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People don't just care about what you know...they want to know that you care...

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"People don't just care about what you know...they want to know that you care."

 

That's is a quote that my branch manager/broker, Barbara Berg, often repeats in our weekly sales meetings. It's also a an adage (as someone pointed out) used by the legendary trainer/speaker, Floyd Wickman. I've probably heard that quote a million times, but for some reason this past week it really sunk into my brain.

Now that I read Jennifer Allan's super "Selling Soulfully" more frequently, I've noticed her reinforce a similar theme throughout her posts. It reminds me of what Barbara had been saying all along, and suddenly everything became even clearer.

 

Here's how I see it:

Expertise is invaluable, education is definitely important, producing results are critical, but...

If you don't consistently show people that you actually care, all of those qualities may be exist in vain and your career could be destined for a bunch of "one-off" transactions and achievements. 

Now don't get me wrong...By no means am I suggesting that one can't be successful in real estate or business, simply because they don't make a conscious effort to show clients that they care. In fact, I know of quite a few successful Realtors and other business people who don't show that they care about their clients, yet they do quite well for themselves. Actually, it's not always that they don't care about keeping in touch; some are just so overwhelmed and busy.

Regardless of why they don't stay connected, one thing I notice about that same collective of professionals is that the often have to keep generating new business leads and start from scratch to build new relationships constantly. They don't get as many referrals as they could.

I really believe it has to do with the fact that they barely keep in touch with past clients, and only reach out when they needed to make an additional sale to meet a quota, needed another commission check to pay a bill, etc.

 

 

My goal for 2009 is to make time for letting family, friends and clients how much I appreciate and care about them. I plan to do it first and foremost, because it's just the right thing to do. They deserve as much of my attention as they try to give me of theirs.

Even if it's a simple hand-written note or an occasional phone call. Something is better than nothing!

 

 

How about a surprise visit (like the one I made at my uncle Earl's home on Christmas day in Philadelphia)?

He gave me away at my wedding, July 26, 2008, because my father (who is also his brother) passed away from a battle with COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease) on October 25, 2007.  I've been so caughtup trying to stay busy to get past the pain of losing my father, "doing my own thing," focusing on real estate and becoming adjusted to being a newlywed, that I hadn't even spoken to my uncle since my wedding.

 

 

When my husband (the handsome guy in the tux) & I showed up at his door unexpectedly on December 25th, he put his hand on his chest like he was gasping for air and told us the surprise of receiving our wedding "thank you" note a few weeks ago literally brought tears to his eyes.

 

**Yes it took me 5 months to write & mail all 170+ thank you notes, but I say "better late than never!"**

 

 

 

If I am rewarded with new or additional business as a result of my efforts to reconnect with people, then that's a cherry on top! If I don't get a single piece of business from it, I'll feel good knowing that I put good karma out into the universe.

 

 

Like Barbara always says, "People don't just care about what you know...they want to know that you care."

What are some ways you show clients and your sphere of influence that you care?

Stay motivated,

Amber

 

www.AmberLovesRealEstate.com

Norma J. Elkins
Elite Realty Group - Morristown, TN
Realtor - Elkins Home Selling Team

I love the quote and that is one of my goals for the new year is to stay in touch more with former clients and also my friends and family.  Thanks for the post!

Dec 29, 2008 09:44 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Barbara is so right. My manager Vanessa Bivens always says "Do the right thing". I have found over and over she is absolutely right! If I ever wonder what to do in a situation I always ask myself "What is the right thing to do?" and I have my answer. One thing I do that my clients enjoy is at Christmas I order poinsettas from the Austin Children's Shelter for the buyers I have sold a home to and deliver them in person early in December. Another thing I do is make time to call clients during the year to see how they are doing and just to talk. I enjoy it and I know it makes them feel special.  You gave your Uncle the most precious gift this Christmas..time with you! Thanks for sharing.

