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Humble Pie...continued...would you like a slice?

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Home Stager with Apostle Art Home Staging & Design

This post will make more sense if you read part 1...

One Slice of Humble Pie Please!

Ok, my head is spinning...You may say many things but telling me I don't care is complete irony because I honestly and most sincerely couldn't care more and I just met you!! That is just who I am but I get that you don't know that...yet.

So...Do you want me to consult with you or are we going to just continue to debate all afternoon?

Frustrated!

I could have just walked out the door at this point but instead, I took a deep breath looking around at the flowery furnishings, needle point wall art, sculpted dark brown 70's carpet, nicotine stained walls, Burgundy curtains and wallpaper borders and I just couldn't do it. This house needed me, the Realtor needed me, this client needed me although at this point he still had no idea just how much. So he finally agrees...let's do a consult...ALLELUIA!!  Um...isn't that why I came here in the first place?

Well you can just imagine how the next hour or two went on. It was almost comical...like am I being PUNKED here? Am I an a merry go round? Swirling conversations, jumping, skipping, hopping, bouncing here, bouncing back there, quickly tell me more but don't talk too fast. Give me options... but here's what I think... but tell me what you would do. I am not doing this... but tell me what I should do. Ok, don't tell me what I could do, but what to do, but I probably won't do it....aye yai yai...Mamma Mia...Lord help me please!!! 

So,in the middle of all of this hoop jumping, I am starting to see a need, an openness, a desperation, a desire to do the right thing and get this home sold. So what's the next step?...Yes, I am insane enough to offer a next step. Why? Because I DO CARE!

The Realtor calls me a day or so later to commiserate and says..."He said you were like oil and water. Maybe because you are so "arty" and he is so "technical"." So I am a bit surprised because I thought we actually ended the consult well and I was sending him a proposal for All the work to be done, painting, flooring, staging etc...So, having no confidence or hope of working with him again I prepare everything and send him the quote.

 Long story shorter than long...

He ends up doing everything I recommended!! Over the following few weeks we are spending a lot of time together. My husband did the painting and finds out that him and "TY" as I will call him, share a love of music and both play classical piano. (Guess he is "Arty" after all!) My son goes to help one day and also shares the music and another common interest...video gaming. Turns out, TY loves his games and they had a blast together in between coats. So I begin to learn more about TY and his situation. He is from the west coast and has been over here, away from his family for over 8 months trying to get affairs in order and this house on the market. It belonged to his Aunt and who passed and he has been getting a lot of pressure from the other heirs about getting the job done. He tells me he has been super stressed in his isolation and lost in what to do and confessed to dragging his butt. He also told me how amazed he was that within 24 hours of meeting with me, his whole outlooked changed! Everything made sense and for the first time in a while, he had HOPE !

Can You imagine...who knew?

Once we moved past that initial...who are you, you just want my money, what's the point...TY was a completely different person. We had pizza together one night when I was staging late and I learned that he is very active in his Church back home...we are both Catholic and love our faith...an even deeper bond was created. We become friends but even something more actually, we are support. I got him now and he got me. We laughed about our initial meeting, about his quirks and mine and our common "OCD" nature. I have been there when "other" people have tried to work with him for the first time and I see him revert back to the same scattered self. I see the perplexed look on their faces and think, "How many seconds till they head for the door...one, two...GONE?" I am so glad I stayed, swallowed that pride and ate that humble pie.

There is just a little more to this story if you are interested.

 I will wrap it up in part 3 along with my secret recipe for Humble Pie

Stay tuned friends!

:) 

Humble Pie... Slice # 3...Yum! 

 

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Marcia Kramarz
Re/Max Executive Realty - Medway, MA
CDPE,LMC,CBR

Well said and nice to read as we've all been there - maybe not as good as you as our distaste for humble pie may have caused our face to show a scour on it - But it's nice to know if you hang in there - there is some hope - I'm hoping we'll see before and after pics - CAN"T WAIT - In fact, I'm subscribing to your blog!!

