I wanted to share with you some great news that I received this past weekend, yet that this news has me worried. It is funny how I can feel this way, and those around me that know me and what I am about to share with you, understand why....those who just hear the news do not comprehend my lack of excitement.
Our middle Son informed me that he and his girlfriend (my first issue with the whole thing) are expecting a baby. She is 10 weeks along and all seems fine (thank you Lord). They have known one another for about a year. They have been dating about 6 months. They moved in together in September and now the announcement of the pending birth.
My Son has been for all general purpose a good kid (he is 22 now). He and I have a good but distant relationship. He chooses to, and is not that often, communicate to me about his life privately and not my wife and her family who have treated him as a "full member" of their family for over 15 years now. That has been the biggest strain on our relationship since he has been 14 years old. This is where the my concern comes into play. I know that I and my wife have made it very easy for him to communicate with us.....have gone out of our way to make time to see him on his terms.....we have left the door open to him to come to everything we have with our family and friends.....and updated him on all that is going on here so that he always feel's apart of us.
He has wanted to be a parent since he was 18 and felt that he would always be there for his child. This isn't where I start to defend myself and my actions, I will just leave it that we missed very little that he had going on, but this is the root of his distance with us.
I know that he will work hard to provide for his family. I asked and was told that they "intend" to get married. They both smoke which I pray that they stop today. I know that he wants a lot for his family, however I know that he will continue to be distant from what would be a great family dynamic with my wife's family and our close circle of friends.
I ask your thought's and prayer's for him, his girlfriend and their child to be.....that they find the courage to give themselves to the Lord....He who will provide for them all that they need. I know the life plan that I and my wife have journeyed is not the storybook that makes fairytails popular. WE have together placed our lives int he Lord's hands and make sure that all our children know that if they do they too will take the "BIGGEST" step to a life full of love, compassion and forgiveness.
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