketing her home.  Needless to say, they were impressed.  He received TWO listings from that particular client, directly from Facebook, within 2 weeks... directly from that client's friends seeing his marketing strategy online.

With somewhere near 275 MILLION active users, by not utilizing Facebook, you are walking away from an amazing resource.  Take the time to learn HOW to use Facebook properly and you'll find it's pretty amazing!  And did I say FREE?

 

Aug 19, 2009 10:13 PM