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Realtor And Lender Dialogue: The Optimal Time To Ask For Referrals

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As a Realtor or Lender, do you know the optimal time to ask your client for a referral?

Not an "OK" time, or a "good" time, but - the optimal time to ask for referrals?

The optimal time to ask for referrals is when you're in the process of helping someone buy, sell, or borrow.  This is when you're in the most frequent contact with your client, and this is when you're dazzling them with your world-class service. 

During the transaction you're acting as their:

Consultant: You lead the process, ask important questions, and offer expert guidance and advice.

Negotiator: You utilize your experience and skill to evaluate their options and help them make the best choices.

Overseer of Transactional Details:  You manage paperwork, electronic communications, telephone calls, and hundreds of details to bring their transaction to a successful conclusion.

On a daily basis you're anticipating problems, finding solutions, and sometimes working miracles.  You've been known to leap tall buildings with a single bound.  So right now, as you're performing these feats, is the optimal time to ask for referrals.

The goal we aim for at By Referral Only is a 50% return on clients in process.  That is, one-half of the people you help buy, sell, or borrow introduce you to your next client before the transaction closes.  So let's say that right now you're working with four clients.  If two of those clients introduce you to a new client, you've increased your business by two transactions.  Let's also say that your average commission is $3,500.  That's an additional $7,000 in your pocket because two of your current clients introduced you to your next client.

And did you notice that it didn't cost you anything?

But here's the catch:  Your clients don't know that you want their referrals because you haven't told them.  Do not - repeat - do not assume that your efforts will prompt your clients to connect the dots and say, "World-class service like that deserves a referral!"

No.  That does not happen.

Fortunately, it's easy to let your clients know - right up front, in the first few minutes of your first meeting - that you want their referrals, and that you intend to earn them.  Here's the language you use:

"Mr. and Mrs. Client, my goal is for you to be so happy with the help I provide that you'll gladly introduce me to at least two people you really care about before your transaction closes."

With this one simple sentence you've:

  • Demonstrated your resolution to provide world-class service.
  • Clarified your commitment to the client being happy with their buying, selling, or borrowing experience.
  • Let the client know that their introductions are crucial to your business.

Then, in the days and weeks ahead, as you're anticipating problems, finding solutions (and perhaps leaping a tall building or two), when your clients say "Thank you," gently remind them,

"You'll remember that at our first meeting I said my goal was for you to be so happy with the help I provide that you'll gladly introduce me to at least two people you really care about before your transaction closes.

"The next time you're in a conversation with a family member, friend or coworker and they say they really want to get out of their apartment and into their own home, or perhaps they're expecting a baby and they need a larger home, or maybe they're empty nesters and they're ready to sell their house and get into a condo - please give me a call so we can discuss how I can help them."

Delivering world-class service is how you earn referrals.  Using this language is how you get them.

Generate more real estate leads and turn those leads into contracts, closings and commission checks using the By Referral Only real estate dialogues and marketing tools.

www.mybyreferralonly.com. For more than 20 years I have trained and coached the most successful real estate and mortgage professionals in North America on the systems and strategies for building a highly profitable referral-based business. My company, By Referral Only, provides you with expert coaching, turnkey business systems and revenue-generating marketing strategies so you can absolutely dominate your market.

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Joe Stumpf

Allison Stewart
St.Cloud Homes - Saint Cloud, FL
St. Cloud Fl Realtor, Osceola County Real Estate 407-616-9904

Timing is everything!  Your dialog is effective, and plants the seeds in their minds for leads you can cultivate later.  Something we all can benefit from.

Mar 29, 2010 10:23 PM
Barbara Kornegay
REMAX Essential - Wilmington, NC
Wilmington NC Real Estate, Homes

I agree timing is everything...  I am not so sure about using a dialogue though - it feels very salesman like to me - and most clients I come into contact with are not into that... I usually just let it come out naturally at some point!

Mar 29, 2010 10:32 PM
Tim Maitski
Atlanta Communities Real Estate Brokerage - Atlanta, GA
Truth, Excellence and a Good Deal

Thanks Joe,  It's great to see you on ActiveRain.  I look forward to your future posts.

I learned a lot from being a member of BRO for the first five years of my real estate career. You are a class act and know what you are talking about.

Mar 30, 2010 12:40 AM
Charita Cadenhead
eXp Realty - Birmingham, AL
Serving Jefferson and Shelby Counties (Alabama)

I too have been waiting until the close of transactions to ask for referrals.  I have also been trying to figure out if asking in the midst of the whole buyer/selling process was appropriate and now I know that the answer is a resounding YES.  Why not, everybody's happy, I've been putting out fires, if any, and proving myself as a valuable resource.

Mar 30, 2010 01:23 AM
Judith Sinnard
SMARTePLANS; Houston, Texas - Houston, TX
The SMARTePLAN Lady

Joe, I think there is  a generous amount of people who LIKE to share with others their positive experience. It makes them feel good to be in the position to offer a "good" name to call and most enjoy the opportunity to tell their story about their positive experience with you. That is their payback, the warm fuzzy feeling they get from "helping" both sides ... you who did a good job for them and the people who "need" your service and now will get it because they've been put "in the know".

