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Knowing the Financial Philosophy and Standing of a Potential Partner

Reblogger Ginny Gorman
Real Estate Agent with RI Real Estate Services ~ 401-529-7849~ RI Waterfront Real Estate

 Knowing the Financial Philosophy and Standing of a Potential Partner

 Knowing the Financial Philosophy and Standing of a Potential Partner.

What comes before love?  Financial soundness is the keyword in many relationships and if you think that is a joke where have you been?!  As a RI real estate agent I have dealt with clients who either one or the other have financially mismanaged their lives resulting in hardships and sometimes divorce.  Gene Mundt highlights the growing need for partners to delve deeper into one another's philosophy for money management...have you done YOURS?!

 

 

Knowing the Financial Philosophy and Standing
of a Potential Partner is Growing in Importance





     I read an unbelievably interesting article on  Yahoo! Finance  today.  The focus of the article was  credit scores, so it's no stretch to see why the topic caught my eye. But this article had a little bit of an eye-catching twist to it, especially if you are presently single, dating, or hoping to.   

Contact Gene Mundt, Mortgage Lender for info and assistance re: credit, finances, and mortgages     The article reported how credit scores are increasingly becoming a topic of conversation for those dating these days.  And that those conversations regarding credit scores are occurring earlier and earlier in the dating timeline.  Some as early as the first date.

     Wow!  Tough topic to throw at someone when you're just getting to know them, right?  


     As a  Mortgage Lender,  I applaud the recognition of the importance of this topic and I am thrilled that many (especially among the young) are finally "getting" that credit scores matter.  

     I've written something a kin to this topic in my prior post,  "I Promise to Love, Honor, and ... Pay My Bills?"  In that post, I urged having a talk with your "significant other" prior to entering marriage or purchasing a home together ... and of the perils of not doing so.  I would add now that "that talk" regarding credit and money should occur reasonably soon in the establishing of a relationship.  It's far less difficult or emotionally charged at an earlier stage and could save issues from arising later.

     According to the article I found this morning (and written by the New York Times) "Perfect 10?  Never Mind That.  Ask Her for Her Credit Score." ...
 
    "It’s difficult to quantify how many daters factor credit scores into their romantic calculations, but financial planners, marriage counselors and dating site executives all said that they were hearing far more concerns about credit than in the past. “I’m getting twice as many questions about credit scores as I did pre-recession,” Ms. Thakor said."  (Manisha Thakor is the founder and chief executive of  MoneyZen Wealth Management, a financial advisory firm.)

     It was also reported ... according to many daters under the age of 40, credit scores and the gauge they supply are so widely used now that they have become a big factor within their own dating.  Factors so big, that they at times have outweighed other things like good jobs, shared interests, and physical attraction.  

     While I again will say that I applaud the rising awareness and importance surrounding this important topic, I do want to point out two things that grabbed my attention regarding this article: Although the headline of the NY Times Articles reads that you should "ask her" about credit scores, I think that line is a bit sexist.  I don't believe the issue of poor credit is gender driven.  As a Lender, I see both males and females with credit problems and in need of credit advice.  

     I would also say to those dating ... everyone ... it's my opinion that credit scores and attitudes regarding credit and finances CAN evolve and change.  Those in the past that have abused their finances and credit/credit scores CAN right their finances and financial ship ... and they CAN navigate themselves into higher scores.  It's simply NOT a case of "once a low credit score, always a low credit score".  

     People mature.  People gain from their experiences.  People change their ways.  I see it happen and I've helped those people accomplish what once would have seemingly been viewed as irreparable.  Guided and assisted them back into sound financial health and good credit scores. They became Home Buyers or Refinanced.   It takes a willingness to change, time, lots of hard work ... but it CAN be done.

     There were good links within this article.  I recommend that you read it ... and perhaps pass it on to others that might find it of interest too.  There's real insight and help available within it.  But I will point out that many Mortgage Lenders provide credit guidance and assistance as one of their services.  I know I certainly do.
The Importance of discussing finances/credit when dating 
    Typically a Lender's credit guidance and assistance includes an initial running of a credit report.  A great place to start.  And many times that credit report (and guidance/assistance) is provided FREE of charge.  Especially if you're hoping to buy or refinance a home in the future, a Mortgage Lender can be the perfect place to begin your credit inquiry, get back on the path to credit improvement, and best place yourself in a good position to buy or refinance a home fairly soon ... or in the futureThe earlier you start the better.

