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Let's Not Get Tech-gether

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Real Estate Agent with Libertas Real Estate

 

 

Technology:  You’ve got to love it!  It makes our lives so much easier.  Whether it be a PC, iPad, smart phone, etc., we can conduct business, stay in touch with business partners, clients, and family and friends.  We can also send/receive important documents and so much more.   Technology allows us to do just about everything without ever having to get out of our pajamas or brush our hair if we don’t want to.  I am an advocate.

Although I’m an advocate of technology, I am not an addict like so many people seem to be.  Is it just me or does it seem like wherever you go, people are getting "tech-gether," rather than together?techgetherness

At restaurants, I often see 3-4+ people sitting at a table together yet none of them are conversing.  Each one is honed into their own device.

Being a mother of four teenagers, I can’t seem to have an uninterrupted conversation with any of them – EVER.  There’s always a text, tweet, Instagram… you get the idea.   It seems that they’re never truly listening to what I have to say.  We rarely spend family time together when we’re all home.  Instead, Dad’s watching TV, I’m on the computer, and all four kids retreat to their rooms to pay homage to their various technological devices.

Even with all the ads the movie theaters have come up with to tell people not to use their phones, etc. during the movie, there’s always someone who will anyway.  That little light from one phone in the dark theater seems to shine like a beacon and you can’t help but divert your attention from the movie you’re watching.  Rude?  I think so.

How about the people who text and drive?  Seriously?

What about those who walk around with their face buried in their phone?  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to hit the brakes in a parking lot because someone was paying more attention to their phone rather than to where they were walking.  It’s infuriating!

There are times and places to use technology.  Like I said, I use it all the time.  However, I believe it’s destroying personal social interaction amongst friends and family members.  I, personally, still like getting together with friends and family with good, old-fashioned talking and laughing face to face.

I saw a great idea on Pinterest that I’m going to implement in my home.  Simply place a basket or some other type of container near the front door with a cute little sign saying, “Spend time with the people that are here.”  When family members/guests come in, their phone is deposited into the basket.  They pick it up as they leave.

Another pinteresting idea for restaurant get-togethers is for everyone to place their phone face down in the center of the table.  The first one to use their phone (for any reason), pays the bill.  (With kids, it can be chores).

As for the movies, there’s this little thing called common courtesy.  Turn your sounds and vibration off.  If you must use the phone, step out of the theater.

Finally, kudos to California and all the other states that’ve made a law against texting and driving.  It really should be a law in every state.

So, there it is - my little rant against technology.  It’s got its purposes and A LOT of them, but when it comes to socializing, there’s just no substitute to human interaction. 

Maya Garg * ASP/ASA/ABR/CNE/
Royal Lepage Signature Realty,Mississauga, Ontario - Mississauga, ON
Moving you Forward.... Buyers, Sellers, Investors

It has really killed humour and personal touch out of relationships. Technology can be good andgoing to extremes relly bad. I like the idea of depositing phone at the front door

Jan 06, 2014 08:47 PM
Annette Thor
Connecticut Homes and Commercial Fairfield Cty,CT reinct.com - Westport, CT
Residential & Commercial Real Estate Broker in CT

Jana, I share your peeves about technology, it can be such a god send in business but when people prefer staring at their phone than interacting with real life people it makes you wonder if technology is really "advancing" communication. 

Jan 06, 2014 08:57 PM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

I'm with you, Jana. I don't know how almost "hits" I've had from texting drivers. It drives me batty. I saw 6 lovely young ladies in a restaurant last year. All were sitting around their table texting. Not a soul was talking. So sad. They could have stayed home, saved the money and could have done the same thing. Oy!

Jan 06, 2014 09:07 PM
Anonymous
Claudia Rydel
I agree, how can you form relationships if you don't actually get together and interact with friends, clients, family. To me texting is for "I am running late" or something along those lines. I would much rather speak to someone....
Jan 06, 2014 09:42 PM
#8
Karen Crowson
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Rancho Bernardo, CA
Your Agent for Change
Love this Jana, and I wholeheartedly agree. I predict that psychologists and optometrists will have secure jobs in the future, handling all the drama and farsightedness that will be the result of overuse or misuse of tech!
Jan 06, 2014 10:28 PM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

I'm surprised you don't have more comments. But then again, we are one of those tech industries.  I agree with you 100%.  I take my daughter to dinner and she's buried in her phone, even at age 25!  Arizona has passed the no texting and driving, too, but I haven't heard of anyone getting a ticket for it.  Still, it's much safer not to be on your phone at all when driving.  Have a great 2014!

Jan 07, 2014 01:24 AM
Greg Mona
West USA Realty - Scottsdale, AZ
Professional Real Estate Representation for YOU!

Jana - You've definitely touched upon a subject that is near and dear to my heart!  I just had this conversation yesterday morning with a friend in the Title and Escrow business...yes, a sit down, face to face conversation!  We were lamenting the fact that the very art of communication is being severely compromised by our electronic means of communicating and the fact that you technically never have to venture outside to communicate!  I realize I'm somewhat old school on this, but there is simply no substitute for one-on-one or group communication in person.  Believe me, I find a timely text or email message to be a wonderful form of communication in the correct circumstance, but certainly not a replacement for a real live conversation.  Great post!

