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How to be the Perfect House Guest

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Beam & Branch Realty TREC #547752

How to be the Perfect House Guest

House guest

The holidays are wonderful yet can often create stress and lots of work.  Maintaining an attitude of grace and joy can be stretched to the limit.  Often, the stress created during the holidays can come from the guests in our homes.

 

The host and hostess have typically put in many hours of hard work preparing their home, laying out guest towels, stocking up on needed essentials, cooking and of course cleaning.  Knowing that you are going to have guests in your home requires planning and smooth execution.  Great entertaining does not happen by itself.

 

My mother taught me the importance of being a great house guest.  Whether I am staying overnight or just for a a few hours, being a guest in someones home comes with some responsibility.  Your host and hostess will greatly appreciate the effort made by a house guest with good manners.

 

Here are some tried and true House Guest Tips:

  • Bringing a small gift is always a lovely touch.  Nothing over-the-top, just a little something that says, "thank you".
  • When you arrive, do not place all of your bags, etc. on the kitchen counter.  Most likely they have cleaned this surface for the food preparation.  Ask where you should place your belongings.
  • If staying overnight, wait to be shown to your room and then place your things neatly either in the closet or tucked away in the corner.  Do NOT place your bags on a freshly made bed.  
  • Fold back the nice bedspread prior to sleeping and place the decorative pillows neatly on the floor.
  • Please do NOT wad up your wet towels and leave them on the floor or on the carpet!  Hang your used towel up when finished with it each day.
  • Ask if it is alright to eat or drink in your bedroom.  Some prefer you not to do this so make sure you ask.
  • Keep your room tidy throughout your stay.  Others may be touring the home and your sloppy ways are not appreciated.  
  • Make your bed daily.  This is just good manners.
  • Before you leave, ask if you should strip your bed and where to place the linens.
  • Wipe out the sink.
  • Don't allow yourself to be over-served with alcohol.  Sure you might be staying, yet a sloppy, slurring guest is never fun nor attractive.
  • Fore Pete's sake, OFFER to help.  Clean out the dishwasher, clear or set the table, take out the trash, or anything that can help.  Whatever you do, don't just sit on your duff and expect to be waited on for everything.  This can get old quickly.
  • Write a thank you note after you get home.  Always a good thing to do!

Being a great house guest will most likely insure that you may be invited back!  These things are the right thing to do and will be so appreciated.  Being a house guest comes with responsibility.  Show your good manners this holiday season!

 

 

 

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Comments(31)

Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

Common sense tips that many houseguests fail to follow. Great advice if you want to be invited back. :)

Nov 30, 2015 05:53 AM
David Alan Baker | Laveen & South Phoenix Realtor
Keller Williams Realty Phoenix - Laveen, AZ
Your local Expert

I always thought the "thank you" and offering to help were the most important.  Being mindful.

Nov 30, 2015 08:11 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Great advice, Paula McDonald.  These all seem like common sense but a lot of people don't get it!  Thanks for the post.

Nov 30, 2015 08:56 AM
Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner
Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395 - Mission Viejo, CA
Orange County & Lake Arrowhead, CA (949)510-2395

I always try to be a good guest, these are great tips. 

Nov 30, 2015 09:06 AM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

All wonderful suggestions.....and I must admit, I am the perfect house guest.

Nov 30, 2015 09:17 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Those are great tips for not wearing out your welcome too soon, Paula!  The holidays can been trying as well as joyful.  Knowing ways to make it kinder when staying with others helps.

Nov 30, 2015 11:45 AM
Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

     Miss Manners would agree!   There is nothing worse than wearing out your welcome or drinking too much.

Nov 30, 2015 12:15 PM
Troy Erickson AZ Realtor (602) 295-6807
HomeSmart - Chandler, AZ
Your Chandler, Ahwatukee, and East Valley Realtor

Paula - Since it looks like we will be the hosts this year for Christmas, I should send this to everyone coming to our home. Having a lot of family around does add a little stress to our lives for sure.

Nov 30, 2015 12:35 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

Good morning Paula, Congrats on the feture.  Timeless and I really like the ones about alcohol and remove the linens.. 

Nov 30, 2015 08:29 PM
Joyce Marsh
Joyce Marsh Real Estate LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Joyce Marsh Homes

This is a post that I really love and I will be reblogging.  Well done. Thank you 

Nov 30, 2015 09:00 PM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Everyone to Paula McDonald 's after the post and mind some of these tips when you come. Do not block the driveway please

Nov 30, 2015 10:29 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Paula,  Reading this reminds me of the opposite ... when I am a house guest and I need to clean my room and bathroom before I use it ... and I end of waiting on the "host" hand and foot.  Not a place I want to return too ... a hotel is a better option. 

Dec 01, 2015 12:01 AM
RealtyTech Inc.
Real Estate Technology and Marketing - Thousand Oaks, CA
Premium Websites/IDX/Marketing for Realtors

Paula, as you mentioned things like "making your bed everyday" is just good manners. But even just this Thanksgiving, I find myself making the guest room bed every morning! The guest was a friend so I couldnt bring myself to say anything... Great Post!!

Dec 01, 2015 01:44 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Oh, this is such a great list - to me they are a no-brainer, but many people truly lack good "guest" skills. Thanks for sharing.

Dec 01, 2015 02:21 AM
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Eighteen Years Experience in Brevard County

This is an excellent primer of being a good guest...AR's own Emily Post!

Dec 01, 2015 04:57 AM
Bill Reddington
Re/max By The Sea - Destin, FL
Destin Florida Real Estate

Lots of great points. Tough part is not being over served some times. Christmas Cheer!!

Dec 01, 2015 06:37 AM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Burlington, MA
Metro Boston Homes For Sale

Paula McDonald some of these tips are so trivial - and I am surprised some of the guests just take it for granted - as if it is their own home!

Dec 01, 2015 01:03 PM
Craig Cooper
Chase International Real Estate - Tahoe City, CA
Creating-Preserving-Growing Wealth in Real Estate

Excellent tips and reminders to all of us who should behave like that at all times! We rent a small apartment for vacation rental and you would be impressed with how quickly we will judge our own guests! :>)Thank you Paula,

Dec 02, 2015 10:52 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Paula. This is a wonderful post and I agree with your suggestions.

Dec 02, 2015 10:53 PM
Wayne Johnson
Coldwell Banker D'Ann Harper REALTORS® - San Antonio, TX
San Antonio REALTOR, San Antonio Homes For Sale

Paula-By even needing information like this indicates common sense is just not that common anymore. 

Dec 06, 2015 01:13 AM