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Being the best version of yourself is key to success

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Real Estate Agent with Realty Associates Texas 599921 Texas

Henry David ThoreauI don't believe there's ever been better advice offered on what it takes to achieve success than Henry David Thoreau's message on advancing confidently toward our dreams.   Many of us have seen and read the following quote more than once and appreciate it every time we see it.  There was a time that I kept it taped to the bottom of my computer monitor as a constant reminder.  It's making a comeback and will have a permanent spot on my corkboard.  This is only a small part of what Thoreau would share following his experiment at Walden Pond:    

“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.  He will put some things behind, will pass an invisible boundary; new, universal, and more liberal laws will begin to establish themselves around and within him; or the old laws will be expanded and interpreted in his favor in a more liberal sense, and he will live with the license of a higher order of beings.”

Henry David Thoreau, “Walden”

The question then becomes:  What does success look like, what does success mean to me? 

I’ve asked myself this question dozens of times over the years, as I'm sure most of us have.  My journaling on the topic is telling concerning my level of personal growth and understanding.  An example of a typical list:

  1.        To earn enough money to achieve financial freedom.
  2.         Find the right relationship.
  3.         Buy a waterfront vacation home.
  4.        Take more trips and spend more time with friends and family.

The list goes on from there and I'm betting there are a lot of very similar lists out there.  These are great goals, there's nothing wrong with these things.   But they are results of success, not success itself.  One can have these things and be utterly miserable in their lives, and therefore unsuccessful.

Thoreau when a man committsAn insight came to me recently that literally startled me into a more genuine view of what success looks like, for me.  In this view of success, there’s no picturing of an impressive home or healthy bank accounts, no exotic vacations or extravagant parties.  It was more a feeling or a sudden knowing of a more lasting and higher Truth. 

“I want to go to sleep in peace each night, knowing that where I’ve been, who I’ve been, and what I’ve done was the right thing for all concerned.”

The more I thought about it the better I felt.  Concerns about business, relationships, money, politics, and so many other things can and will dissolve into a simple and seemingly small place of,

“I know that I showed up in the world today as the best version of myself.”

In reality, it’s the only thing we can do.  It may look different one day than it did the day before, but it will always be Thoreau what we getthe right thing.

As a Texas REALTOR, I stay on top of industry standards, state law, ethics, best practices, market trends and statistics, and the latest technology.  I have a standard of practice that is driven by ethics and the best outcome for my clients.

It's important that we equip ourselves with the knowledge and tools necessary to do what we do.  From there, we can confidently move forward each day as the best version of ourselves.  That part of the equation for success comes from within; you can't buy it at a seminar or with the latest marketing tool. 

 

Robby Leviton
Metro Real Estate LLC - Kirkland, WA
Knowles Team

Great post, thank you!!!

Sep 20, 2017 06:09 PM
Kate McQueen

Thank you for stopping by, Robby!    Glad you liked the post.

Sep 21, 2017 06:46 AM
Tamara Schuster
Naperville Glen Ellyn Lisle Plainfield Wheaton Illinois - Naperville, IL
Realtor Broker - Naperville

This blog was excellent and had so much good advice with examples also. This one of the best blogs I have read in the last 10 years. You are speaking from the heart and it shows.  If everyone could aim to be the BEST version of their self everyday this world would shine even brighter.  What a great statement. Everything we do makes a difference.  Every day is a gift and by be the BEST you everyday you benefit and those around you benefit also.

Thank you for sharing this :

“I want to go to sleep in peace each night, knowing that where I’ve been, who I’ve been, and what I’ve done was the right thing for all concerned.”

 

Sep 20, 2017 06:18 PM
Kate McQueen

WOW, thanks!  I'm glad that it had meaning for you, and it did come from the heart.  I woke up with it in my mind and it insisted on coming out in the form of this post! Thank you so much for your compliment and comments. 

Sep 21, 2017 06:10 AM
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Hi Kate - I like your reminders of how to live a life of satisfaction and attraction.

Sep 20, 2017 06:20 PM
Kate McQueen

Thank you for taking the time to read and comment.  Greatly appreciated!

