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When it's Time to Say Goodbye to a House you Love

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Industry Observer with Nature As Neighbors

When it's time to Say Goodbye to a House you Love.

I fell in love with the property on my first visit. The 100 year-old farm house shone with careful restoration and charm.  The acreage that surrounded it was dotted with heirloom fruit trees and organic pathways winding through a variety of flower and veggie gardens.

The owner, and mother of one of my recent clients, wanted my opinion as to its value.  True comps were hard to find, but we came up with a plan for pricing. However, after a long interview, we determined she wasn’t emotionally ready to sell.

Our relationship developed into a warm friendship, and four years later she was finally ready to say goodbye. Years of taking care of the house on her own ( after her husband died) had taken its toll. She longed for a new vision and new adventures.

It didn’t take long to get an offer, and fortunately it was a cash buyer with plenty of motivation. The couple, who owned an adjacent property, wanted to buy the house for their daughter and son-in-law. This would secure them a large parcel of land and another home for their family estate.

Getting a loan on the property might have been quite difficult.  It’s built on a skirted post and pier foundation.  In addition, at that time, there was no heat source to the second floor bedrooms. ( A ductless heating system has since been installed by the buyers)

The process of selling was an emotional one. The property was filled with memories - her children had played in a nearby creek, her daughter’s wedding was held in one of the gardens, a dog was buriedGarden Party underneath a tree in back of the barn.

At times, it proved difficult to walk that fine line between friendship and a professional relationship. Fortunately, her son and daughter,  also both excited for their mom’s freedom from the upkeep of the home, helped through the difficult moments.

The children threw a birthday party for their mom, the weekend before she moved out. Guests (including me) gathered in the gardens on a warm summer day and enjoyed libations, delicious food, and shared fond stories. It was the perfect time to say goodbye to a well-loved house.

( This is an entry in AR's February Contest - Love is in the Air! Thanks Lisa Von Domek)

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Debb Janes  Bernie Stea
Brokers/REALTORS®
Call or Text 360-608-4900

We help buyers and sellers in Camas, Washougal, Brush Prairie/Hockinson, Salmon Creek, Felida, and other Vancouver, Washington Areas. 


We bring our passion for nature and beautiful environments to Real Estate. Multigenerational and family estates, country land and homes, and small farmsteads are our speciality.


We agree with our clients, "The true luxury of rural living is having elbowroom for the soul.

 

Comments(61)

Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Michael - yes we do - and the most important aspect of all is to be empathetic during the process.

Wayne, there was good reason for this family.

Hi Joan - thanks.

Mary, aw, how sweet.You "get it."

Feb 18, 2014 07:38 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Sheila - thanks much.

Mary, so good to see you. Hope all is well with you too.

What a great story Jeanne, I just love that.

Feb 18, 2014 07:40 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Oops, missed you Andy. Thanks.

She is a wonderful friend Jill.

Hi Tammie, oh how sweet of you. Yes, it's tough. My heart goes out to you.

Oh yes Morgan. They do.

Julie - oh, no wonder. I think your wise to leave the memories intact.

Aaron - yes, that's so true.

Hi Christine. I hope it has.

Barbara - it makes good sense. I must remember to do it. Lol.

True true, Robert.

Jack, I really appreciate it - it's a spectacular piece of property. Very niche-like though. Thanks much.

Yes they do Pat.

AJ - the best going away gift of all.

Feb 18, 2014 07:44 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

It can be very emotional for sellers when it comes time for them to leave a home.  I especially see that with elderly sellers, who have often raised families, and collected a lifetime of memories in their homes.

Feb 18, 2014 10:07 AM
Joanna Cohlan
Fresh Eyes For Your Home - Chappaqua, NY
Designing, Decorating & Staging Westchester Homes

Good evening Debb, what a beautiful story with a bittersweet ending - it is so tough to detach from the physical place where our memories are made.  But they were so lucky to have you to hold their hands.

Feb 18, 2014 10:48 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

The longer they have stayed in the home, the harder it is to sell and even when it is sold the doubts are still there. Nice story

Feb 18, 2014 10:57 AM
Wendy Betts
RE/MAX PROGROUP - SOUTH DELTA /SOUTH SURREY & WHITE ROCK - Tsawwassen, BC
South Delta & S. Surrey Realtor

How often our Realtor relationships grow into deep friendships!  Good for you - your patience and professional demeanor got this sweet lady through one of lifes' biggest  hurdles - change!

Feb 18, 2014 11:26 AM
Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

I hold a few homes in my heart with deep nostalgia becasue of the association with certain times of my life. Having our own personal experiences helps to create empathy for those who love runs deep.

Feb 18, 2014 11:49 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

I can see why it was a favorite, but it's just kind of sad thinking about her going.

Feb 18, 2014 12:13 PM
Rosie Crow
Serving Sugar Land, Richmond, Rosenberg, Missouri City - Sugar Land, TX
Exceeding Expectations. Delivering Results

What a bitter-sweet story.  It is hard to say goodbye to a home that you have built memories on with family.  My parents plan to relocate to be closer to me in the next few years, but I will have mixed feelings when they sell the home that I grew up in

Feb 18, 2014 12:27 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

That sinking feeling when you're spending more than you earn is definitely a sign.

 

Love and light, 

 

Feb 18, 2014 01:18 PM
Amanda Christiansen
Christiansen Group Realty (260)704-0843 - Fort Wayne, IN
Christiansen Group Realty

That's a very nice story.  I think ours will be the same when we finally decide to sell our charming cape cod.  It will be a sad day.  

Feb 19, 2014 12:58 AM
Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Debb, great story! Sometimes it's hard to give up the memories. The good thing is the memories will last forever.

Feb 19, 2014 01:18 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

It's really all about the memories, isn't it?  

It's a lot easier to say goodbye to a house when the time there may have included more than it's share of unhappiness.  When the home was filled with warmth and happiness, then yes, saying goodbye can be very hard.

Feb 19, 2014 02:38 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Myrl, of course you would understand. And yes, agree really sad with elderly sellers.

Joanna - yes, and she's a cool lady. I'm lucky to have her as a friend.

Those little doubts can sure mess up a cool head huh Ed?

Wendy - yes, change can be quite scary, but so positive. Eventually. :)

Feb 19, 2014 06:12 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Tammy - it's actually quite happy now.

Laura - ???

Well then you two, stay there!

Michael - yes!

Hi Kat - that's so true. It doesn't make it easier when it's been a wonderful home.

Feb 19, 2014 06:13 AM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Burlington, MA
Metro Boston Homes For Sale

Debb, isn't it strange how we develop love relationship with  people and homes!

Feb 19, 2014 06:50 AM
Lisa Von Domek
Lisa Von Domek Team - Dallas, TX
....Experience Isn't Expensive.... It's Priceless!

Hello Debb,

It can be so difficult to turn a home back into a house to sell.  Another lovely entry for our February love contest!

Feb 19, 2014 07:25 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Debb,

I love the way the owners children helped her say goodbye to those memories.....nothing better than a celebration!!

Feb 19, 2014 11:49 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thanks for sharing this wonderful story. It can be very difficult to say goodbye to a home that is a constant reminder of fond memories.

Feb 20, 2014 12:05 AM