Jan 07, 2014 01:39 AM
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

I was going to do a FB post on something like this.  I have a picture of all my kids setting in the living room with the TV on but each one on a seperate electronic devise.

Jan 07, 2014 02:26 AM
Zohar "Zack" Zamir
Keller Williams Town Life - Fair Lawn, NJ
Fair Lawn, Bergen County & Northern NJ Real Estate

Technology and social media are great when used in the right setting! They can advance and progress many areas, however nothing will ever replace face to face social interaction. 

Jan 07, 2014 02:40 AM
Jana Haren
Libertas Real Estate - Glendale, AZ
Your Dreams. Your House. Your Life.

Just last night, my son and I were watching a television episode "together."  I noticed he was buried in his iPad (of course) for most of the show.  When I asked him what happened in the show, he had no idea.  Go figure!  I should have changed the channel.  That probably would have got his attention.  :)

Jan 07, 2014 02:46 AM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

I mentioned the "friends out together and all on their phones" to my son and he said that sometimes he and his friends look like they're texting, but what they're really doing is playing a game - together. It's like having an electronic game board on the table.

Meanwhile... I'm sometimes glad that I live where there is no cell service. Nobody texts or answers calls at my house, because they can't!

Jan 07, 2014 03:49 AM
Paddy Deighan MBA JD PhD
http://www.medicalandspaconsulting.com - Vail, CO
Paddy Deighan J.D. Ph.D

technology can be a valuable tool as well as the bain of our existence...I remember being a visitor in my dad's law form so many times and hearing him say, "I will get that out in the mail tomorrow".  Today, people want it NOW via fax, email or SMS

Jan 07, 2014 04:22 AM
Travis "the SOLD man" Parker; Broker/Owner
Travis Realty - Enterprise, AL
email: Travis@theSOLDman.me / cell: 334-494-7846

haaaaa - putting your phones in the middle of the table. Guess I'd lose every-time. Not that I'm so popular, I just like to read'n'eat. Used to be known in local restaurants as the guy with the newspaper...

Jan 07, 2014 05:38 AM
David Shamansky
US Mortgages - David Shamansky - Highlands Ranch, CO
Creative, Aggressive & 560 FICO - OK, Colorado Mtg

I get the fact that there are "times" when its more convenient to text or email than get into a long conversation but when you are sitting right nextto each other!?!?!?! why be together you could do this thousands of miles away!

Jan 07, 2014 08:53 AM
Sandra Paulow
Aspen Properties, Inc. - Pinetop Lakeside, AZ
REALTOR, Associate Broker, GRI, SFR

I so agree with this post.  I try very hard when I'm with clients to ignore my phone, let calls go to voice mail, and not check it at all until I'm done.  It is rude to be talking to someone and they decide their electronic device is more important than talking to you.  We are raising a generation of people who will have arthritis in their necks, poor eyesight, and won't know enough to say hello to someone in a few years unless they text it! 

Jan 07, 2014 10:27 AM
Jane Chaulklin-Schott
TEAMCONNECT REALTY - (407) 394-9766 - Orlando, FL
TeamConnect Luxury Homes - Orlando, Florida, 32836

Will never forget a very close call. A very busy 6 way intersection and approaching car got the red light, STOP! the driver was to stop. My car was now in the intersection (had green light). Well,  the driver of the other car dropped the cell phone she was talking on. Believe it or not, rather than apply her brakes and stop, she bent down to the passenger floor to retrieve her phone and came up laughing and still speaking on her phone. She braked in time not to hit me broadside. This was not only dangerous but, extremely rude. How can a person laugh when they almost kill another. I never saw what was funny ~

Jan 07, 2014 03:00 PM
John Dotson
Preferred Properties of Highlands, Inc. - Highlands, NC - Highlands, NC
The experience to get you to the other side!

I agree with Paddy (#16)  seems like it is all about instant gradification.  I have all the gadgets but it can be the bain of my existance.

Sometimes I think the worst gift I ever gave my wife was an iPad!

Jan 08, 2014 03:16 AM
Jana Haren
Libertas Real Estate - Glendale, AZ
Your Dreams. Your House. Your Life.

I just saw this and thought I'd share.

Tech-getherness

Jan 08, 2014 11:07 AM
Sharon Parisi
United Real Estate Dallas - Dallas, TX
Dallas Homes

Jana, I love the idea of a container next to the front door for phones!  I frequently see restaurants with six people at a table and each person is sending and receiving text messages.  I also frequently see two people sitting together texting to each other rather than speaking.

Jan 08, 2014 01:36 PM
Anna Hatridge
R Gilliam Real Estate LLC - Farmington, MO
Missouri Realtor with R Gilliam Real Estate LLC

Thank you for the great post about technology.

Jan 18, 2014 05:06 AM