Sep 21, 2017 06:10 AM
Mike Kelly,CRS,CIPS
The MJKelly Team - Santa Rosa, CA
"One of Sonoma County's Natural Resources"

I remember the "Serenity Prayer". It soothes me, calms me down. Some would argue it is a "chant", a repetive sound which calms those inner voices. I'm not allowed to go too deep into my mind except with adult supervision! 

Sep 20, 2017 06:24 PM
Jeremy Marquez

I use this multiple times a day ;)

Sep 21, 2017 01:54 AM
Kate McQueen

Good for you!  We all need something that helps us get past those moments of frustration.  Accepting that some things  can't be changed and are out of our control is essential.

Sep 21, 2017 06:13 AM
Clint Lohr
Keller Williams Larchmont - Los Angeles, CA

Here in the Los Angeles area, the unspoken message is loud and clear: You are not "successful" unless you as a realtor make a certain level of income. Period. And to do that , the message I always got when I first got my license is that you had to live up to a certain sterotype to be successful. I'm finally getting over that.

Sep 20, 2017 07:18 PM
Kate McQueen

I hear you! The real estate industry is driven toward awarding models of sucess, and then you wonder why you aren't one of the ones being used as the model.  But if we knew what the lives of high level producers really looked like,  I think in most cases we wouldn't trade our seemingly mediocre existence for all that "success."


Thanks for your comment, Clint.  And keep looking within instead of "without." (Trying to be punny!) 

Sep 21, 2017 06:19 AM
Jeni Blessman
Keller Williams Realty - McLean, VA

Thank you for this wonderful reminder Kate!  I hope you are doing well in Houston.  Many of my office mates from Keller Williams were there last week to help with the clean-up and they came back grateful and humbled~  My prayers are with you all for a swift & complete recovery from the hurricane.

Sep 20, 2017 07:22 PM
Kate McQueen

Thank you, Jeni.  My area and community escaped heavy flooding, in spite of more than 30 inches of rain.  So very grateful! 


Please thank your team mates for me, I know that they traveled a good distance to join in the recovery efforts.  I can understand their feelings of being grateful and humbled -- on the first day of the heavy flooding, as I sat in front of my TV, dry and comfortable, and wept as I watched so many being rescued on every kind of small water craft you can imagine.  There was one image of a small boy, sitting near the bow of a small boat and wearing a life jacket that nearly dwarfed him.  But he had a smile on his face.  He wasn't afraid and he didn't seem to be sad about what was happening.  I still have that image in my mind and probably always will.  

Sep 21, 2017 06:27 AM
Jeremy Marquez
On to the Next Door 🚪 - Sacramento, CA
ON TO THE NEXT DOOR 🚪

This is a true key to sucess, not just in our/my business world but in everything we/I do.

Well said, thanks for the reminder :)

Sep 21, 2017 01:53 AM
Kate McQueen

Thanks for your comment, Jeremy!   Life is so much better when it's lived in balance.

Sep 21, 2017 06:28 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Your line about things being the result of success and not success itself really hit home with me. Such an inspiring post and so well written!

Sep 21, 2017 04:00 AM
Kate McQueen

Thank you, Sharon!  Yes, the idea of success being things is a bit worn out, isn't it.  Things don't last, not even our joy of obtaining them lasts.  Things are great but they aren't everything.

Sep 21, 2017 06:36 AM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011
HomeSmart - Scottsdale, AZ
Real Estate Made Easy

Excellent article. It describes not only success in business but success in life. Thanks Kate.

Sep 21, 2017 05:32 AM
Kate McQueen

Thank you, Joseph!  When I think of some of the happiest people I know, most of them don't have a lot but they do a lot.  For others and with others.  

Sep 21, 2017 06:39 AM
John Wiley
Fort Myers, FL
Lee County, FL, ECO Broker, GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

I have long held that success comes when you are the best you.

No one on earth has the ability to be you.

 

Sep 21, 2017 06:26 AM
Kate McQueen

So very true, we all have something to offer and we are at our best when we are giving what we are meant to give.


 I hope that you are doing well, I see that you are in Florida.  Not sure where Lee County is, but pretty much the whole state was impacted by Irma.


Thanks for stopping by, John!

