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Don’t defeat yourself

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Pareto Realty TN #251071

 

I saw it unfolding on the soccer field today. Our team of mostly 5th graders were playing a team of ALL 6th graders from the same school.

Our 5th grade girls are a FABULOUS soccer team with plenty of ability and tenacity. In the right mindset, they could have blown these 6th graders off the field even with the obvious size difference.

The first half was agonizing for us coaches as we watched our very talented team make mistakes they had not made in years. They were “clumping” – playing the ball instead of the game . . . and flinching when approached by an opposing player.

We were timid and uncertain – the other team was aggressive and focused.

Somehow, we held them to 0-0 at the half – MIRACLE!

The second half was better after coach David gave an inspiring pep talk.

The game ended in a 1-1 tie – WHEW! Still undefeated . . . but we had lots to learn from this “non-win”

Our girls defeated themselves before the first kick. Mentally, they saw themselves as being the “freshmen(women)” at school – Smaller – Less experienced . . . and they played the part on the soccer field.

How often do you allow your mind to defeat your successes?

A quick look at the obstacles you face immediately followed by dread . . . an inaction or poor execution?

I see home buyers and sellers do this to themselves based on prior real estate transactions. Losing a ton of money on a sale often results in those clients as buyers wanting to steal a deal at unreasonably low price and terms.

While playing these mind games. they often miss out on some great houses . . . and often end up buying something far less than they want or need.

Don’t defeat yourself!

You don’t have to recreate the past and CAN win.

I promise!

Best,

b

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Barry Owen

Founder
Principal Broker
Pareto Realty
Nashville, TN

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Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

With a negative outlook, seldom can any positive results be achieved. Well done to the girls for regaining their focus and composure at the half and getting the tie

Sep 22, 2012 10:54 AM
Nan Jester
Exit Real Estate Gallery Jacksonville Beach, FL - Jacksonville Beach, FL
Realtor, Exit Real Estate Gallery

Our minds are our best friends and sometimes our worst enemies.

Sep 22, 2012 11:24 AM
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

When I started in the business, I was so worried that someone would ask me something I didn't know. Buyers and sellers could probably feel the fear. Attitude is 9/10ths of the battle. I learned it was okay to not have all the answers. Now, I carry myself with confidence. It makes a world of difference.

Sep 22, 2012 12:36 PM
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

Barry - Mental attitude makes such a difference most of the time as the girls showed.

Sep 22, 2012 12:54 PM
Harry F. D'Elia III
WEDO Real Estate and Beyond, LLC - Phoenix, AZ
Investor , Mentor, GRI, Radio, CIPS, REOs, ABR

Winning is part of being in real estate. There will be down days but more good days.

Sep 23, 2012 12:25 AM
Charlie Dresen
The Group, Inc - Steamboat Springs, CO
Steamboat Springs, CO e-Pro

Great Sunday morning pep talk.  Thanks for the positive outlook.

Sep 23, 2012 12:40 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

The fuel we use to empower ourselves can make a big difference not just to win, but the TASTE of the win too

Sep 23, 2012 12:49 AM
Barry Owen
Pareto Realty - Nashville, TN

Hey everybody! THANK YOU for the comments - even when the first 1/2 doesn't go so well, you CAN still get your head in the game a ROCK!

Sep 23, 2012 04:22 AM
Karen Feltman
Cedar Rapids/Iowa City, IA KW Legacy Group - Cedar Rapids, IA
Relocation Specialist in Cedar Rapids, Iowa
It is true that attitude is the one thing you can choose to control....every day. If you believe that things will go poorly, they will. Being positive and confident is most of the battle!
Sep 23, 2012 06:06 AM
Mark Loewenberg
KW of the Palm Beaches - Palm Beach Gardens, FL
KW 561-214-0370

kids are great at that, they do not suck themselves into defeat before going into battle

Sep 23, 2012 10:12 PM
Chris and Dick Dovorany
Homes for Sale in Naples, Bonita Springs and Estero, Florida - Naples, FL
Broker/Associate at Premiere Plus Realty

Attitude is everything.  I try and try every time I go out with buyers to have an over the top attitude.  Some people just seem to squelch it.

Sep 23, 2012 10:48 PM
Scott Seaton Jr. SLS Home Insp
SLS Home Inspections-Kankakee Will Iroquois Grundy Counties - Bourbonnais, IL
The Home Inspector With a Heart!

I coached for years in girls softball. After the #1 team whipped us in the regular season, we had to play them again in the playoffs. I was able to convince my girls that there were reasons we lost the first time and we could win if we didnt do those things again and instead did something else. I explained every miscue from game one and what we should have done. After going thru every play from game one and seeing the new outcome, they all stood and said"We can beat Dairy Queen." We ended up taking them to the last batter of the last inning and lost by a run. Their coach came up to me and said, I'm not sure what you said to your girls but they played like champs today. Great job coaching. Good luck with your champs.

Sep 24, 2012 01:02 AM
Wayne Johnson
Coldwell Banker D'Ann Harper REALTORS® - San Antonio, TX
San Antonio REALTOR, San Antonio Homes For Sale

Barry-That's a great subject and you covered the philosophy nicely. And it's not just 5th grade girls that can be cowed by circumstancees of the moment. Your coach is to be commended too. I've seen so many what I call "little league Lombardi's" make the situation worse by how they try to motivate and inspire their teams like one might do to much older players.

Sep 24, 2012 04:56 AM
Barry Owen
Pareto Realty - Nashville, TN

Hey Wayne! We have the best coach in the world :-) Thank you for the feedback :-)

Sep 24, 2012 05:58 AM