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Think Before You Speak

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Real Estate Agent with RE/Max Associates DE#RA-0003085 PA#RS347136

Think Before You Speak

 

I just read a post by The Christensen Team about so-called professionals using profanity

http://activerain.com/blogsview/3426922/when-realtors-attack-

and was reminded of a situation.

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Years back, a boss of mine walked into work one day and, tapping a brochure in his palm, stated proudly, "Monica, I found the perfect seminar for you. It teaches women how to curse in business."

 

I was dumbfounded.

 

"And why would I need that?" I responded.

 

"Because I've never heard you f#@*% curse once and it makes you look stronger in business," he proudly replied.

 

Pausing for a moment and looking at him directly, I calmly said, "If for every f-bomb you drop, I can use at least ten other words that are far more descriptive or accurate, who looks smarter and stronger?"

 

Slipping the brochure into his suitcoat pocket and turning to walk toward his office, he said, "Point well made."

 

In addition to maintaining your composure and command of a situation, you never know how your words will be received. If a casually dropped profanity, let alone one delivered with anger, causes damage to the person who receives it, you'll only heap more problems on top of the situation at hand.

 

As one of my brothers once told me, "Before you put your mouth in action, be sure to put your brain in gear."

 

Dale Sikkenga
RE/MAX Creative Realty - Lexington, KY

Not really sure how to comment on this! I am quite dumbfounded and lost for words. You go girl for standing up for what is right!!!

I would have told your boss to go f%&k off!!!  lol lol  not really just joking!!

Aug 30, 2012 11:31 PM
Ralph Janisch ABR CRS Broker
Janisch & Co. - Conroe, TX
Selling Northwest Houston to good people like you!

Well said.  Some people just don't have a large robust vocabulary.

Aug 30, 2012 11:34 PM
Suzanne Strickler
Realty Mark Associates - Havertown, PA
School is never out for the Successful.

Kudos to you for standing up for your principles with your old boss. You let him know where you stood without embarassing him. That's was an excellent way of speaking!

Aug 30, 2012 11:37 PM
Mark Loewenberg
KW of the Palm Beaches - Palm Beach Gardens, FL
KW 561-214-0370

unbelievable that folks even think about using bad language, no place in it anywhere at all

Aug 30, 2012 11:40 PM
Erv Fleishman
Realty Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Luxury Prop Specialist Realty Associates

So what is the evolution of curse words?

Cursing represents the indifference to the deities. 

It also can be used as an early sign of Alzheimers. 

Aug 30, 2012 11:48 PM
Monica Hill
RE/Max Associates - Wilmington, DE
the REALTOR to help you discover Delaware

Dale, he really did catch me off-guard with the comment, which is why I had to just look at him at first. Odd that he actually thought that was a good idea.

Jeanne and Ralph... very true.

Thanks, Suzanne.

Mark, I guess there's a time and place for it, but in business it just tends to escalate things from bad to worse.

And Erv... I'm not sure. Maybe I'll have to look up the evolution.

Aug 30, 2012 11:56 PM
Wayne Zuhl
Remax First Realty II - Cranford, NJ
The Last Name You'll Ever Need in Real Estate

Good morning Monica - Interesting story. I can't imagine thinking that someone who curses is stronger - in fact, I often think they're less literate and creative.

Aug 31, 2012 12:38 AM
Monica Hill
RE/Max Associates - Wilmington, DE
the REALTOR to help you discover Delaware

Wayne and Jean Marie, I agree. His comment did lend insight to the other side though. 

Aug 31, 2012 12:44 AM