Sep 21, 2017 06:44 AM
Robert Hicks
United Country River City Realty - Savannah, TN

Thanks Kate-- A timely message for me as I am reading "Walden" right now. Don't know how I have missed it all these years. I hope this day is BLESSED for you and yours. 

Sep 21, 2017 07:48 AM
Kate McQueen

I hope you're enjoying the book!  I first read it YEARS ago and recently gifted my hardback copy to my niece.  I just might go out and get another copy, it's something that's work picking up from time to time to "get a dose" of Thoreau's inspiring brilliance.

Sep 25, 2017 06:39 AM
Marc St Martin
United Real Estate Infinity - Cape Coral, FL
Your friend in the business!

When you put other's needs in front of your own, the best version of yourself will appear.

Sep 21, 2017 07:50 AM
Monique Ting
INET Realty Honolulu, HI - Honolulu, HI
Your agent under the sun

Kate, thank you for this wonderful posting and for reminding us about the most important aspect of our profession... We are indeed here to provide SERVICE to our clients! As we strive to serve their needs to the best of our ability and with genuine concern, hopefully the best of us surfaces...

Aloha,

Sep 21, 2017 05:06 PM
Kate McQueen

Thanks for your comment Monique!  When we strive to be our best, we do our best and everyone is served.  Including ourselves.

Sep 25, 2017 06:54 AM
M.C. Dwyer
Melody Russell Team at eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Felton, CA
MC Dwyer-Santa Cruz Mountains Property Specialist

 Sounds like you've given all of this a lot of thought over the years....resulting in a well deserved featured post, Kate; congratulations.    Unfortunately, some agents seem to be primarily numbers driven...personally I don't think that necessarily results in the best for all concerned.    

Sep 21, 2017 06:04 PM
Kate McQueen

Yes, for YEARS I've thought about this.  A long long time later it's becoming more a part of me than an idea or philosophy.  Thanks for your comment!

Sep 25, 2017 06:53 AM
Rosalind Nicholas
RE/MAX Condos Plus Corporation, Brokerage - Toronto, ON
Toronto Condo Real Estate Agent, Toronto ON

Thanks for this post Kate.  I will remind myself every morning to be the  ....... 'the best version of myself' .......

Sep 21, 2017 06:07 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Kate-very feature worthy and inspiring. All we can hope to be is the best version of ourselves. And, that's all we should expect from those around us. Your post makes me want to read Thoreau again. 

Sep 21, 2017 06:11 PM
Kate McQueen

I haven't read Thoreau in years and recently gifted my copy of "Walden" to my niece.  I hope it has as much meaning for her as it does for me.  Thanks for stopping by!

Sep 25, 2017 06:42 AM
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

Very inspiring post!  I'm grateful for so many things and although a waterfront vacation place would be a bonus, or lots more money to spend--really in the end it's more about the friends and family and being happy in your job.

Sep 21, 2017 07:42 PM
Kate McQueen

Yes, it's about the experiences we share with our family and friends.  When I have a good memory of something in the past, it's not "I loved my Volvo SUV, I enjoyed driving it."  It's always an experience I've had with loved ones.  (By the way, I've never owned a Volvo SUV though I intend to have one in the not so distant future, or a new vehicle as good as or better.   There's nothing wrong with stuff, it just has to come after people.)

Sep 25, 2017 06:49 AM
Paul McFadden
Responsive Pest Control - Seattle, WA
Pest Control, Seattle, WA.

I've heard the key is to do what you love. Works for me!

Sep 22, 2017 06:55 AM
Kate McQueen

Yes, do what you love and you'll never have to work again.  I've known people that are doing what they love and are still unhappy.  Because they became too focused on doing what they love and forgot WHO they love and who loves them.

Sep 25, 2017 06:50 AM
Anonymous
Jennifer Plute

I really love this “I want to go to sleep in peace each night, knowing that where I’ve been, who I’ve been, and what I’ve done was the right thing for all concerned.”
It is with a happy heart how you want to end the day. Success isn't just accomplishments. It is how you feel at the end of the day. Thanks!

Sep 22, 2017 08:38 AM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

I agree, and it is my favorite words: be the best and do the best. 

Some days we can do so much and other days much more or much less, but it is not about results, but always trying our best.

Dec 06, 2017 08:05 PM