Oct 22, 2011 02:27 AM
Steve, Joel & Steve A. Chain
Chain Real Estate Investments & Mortgage, Steve & Joel Chain - Cottonwood, CA

Valerie,

Great post on patience and humility. Proverbs says, humility proceeds honor.

You are honored with the job and so much more.

Steve

Oct 22, 2011 02:34 AM
Fred Hernden, CMI
Superior Home Inspections - Greater Albuquerque Area - Albuquerque, NM
Albuquerque area Master Inspector

I have eaten plenty of that! I like the band too.... oh man, that was a looong time ago... lol!

Oct 22, 2011 03:39 AM
Sally Weatherley
EXIT STAGE RIGHT - Vancouver, BC
Vancouver Home Staging, Home Stager Vancouver, B.C

Valerie - Oh thank you!  Part 2 was well worth the wait.  Well, he's from the West Coast, so that explains a lot right from the start!...  so glad you hung in there and gave this guy a chance.  Sounds like you've actually made a fast friend out of this fellow.  I also hope there will be "before & after" pics.

Oct 22, 2011 04:16 AM
Sara Garden
Rocky Mountain Home Staging - Boulder, CO
MBA, HSE, HSR, APSD, Home Stager

Hi Valerie, thanks for sharing part 2. Reminds me of the quote, "people don't care how much you know, til they know how much you care."

Oct 22, 2011 04:34 AM
Gail C. Harris
Resource Network, LLC SFR, AHWD, ACRE, SMAR Board Director - Chesapeake Beach, MD
Reach the BEACH with Gail C. Harris (cell: 703.868

Valerie, got to agree with Sara on this one, too. :) great idea posting a series. :) So nice to have you back. :) Gail

 

Oct 22, 2011 05:04 AM
Kathy Burke
Sensational Home Staging~~Danville, CA - Danville, CA
S.F. East Bay Home Staging

Valerie....GREAT to see you blogging again!  Staging does make for some interesting relationships for sure!!  And sometimes once you get past the initial....."Do I really need you?" it can blossom!  Waiting for Chapter 3!!

Oct 22, 2011 05:16 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Nice!  Still not sure I would have made it to that point though, LOL!  So glad that you did!

Oct 22, 2011 05:32 AM
Ginger Foust
Certified Staging Professional - Oakhurst, CA
Home Stager Oakhurst CA, Dream Interior Redesign & Staging

Bravo Valerie for hanging in there.  I have family members that would probably be much like this gentleman and it does take time and patience to get them onboard.  Looking forward to your photos!

Oct 22, 2011 06:51 AM
Janice Ankrett
Burlington, ON
Staging Professional

Well done Valerie! You stayed, earned his trust and gave him a light at the end of the tunnel! Can't wait to hear and hopefully see more.

Oct 22, 2011 08:44 AM
Ellen Caruso
Daniel Gale Sotheby's International Realty - Glen Head, NY

Valerie, if you weren't being yourself it NEVER would have worked...you are irresistible! Glad he knew it too!

Oct 22, 2011 03:11 PM
Janet Jones
Just Your Style Interiors, LLC - Kihei, HI
Home Staging, Interior Redesign Kihei, Maui, Hawaii

Hi Valerie--so glad the end of the story was a delightfully happy one.  I think most people want to be seen and known for who they actually are and you did a great job of sticking around, being committed to your goal of helping, which provided the time for "Ty" to relax and let you see who he is. Hope the house sells quickly; but then you will lose a new friend. 

Oct 22, 2011 07:29 PM
Valerie Sagheddu
Apostle Art Home Staging & Design - Stroudsburg, PA
~Home Staging Professional, Poconos, PA

Hi Everyone...was out all day yesterday so I am just getting to respond this morning...thank you for your comments!

Marcia~ Yeah, Humble Pie can be a bit tart at first but it always has a SWEET after taste!!

Steve~ Honored for sure...and blessed too.

Fred~ It seems to be on my plate a lot too...I often think I am being tested and I am trying really hard to pass!

