Being principle-centred causes you to honour and be open to your own intuition and gut instinct. Honouring your own feelings when interacting with others is an acknowledgement 
that we are all connected at the core and the very base of who you and I are is in constant, deep-level communication with all that it comes into contact with.
You know in your very core when you are being snowed, lied to or manipulated. Those whom you interact with know it too.
We each come with a built-in truth detector and whether or not we choose to honour and listen to it is entirely our choice.
Depression is rampant in society today and along with it come many ways the depressed person tries to fill that empty hole or place of dis-ease.
Some attempt to fill it with food, some with drugs, some with alcohol, some with work and still others with a continuous string of relationships which often overlap.
What is going on in these instances? Should we judge these people as lacking in character or trustworthiness or, rather, are they deserving of our care and consideration in an attempt to help them find their way?
I believe that in the centre of many cases of depression lays a tresspass against one's core self; against one's own conscience.
When we are led into (either by ourselves or others) doing things we do not agree with or which leave us with a bad feeling, and then try to justify our actions by telling lies to ourselves and others, our core identity suffers a deep wound which remains open and bleeding until we decide to be honest with ourselves and others.
This deep wound causes the leeching away of our life force and may lead to a deep depression or gaping hole which we then attempt to fill. There is nothing that can 'fill' this wound. There are only things that can heal it.
The things that can heal it are:
- being honest with oneself
- being honest with others
- being true to our own morals and beliefs
- refusing to be manipulated into doing something that brings us discomfort or shame
- refusing to allow ourselves to enter a state of denial about the situation
- honouring our core values and acting accordingly
- forgiving ourselves for not being stronger in the first place and
- vowing to ourselves to re-examine our core values and begin to right the wrongs in our lives according to what those core values are
Only after we do the above things will we begin to heal the wound and rise above the depression or dependencies we have taken on ourselves.
Sometimes, when we begin to heal ourselves, we will lose relationships with those people and things that fed the wound and caused it to remain open.
This may cause us great pain, however it is completely necessary if we are to stop the loss of our life force and become strong once again.
It is said that 'spirit warns you twice, the third time you stand alone'.
Do you heed the warning the first time it comes to you? What about the second time?
Do you continue on the path towards pain all the while ignoring the prior warnings that were given to you?
We each know the truth within ourselves, and once we make the decision to examine our core values and begin to listen to our own inner voices, we will find that life around us begins to open and guide us on a better path.
Although it may often be painful, the truth will always set us free and living in denial will always set a painful trap which may be very hard to extricate yourself from once you begin to heed the truth.
What are you in denial about? Are you suffering any un-necessary emotional pain due to the lies you tell yourself or others?
Examining your core values and then observing to see if they are in alignment with the way you lead your life is the first step towards a life free of dis-ease and emotional pain.
©2008JoSmith
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