HOWEVER, its a little different for vendors like me (I'm guessing photographers and stagers may in the same boat).  In OUR case the realtor client is THRILLED, but when we ask for referrals (perhaps using your very phraseology and timing) you can see a mask come down over the Realtor's face because they're  thinking -- and you can see it in their face ---  HELL NO I'm not going to tell other realtors about YOU... because they consider your service a competitive advantage.... it can set them apart in their marketplace -- so why the heck would they be telling their other realtor/competitors your name and phone number?  Any advice here for us? 

Me? I offer them a 20% discount on their next SMARTePLAN if they refer me to new agents... but am interested to hear your take on this wrinkle.  

Mar 30, 2010 01:41 AM
Kyle Jan
Scottsdale, AZ
Phoenix AZ Homes for Sale

Great topic.  I find myself at times sitting back and letting my work speak for me, but I know that I won't get a referral if I don't ask for it.

Mar 30, 2010 02:21 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Joe

I married a wonderful women who is always asking for things out of the norm. I am not trying to be funny here, but her point is that if you do not ask, you will not get. It took me a while to adopt this mentality, but when I did, I was surprised at how many things came my way. Your post drives the message home. The success we are looking for is most of the time found right under our nose. A few questions could lead you right to it! Thank you

Mar 30, 2010 03:20 AM
Jirius Isaac
Isaac Real Estate &TriStar Mortgage - Kenmore, WA
Real Estate & loans in Kenmore, WA

Thanks for the reminder. It is so easy for us to wait until the deal closes.

Mar 30, 2010 05:22 AM
Joe Stumpf
By Referral Only - Cardiff, CA

Judith - Click the link below and you'll see a video I posted on my Magic Words blog. YOu'll benefit from re-framing your client's selfish benefit for referring you.

http://www.magicwordsthatmakeyoumoney.com/?p=829  

 

Mar 30, 2010 05:27 AM
Judith Sinnard
SMARTePLANS; Houston, Texas - Houston, TX
The SMARTePLAN Lady

Hi Joe --- Thank you for the link ... my situation is a different sort of twist than the others here ... as the value proposition is not the same, but I genuinely thank you for your thoughtful response and getting back so quickly!

Mar 30, 2010 05:40 AM
Ceci Burklow
Pride of Texas Real Estate - Austin, TX

Great advice Joe, I'm going to put it into practice! 

Thank you!

Mar 30, 2010 06:44 AM
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

I was told when I started out that I would not get the business if I did not ask for it.

Mar 30, 2010 07:58 AM
Rob Denny
HomeSmart Realty West - Carlsbad, CA
"Dream Home Specialist"

Great post! Your timing makes sense to me. i wil definetly try this soon (today!) since I have a client in the middle of an escrow. "Ask and you shall receive" I tell myself this daily but need to start asking more. Lookng forward to more at your seminar 4/8!

Mar 30, 2010 08:25 AM
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

Joe,

It's great to see you here in the Rain.

Your dialogues and systems have made a big difference in my business, and you've given a tremendous amount of value here in your post.

Mar 30, 2010 09:18 AM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Joe:  As usual, you have shared so much here... the post is just overflowing with good stuff.

If I may make a suggestion... I noticed that you have not posted this to any of the Active Rain groups... just to "California Information."  To better reach your target audiences here on Active Rain... I suggest you submit this post to the maximum of five allowable groups.  Here is a link to a post I wrote a while ago.  It goes through all the steps you will need... to post to five groups... and attract a wider audience.  Blog - Using the Active Rain "Groups" Feature

Take care... be well... say hi to Karen for me :)

Mar 30, 2010 11:54 AM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Joe:  Here is another Active Rain group that you might consider joining... and then use it as one of the five groups you post to... as I suggested in the comment above this one.  ActiveRain Group: By Referral ONLY Active Rain Makers!!

There are some good folks in this group.  You might even know some of them... :)

Mar 30, 2010 11:59 AM
Aaron Silverman
SuccessfulRental.com, Bluewater Property Management, LLC and Lowcountry Turnkey Properties, LLC - Charleston, SC
Improving Real Estate Experience through Education

I disagree with the timing.  The best time is after a successful transaction is completely.  That is the only way to prove a referral is deserved and earned.

Mar 31, 2010 05:45 AM
Wayne B. Pruner
Oregon First - Tigard, OR
Tigard Oregon Homes for Sale, Realtor, GRI

Good post. All my referrals are one way. If a mortgage person ever sent me a referral, I'd give them a kidney!

May 11, 2010 05:37 PM
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Dec 23, 2016 11:25 AM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

Practice articulating the value you bring to a transaction. Ask: ''Who do you knwo that I can help?''

 

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