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Don't Take The Girl

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Services for Real Estate Pros with R & D Art

Tonight, as I sat watching the Sunday Night Football game, my phone rang. At first, I did not recognize the number. Reluctantly, I decided to answer it. I recognized the prefix as being from California, so I knew that it could not be a customer.

As I answer it, the voice on the other end sounded a little shaky at best. It was a former colleague of mine from a former job. As he started talking and telling me of the issues that he and his wife have recently encountered, it made me think of this song.

I could hear the sadness in his voice as he spoke. Today, they found out they are losing the youngest child to cancer. It was the saddest thing that I have heard and I could tell that it was eating him up.

I have known him for a number of years and I know that they love their daughter dearly. It was hard to sit there and listen to him, but that was all I really could do. He left me with this statement; "No matter how long we knew about this, we are still not prepared. I would gladly take her place if I could."

I share this not for sympathy for them. I share this so that all will treasure every moment with the people that are precious to us.

Vanessa Stalets
RE/MAX Elite - Brentwood, TN
REALTOR, Brentwood TN Homes, Real Estate
There are so many hurts in the world, the end of a young and innocent life must be the gravest of them all. The hardest to reconcile, the sharpest of pains. At any age it is horrendous to lose your child, but before life gets really going is absurdly- impossibly -breathtakingly harsh. I am so sorry for your friends, I wonder if I could even face that at all..my prayers for comfort, even a small moment or two, go out to everyone.
Dec 18, 2007 11:46 AM
Danny Thornton
R & D Art - Knoxville, TN
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Vanessa, thank you very much.
Dec 18, 2007 01:19 PM
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)
Danny - This post brought me to tears.  I am including this one in the weekly wrapup for Family Ties today.
Dec 21, 2007 05:27 AM
Danny Thornton
R & D Art - Knoxville, TN
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Jason, thank you.
Dec 21, 2007 05:45 AM
Sandy Noll
(RSVP Real Estate) 425.890.0878 - Gig Harbor, WA
RE Pro Serving Snohomish to Thurston Counties

Danny I am so sorry for your friend.  I could not imagine losing one of my children.  It's just not the natural circle of life.  Honestly, how do you cope?  It's unimaginable.  They will be in my prayers.

Dec 21, 2007 08:23 AM
Jan Wood
None - Gallatin, TN
Danny:  How old is the child?  Is there any hope?  St. Judes is a Wonderful children's hospital.  My daughter's first husband lost his son to leukemia when he was only 13... they diagnosed it at age 10.  Children are not suppose to go before their parents... it's just not suppose to happen.  My heartfelt sorrow for you and your friends.
Dec 21, 2007 10:53 AM
Danny Thornton
R & D Art - Knoxville, TN
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Sandy, that I do not have an answer for.

Jan, at this point they have done everything possible. She is but 5 years old. They do not expect her to make it to 2008. THe doctors allowed her to go home for Christmas. That in itself tells the story. 

Dec 21, 2007 12:29 PM
Natalie Langford
Realty Negotiations - Winchester, VA
Winchester, VA Real Estate
Danny...Our daughter is 5 years old and I'm just so sad for your friend's daughter.  It just doesn't seem fair and yes, I'll hug my 4 and appreciate them even more when they wake...I couldn't even finish listening to the song, I have no idea how Tim got through recording that song in the first place...
Dec 21, 2007 02:36 PM
Danny Thornton
R & D Art - Knoxville, TN
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Natalie, it is not even my child and it is hard to bare.
Dec 21, 2007 11:30 PM
Tom Braatz Waukesha County Real Estate 262-377-1459
Coldwell Banker - Oconomowoc, WI
Waukesha County Realtor Real Estate agent. SOLD!

Danny

I think there could be nothing harder to go through. I heart and prayers go out to the family

Tom Braatz

Dec 25, 2007 12:49 AM
Danny Thornton
R & D Art - Knoxville, TN
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Tom, I would agree.
Dec 25, 2007 12:50 AM
Adam Waldman
Westcott Group Real Estate Company - Hauppauge, NY
Realtor - Long Island
DANNY - This is a very powerful reminder that life is too short, and often times unfair.  No parent should ever have to go through this.
Dec 25, 2007 07:16 PM
Danny Thornton
R & D Art - Knoxville, TN
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Adam, I completely agree.
Dec 26, 2007 02:44 AM
Brande Bradford
Keller Williams - McDonough, GA
Realtor
Danny - I have no idea how I missed this post!  I cant imagine losing a child.  I almost did at one time, but a miracle was preformed and now she is getting ready to turn 20.  Time is something that none of us have control over and we really need to remember what is important with each and every day.
Dec 27, 2007 04:22 AM
Danny Thornton
R & D Art - Knoxville, TN
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Brande, you are so right.
Dec 27, 2007 04:29 AM
Julie Neerings~Lifting Hearts ♥ Building Dreams~
Agent Referral - Salt Lake City, UT
Danny-This is so incredibly heartbreaking.  Being a parent I find a knot in my throat and pain in my heart for this family.  It's so hard to know what to say in this situation.  I'm truly so sorry. God Bless your friend and his family at this time. 
Dec 27, 2007 12:01 PM
Danny Thornton
R & D Art - Knoxville, TN
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Julie, really, it is just about listening.
Dec 27, 2007 01:29 PM
Ginger Wilcox
Sindeo - San Francisco, CA
I can't imagine the loss of a child.  My thoughts and prayers are with your friend and his family.
Dec 27, 2007 01:45 PM
Nick and Joslyn Solomon
Century 21 Moline Realty - Cambridge, MN
The Solomon Team - Century 21 Moline Realty, Inc.
This song has always made me bawl every single time I've heard it.  My heart goes out to anyone and everyone that has to face what your friend is facing, or anything similar. 
Dec 27, 2007 05:55 PM
Danny Thornton
R & D Art - Knoxville, TN
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Ginger, neither can I. Thank you.

Joslyn , it is a pain not easily duplicated.

Dec 28, 2007 12:11 AM