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Do You Believe What You Believe? Or Are You Influenced By What Others Believe?

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Real Estate Agent with Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395 BRE# 01494165

 

How do you structure your mindset? Really? Do you believe what's told to you? or do you create your own reality? I do! I make my own opportunity and my own rules. I affect my own business.....do you? or do you let others do that for you?

I visited an old office of mine yesterday. The very first I worked in when I got my license....whew, that was a while ago. Do you know what I saw? The same faces! The same people doing the same thing. The leader board had the same names and the lunchroom was filled with the same agents.....you know, those who were NOT on the leader-board.

Nothing much had changed!

What had changed was me. When I left to join a team at Keller-Williams, the same lunchroom-ers told me I was nuts. That I was giving up too much commission in split to "work for someone else."

I guess I figured 50% of something was better than 70% of nothing.

I know you know what happened? I succeeded! I advanced within that team. I left with that team when they began a new brokerage. I started my own team. I made my own future....independent of the "experienced" lunchroom-ers.

In the years since....I've found business through blogging on Active Rain and beyond, through questions and answers on Trulia and Zillow. I have made friends with these sites. I have watched for opportunities and gained from advice of others. I'm thriving....are you?

Are you believing what the nay-sayers tell you? about you? about your business? about real estate? about the economy? It's not going to fall in your lap....you have to go get it! Active Rain is a resource unparalleled. This is a resource for everything you can think of to do.....spend some time, brainstorm and then search. See what others are doing? See what works and what doesn't....then design your own future.

Comments(15)

Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Your enthusiasm and zest for life (and your business!) jumps right off the page here, Karen. Huge difference between 'living' and 'existing.' Suggested!

Jan 04, 2011 05:14 AM
Alan May
Jameson Sotheby's International Realty - Evanston, IL
Home is where the hearth is.

I do allow others to influence me, but then I digest that information and make up my own mind.  Your willingness to move forward, rather than stagnate, is a testament to your nature!  Good for you!

Jan 04, 2011 05:33 AM
Stacey Smith
Keller Williams Realty - Aliso Viejo, CA
Your Orange County Beach Cities Realtor

Karen, I would love to sit down with you over a cup of starbucks and tell you about how big of a spineless pushover I used to be. The straw the broke the camels back was when I was 23 and one of my good family friends who is a real estate broker told me that I would NEVER SUCCEED as a real estate agent. Though people had told me what I could and could not do my whole life, something snapped that day, and I changed, and the rest is history now whenever someone tells me that I cannot do something, I make it my lifes mission to prove them wrong. I do not allow anyone set my boundaries except for me!

I can also be a little snide and sarcarstic towards those people once I accomplish once they say that I can't throwing comments at them like "maybe next time you should focus on your own life an own goals before you try to set someone else's boundaries"....Controlling my sarcasm might be something I need to work on for the new year.....Dang it!

Jan 04, 2011 05:36 AM
Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner
Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395 - Mission Viejo, CA
Orange County & Lake Arrowhead, CA (949)510-2395

Too funny, Stacey....there is always something to work on isn't there...humility, yikes...guess I need that too.

Thanks Lottie :)

Ah Alan, my friend....I'm too stubborn to listen to others so you're right, it's in my nature...not always a "good nature" lol

Jan 04, 2011 05:41 AM
Christine Smith
Buyers Brokers Only LLC - www.BuyersBrokersOnly.com - Canton, MA
Exclusive Buyer Agent & Attorney, Canton, MA

This is a great & inspiring post & I have suggested it.  It's a must-read for everyone out there.  As Alan said, it's always good to take in the information from other people but then digest it & use your own thought process to move forward! We can't let others control our future.

Jan 04, 2011 05:42 AM
Not a real person
San Diego, CA

There are a few home inspectors here at ActiveRain who boycott me because I would not let them influence me, as hard as they tried, back in January and February 2009. Since they weren’t competitors, and were not even in California!, I just saw no reason to let them try to run my company. Let them worry about their own companies!

Jan 04, 2011 06:02 AM
Kathryn Maguire
GreatNorfolkHomes.com (757) 560-0881 - Chesapeake, VA
Serving Chesapeake, Norfolk, VA Beach

I love your post!  I am so excited about what lies ahead in 2011!  The opportunities are out there, we just have to work at it a little harder than in the past. The tools available to us have broken down barriers and the sky is the limit.  I wish you a successful and happy 2011!

Jan 04, 2011 06:54 AM
Amanda Christiansen
Christiansen Group Realty (260)704-0843 - Fort Wayne, IN
Christiansen Group Realty

Well said Karen.  Congrats on your success and your motivation and energy is contagious!! 

Jan 04, 2011 07:46 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

This is a business where you have to pick who to listen to.  Opinions are like *** (I won't say) but everyone's got one.  And some folks just don't have the drive or vision to see things are anything but terrible.  I have stayed away from the negative nellies since I started in this business.  If I didn't, I wouldn't be where I was.

Jan 04, 2011 08:36 AM
Kathy Schowe
California Lifestyle Realty - La Quinta, CA
La Quinta, California 760-333-8886

We all have to find our own path... some people lead, others follow.  But surrounding yourself with like-minded positive people who believe in you and themselves... can help you to reach your goals!  Way to go!  Kathy

Jan 04, 2011 09:26 AM
Jane Peters
Home Jane Realty - Los Angeles, CA
Los Angeles real estate concierge services

I have never gone with the herd mentality.  No one is going to give you the magic answer or do anything for you.  As you do things yourself you learn and grow.

Jan 04, 2011 12:25 PM
Karen Kruschka
RE/MAX Executives - Woodbridge, VA
- "My Experience Isn't Expensive - It's PRICELESS"

Karen  I have always been reluctant to believe the naysayers.  Arthur and I joined RE/MAX in 1980 when everybody told us it wouldn't last - here I am 30 years later still with RE/MAX

Jan 04, 2011 12:40 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

Karen, I never have found my comfort zone. There are times I wish I would but then what would there be to strive for?

Jan 04, 2011 02:25 PM
Kim McMahon
Executive Realty Group - Skokie, IL

Karen~ Great advice and very appropriate for the first week of the New Year!  Hitting the suggest, this should be the first thing you read before the "how to's" on business plans.

Jan 05, 2011 08:38 AM
Kevin Hancock
Evergreen Home Loans NMLS 3182 - Poulsbo, WA
The Hancock Mortgage Team

You've given me a dose of inspiration... Thanks Karen!

Jan 05, 2011 09:48 AM