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She said I was greedy, petty, and typically paranoid...

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Real Estate Agent with Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 UT DRE# 6541633-SA00

She said I was greedy, petty, and typically paranoid...

 

I enjoy the Q & A section and asked a question about sign calls and got more than expected from a new member. She doesn't know me but felt free to call me greedy, petty, and typically paranoid, plus more...

 

It is not okay to personally attack another AR member because of a differing opinion or work model. This platform is the best designed forum for industry professionals, which brings me back to a post I wrote in January 2015.

 

ActiveRain Community Guidelines - Helping others.

 

One of the first things that impressed me after joining ActiveRain in January of 2009, was zero tolerance for personal attacks. When a conversation quickly turned sideways, sliding toward denigrating, action was taken. Those who were at the forefront were warned, depending in severity or their membership privileges revoked.

 

I appreciate the proactive stance that has set the tone for member responsibility. ActiveRain created a diverse platform that has attracted 225,000+ professionals in the industry and beyond. The guidelines are fair and the expectation is that everyone will follow them. They are not a suggestion.

 

ActiveRain cares about it's members and continues to maintain the high standards it was built upon. What a fantastic gathering place! There will always be disagreements but at least a civil discussion can take place from a helpful standpoint, member to member.

 

A quote that comes to mind when I think of the spirit of Activerain: Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them. ~ Dalai Lama

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Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Wanda,

Just caught this post on Kathy Streib 's series of her "Ah ha" moments for the week. I'm still pondering of this gal got up on the wrong side of the bed or is she always this caustic in her remarks? On-line is forever..humm wonder how she'll feel in 10 years about that remark! In AR we have guidelines for a reason and it would be wise for her to read them carefully.

May 30, 2015 11:25 PM
Rob D. Shepherd
RETIRED - Florence, OR
RETIRED

I just went back and read it. Some one needs a trip to the wood shed immediately. 

May 30, 2015 11:39 PM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Wanda-Anyone that knows you are one of the finest most giving people there is. You have a givers heart and are total opposite of what this person said.  With that attitude she won't be around long. Sorry she felt the need to do that.  Just keep being your wonderful self. We all love you and anyone that doesn't is a fool or completely ignorant

May 31, 2015 12:03 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin 

Well I missed all the hubbub and it's a shame someone felt the need to be so personal. Overall this sort of thing does not happen often and members are often quick to respond when it does. But's it seems to be the nature of being online, and even in the early AR days there were occasionally those who felt it was OK to attack others publicly. Indeed there were a few rather feisty interchanges in the past.  

 

People seem to forget there is a possibility the public will see these comments, or perhaps  a potential or existing client. Even if not, bad behavior is certainly not going to win you any points, at least of the relationship kind, here on AR

 

Jeff

May 31, 2015 04:41 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Wanda - other than a snarky comment which I ignored I have not had any problems.  Personal attacks have no place on Active Rain.

May 31, 2015 05:18 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

There's been quite a few stirs in that Q & A section lately.  What is up over there?

May 31, 2015 10:38 AM
Joanna Cohlan
Fresh Eyes For Your Home - Chappaqua, NY
Designing, Decorating & Staging Westchester Homes

I have no idea what happened Wanda, but it's probably best.  There are just some people, in any forum, who are not worth thinking about twice.  This AR newbie sounds like one of them and hopefully, she will withdraw from AR or issue you a public apology.  Your post on AR rules was wonderful and written with warmth and respect.

May 31, 2015 11:13 AM
Sussie Sutton
David Tracy Real Estate - Houston, TX
David Tracy Real Estate for Buyers & Sellers

Must be one of those jerk agents that EVERYONE HATES TO WORK WITH.

May 31, 2015 11:36 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Laura Cerrano, Yes, it is still the best way to engage and qualify potential clients!

THANK YOU so much Kathy Streib for the feature in your weekly post, I so appreciate this and hope that new members get the message!

May 31, 2015 11:53 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Lise Howe , Both Barbara Todaro and Roger D. Mucci tried to advise her and she deleted many of her responses to lessen the severity.

Debbie Gartner I would hope that new members coming in would read the guidelines, understand them and proceed accordingly. There are always people who think rules do not apply to them!

May 31, 2015 11:59 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Haha Nina Hollander, I appreciate your honesty. She was set straight after being reported. I am not a convenient punching bag nor a door mat for anyone!

Dorie Dillard  It is never okay to treat people like that but for some, it is a reflex unfortunately. Some learn and then others get schooled eventually!

May 31, 2015 12:04 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Rob D. Shepherd I am sure she was warned, thankfully.

Thank you so much for your support Sharon Lee. It has been quiet since she was reported, which is what needs to happens in such cases! AR has no tolerance for such behavior.

May 31, 2015 12:07 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Jeff Dowler CRS Yes, I do remember a few discussions that got out of control but did not participate. No reason to add fuel when people aren't willing to listen to reason!

Grant Schneider I cannot understand why some people communicate that way, especially on mundane or trivial subjects. I say, mind the manners!

May 31, 2015 12:11 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Chris Ann Cleland Not sure, especially when it is supposed to be a helpful forum, not a verbal boxing match!

Joanna Cohlan She will not apologize because she refuses to see that what she did was unacceptable but that is okay, it is on her. Thank you so much for your support!

May 31, 2015 12:13 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Sussie Sutton I am not responsible for anyone else's behavior or actions, only my own. I couldn't and wouldn't treat someone that way though.

May 31, 2015 12:16 PM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

Wanda, I don't know why people are like that, and I am not the one who was ugly to you, but I will apologize for her.  Someone didn't make it clear to her that if you can't say something nice, don't say anything!

May 31, 2015 03:08 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Wanda, here's all I have to say to you at this juncture (and I'm so glad you've had so much support from AR folks):

May 31, 2015 09:15 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Evelyn Johnston You are very kind and I am glad that AR takes notice when these types of situations occur.

Thank you so much Nina Hollander! I am very blessed to be in the company of so many wonderful people who care about this community and its members.

May 31, 2015 10:18 PM
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Eighteen Years Experience in Brevard County

It really is hard for me to believe someone would voice those words on ActiveRain. But since you said it was a new member then I understand. Hopefully this was addressed.  There is simply no room for personal attacks in this community!

May 31, 2015 10:20 PM
Ginger Harper
Coldwell Banker Sea Coast Advantage~ Ginger Harper Real Estate Team - Southport, NC
Your Southport~Oak Island Agent~Brunswick County!

That is hard to believe that someone would do this on ActiveRain.  I think that someone that berates another on ActiveRain should be blocked so that they can not post or read anything else here.  This is a learning site not a tearing down site...

 

May 31, 2015 10:52 PM