Dec 29, 2008 10:03 PM
Dean Moss
Dean's Team - Keller Williams Realty Partners Chicago IL - Chicago, IL
Dean's Team Chicago IL Real Estate Team

Amber -

I learned true caring from my mentor and trainer, Floyd Wickman.  Same quote!

You mentioned that many in RE get along without caring.  I'm not sure I agree!

They may temporarily, perhaps.  But truly flourishing in this business, year after year, takes a certain caring about those you serve, as well as the family and friends that support you.

Showing you care helps take you through the good times, but, most importantly, through the rough patches as well.

Happy New Year, Amber - you'll always do what is right!

Anything you need here in Chicago, let me and our Team know!

DEAN & DEAN'S TEAM CHICAGO

Dec 29, 2008 10:09 PM
Randall Sandin
Carolina One Real Estate - Charleston, SC
843-209-9667 - Search for Charleston SC Real Estate

nice quote - best of luck for 2009

Dec 29, 2008 10:15 PM
Janice Roosevelt
Keller Williams Brandywine Valley - West Chester, PA
OICP ABR, ePRO,Ecobroker

I love this quote. Also like you can act your way to right thinking but cannot think your way to right action

Dec 29, 2008 10:42 PM
AMBER NOBLE GARLAND - Top Real Estate Expert, Property Tax Appeal Specialist & Author
Strategic Marketing Expert & Relocation Specialist Serving New Jersey and nationwide! - Marlboro, NJ
- The Agent You Can Trust To Deliver REAL Results!

Norma: Kudos on making the commitment!

Dorie: Sounds like you received "gifts" just as special, knowing how happy you made those children. :)

Dean: Thanks for your comment, as well as for the offer to cover me in Chicago; I appreciate it. Actually I didn't say "many don't care." Below is my verbatim remark:

In fact, I know of quite a few successful Realtors and other business people who don't show that they care about their clients, yet they do quite well for themselves. Actually, it's not always that they don't care about keeping in touch; some are just so overwhelmed and busy.

Thanks for the feedback. Happy new year!

 

Randall: Happy New Year!

Janice: Thank you. Nice play on words. :)

Dec 30, 2008 08:20 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Amber, you have such a good heart. Long before I ever was in real estate I used to tell that caring quote to all the Realtors I knew because that is how they needed to behave!!

Dec 30, 2008 03:19 PM
Cindy Hartpence
Edisto Real Estate Company - Edisto Beach, SC

I love that quote. I am also a special education teacher as well as a Realtor and I know that what that quote has helped me build a wonderful bond with my students and their families! I hope my clients feel this as well!

Cindy

Dec 30, 2008 03:39 PM
Sharon Alters
Coldwell Banker Vanguard Realty - 904-673-2308 - Fleming Island, FL
Realtor - Homes for Sale Fleming Island FL

Amber, this is probably my most important goal for 2009. I know if we keep in touch personally with the people who loved us the day we closed, there would be more opportunities from them and besides, I really like all the folks we do business with and miss them. I just get caught up, like you said, in my daily routine and...well you know...but 2009 is going to be different. Thanks for the reminder!

Dec 30, 2008 04:10 PM
AMBER NOBLE GARLAND - Top Real Estate Expert, Property Tax Appeal Specialist & Author
Strategic Marketing Expert & Relocation Specialist Serving New Jersey and nationwide! - Marlboro, NJ
- The Agent You Can Trust To Deliver REAL Results!

Gary: Thank you!!

Cindy: Sounds like you have an additional rewarding profession. :)

Shareon: Thanks for your input.

Jan 01, 2009 03:43 PM
Phyllis Pafumi
ReStyled to Sell Home Staging New Jersey - Old Bridge, NJ
ReStyled to Sell Staging Homes NJ

Amber this is a GREAT POST...but I have to tell you I am happy to FINALLY see your wedding picture. You are gorgeous...I too reached out to my uncle on Christmas Day and he was in tears..we are planning a big family reunion in Feb because of that gesture.

Talk with you soon, God Bless Phyllis

 

Jan 04, 2009 01:16 PM