Sally~ Unlikely friends...they are the best because you really have to wonder at them and ponder the "bigger" plan at work.

Sara & Gail~ Love that quote too and it is so appropriate here. Part 3 takes it to the next level too.

Kathy~ I seem to forget how much I miss everyone here until I come back from my AR famine. Time for a feast and some more humble pie!

Sharon~ I feel like I am well practiced. I seem to be faced with challenging people all the time.  I kind of view it like walls that needs smashing but my tools are not heavy hammers...just PIE..!!

Ginger~ Yes...the family. I guess the difference with that is that we kind of have to learn to deal since that are not "going away" any time soon ...lol!

Thanks Janice! I do feel a sense of great accomplishment actually. There are some situations that you just know you need to walk away from and others that just require persistence...and PIE!!

Ellen~ Oh my goodness, you are so sweet. I don't think I have ever been called irresistible before...Love You!!

Janet~ You are so right...he was relaxed with me in the end but would revert right back to his defensive mode when someone "new" entered the scene. That is just who he is and I accept that. I hope he sells soon too...lot's of showings already and an interested party...I think we will always stay friends even after he moves back.

Valerie~  I think at times, we all have fronts and walls we put up in certain situations...some are more extreme than others but often something very different lies just beneath the surface!

Oct 23, 2011 01:44 AM
Marianne Cherico
Interiors by Marianne Cherico - Foxboro, MA
Home Stager -Massachusetts and Rhode Island

Valerie-You are really an awesome person!! Caring is so important....but there are times when you really do want to walk away....and times you should. You must have good instincts!

Oct 23, 2011 12:06 PM
Valerie Sagheddu
Apostle Art Home Staging & Design - Stroudsburg, PA
~Home Staging Professional, Poconos, PA

Marianne~ Right back atcha luv! You are right, sometimes you just know that there are certain situations that you need to walk away from...I am a Taurus though... stubborn like a bull and I love a good challenge. I employ a strategy of killing people with kindness and it usually works out very well for me!

Oct 23, 2011 12:27 PM
Shirley Parks
Sands Realty 210-414-0966 - San Antonio, TX
Broker, 210-414-0966, San Antonio TX Real Estate

I read both posts and am glad this worked out so well for both you and the client. 

Oct 23, 2011 03:13 PM
Nyssa Smith
Keller Williams Advantage Realty - State College, PA
REALTOR, State College Area Real Estate

I love it!  "Why... Because I DO care!"  I loved it when you wrote that.  You and I most definitely see eye to eye.  I feel the same say!  I DO care!  :)  And I love his response.  I love it when that happens!  You gave me chills when you said that he said: he felt he had HOPE!  It's amazing isn't it!  It's refresing!  :)  When people really see that we do care, they know it.  They sense it.  They can tell when it's genuine.  When you really stop and Listen.  When you look them in the eye and really listen to what they are saying.  When you care about them and their situation.  It's amazing Valerie.  Thank you for sharing this wonderful story!

Oct 24, 2011 04:02 AM
Valerie Sagheddu
Apostle Art Home Staging & Design - Stroudsburg, PA
~Home Staging Professional, Poconos, PA

Shirley~ There's more to the story too...read on and you will see it became even more of a blessing!

Nyssa~ My pleasure! I think you are so right. When you genuinely care it is infectious. It is difficult for people to keep their exteriors up when you love them and want ot help them...even if they are a bit confrontational at first.

Oct 24, 2011 05:03 AM
Nyssa Smith
Keller Williams Advantage Realty - State College, PA
REALTOR, State College Area Real Estate

Yep!  Agreed.  It's infectious!

It's a shame that the world is that way - that people have to put their guard up.  Bad people make it bad for the good people who work honestly and ethically and who DO care about other people.  It's a shame that people have to put their guard up.  But it's understandable.  And when we prove ourselves and our clients realize how different we are and how we do care, we win them over and we have clients for life!  Or really I should say friends for life!  :)

Nov 01, 2011 03:56 AM