     Knowing the financial philosophy and standing of a potential partner is growing in importance.  There is no doubt about that, especially after reading this article.  The ramifications and fallout of poor credit are presently high and growing also.  And these negatives touch upon both partners in a relationship in many ways.  Both financially and emotionally.

     Take the time now to discuss the important topics of finances and credit over thoroughly.  Listen well.  Have a willingness to take action also, should other features of your partner be positive.  Seek assistance and guidance, should it be necessary within a relationship.   Being "in sync" regarding these important topics can determine much in your future. 




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Comments(11)

Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Ginny,

Excellent post to re-blog!! Somehow I missed this one of Gene's. The importance of knowing the financial philosophy in a potential partner is indeed growing in Importance!

Dec 27, 2012 09:16 PM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

Good morning, Ginny.... what a great reblog....this is so important for couples to know and understand the importance in order to have a marriage that lasts.....financial problems cause most divorces....

Dec 27, 2012 09:23 PM
Lenn Harley
Lenn Harley, Homefinders.com, MD & VA Homes and Real Estate - Leesburg, VA
Real Estate Broker - Virginia & Maryland

Absolutely.  In the past couple of days, I've had to qualify a married couple on only one of the couple's income.  The spouse's income can't be used. 

Problem is that they want a certain price range, location, home features that are not in the price range of only one income.  Sad.  They can easily pay $1500 a month for housing, but qualify for only $1100.  Completely different market.

Dec 27, 2012 09:24 PM
Clint Mckie
Desert Sun Home, commercial Inspections - Carlsbad, NM
Desert Sun Home, Comm. Inspection 1-575-706-5586

Hi Ginny,

Looks like it could be a double edged sword.

If you want to impress your date then take them to a fancy restaurant.

They may be impressed but then they might think you just want to throw away money as well.

What's next a credit report before the first date? LOL

Have A great New Years Celebration in North Kingstown.

Best, Clint McKie

Dec 27, 2012 09:30 PM
Melissa Zavala
Broadpoint Properties - Escondido, CA
Broker, Escondido Real Estate, San Diego County

This is a good blog post on an important topic. The underlying message seems to be that both partners need to be folks that can accept responsibility for their actions. It's called being a grown-up. 

Dec 27, 2012 10:26 PM
Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi
NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656 - New Lenox, IL
708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience

Ginny:  Thanks for the re-blog of this post.  I think the topic itself, a very important one.  Hopefully your readers agree and take action, if need be.  I read the comments above with interest.  I, like Lenn, see the scenario she describes fairly often.  It's almost commplace today.  And to answer Clint's question ... yes!  I've seen that very action recommended.  Credit reports and investigations prior to dating someone is not unheard of.  Welcome to modern life ...

Thanks again .. and Happy New Year!

Gene

Dec 27, 2012 11:28 PM
Ginny Gorman
RI Real Estate Services ~ 401-529-7849~ RI Waterfront Real Estate - North Kingstown, RI
Homes for Sale in Southern RI and beyond

To all and Gene, a great topic and don't you think i do that now!  You bet, I've learned...

Dec 27, 2012 11:31 PM
Kevin J. May
Florida Supreme Realty - Hobe Sound, FL
Serving the Treasure & Paradise Coasts of Florida

Being "economically viable" is important and I'm glad you reposted Ginny.  I never would've found this without you.  

Dec 28, 2012 04:28 AM
Charles Stallions
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services - Pensacola, FL
850-476-4494 - Pensacola, Pace or Gulf Breeze, Fl.

Umm that may be a business to get into get a marriage license and a credit check at the same time.

Dec 28, 2012 12:09 PM
Erika Rogers
Red Rock Real Estate ~ Southern Utah's Largest Independent Brokerage - Saint George, UT
St George Utah Real Estate & Relocation Specialist

Hi Ginny, thanks for the reblog. I may have actually missed the original one. This is something every couple needs to understand and know by heart. Great share, stay the best North Kingstown short sale agent.

Dec 30, 2012 04:12 PM
Bas Panch
SCV Home Buyer - Valencia, CA

This is a great reblog Ginny. Starting couple will surely learn a thing or two from this post. Great stuff! Keep it up being number one North Kingstown short sale agent.

Dec 30, 2012 05:06 PM