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It's Hard to Make a Difference When You Can't Find Your Keys

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Services for Real Estate Pros with Casual Uncluttering LLC

It's Hard to Make a Difference When You Can't Find Your Keys: The Seven-Step Path to Becoming Truly Organized by Marilyn Paul brought me to tears more than once. This lyrical, cheerful, gentle, compassionate, sensible look at the consequences of disorganization and methods for re-framing negative mental habits that often reinforce disorganization is compelling. I'm usually organized, and yes, I'm one of the Pros who always has been, but when I'm not organized it is often a direct symptom of some stressor in my life.

 

Or my cat got on my keyboard again. His record for disruptions is four: turning my laptop to airplane mode, turning off and hiding my volume icon, shifting my monitor view from landscape to portrait, and wrecking my mouse's functionality all in one sitting.

 

I've read more than 50 books on organizing, as particular as Easy Closets (Joseph R. Provey) and as free-ranging as Throw Out Fifty Things (Gail Blanke). Ms. Paul's work is the first which helped me start approaching my destructive for-me mindset: stress = an excuse to let my structures slip. I'm emphasizing for-me because for many many someone elses, stress is not always or ever an excuse - we are all different. Stress can truly overwhelm people. But Ms. Paul's techniques might even then provide some relief.

 

Ms. Paul understands living haphazardly because she "had to tackle her desk as if it were Mount Everest. I made thirty or forty attempts. I know this sounds exaggerated, but I had to get my figurative hiking boots, pack, and ice ax, and go after my desk with determination. The 'mountain' defeated me many times, but eventually I did conquer it. (I have a little flag waving at the top.)" page 11, last paragraph 2003 edition. Many of the BEST Pros are self-taught, now-organized "messies," and I'll go even farther and declare that any Organizer who claims s/he is always organized is probably fibbing.

 

I'm tempted to quote dozens of bits and pieces from this marvelous book. I'll simply suggest that you read it.

Victoria Ray Henderson
HomeBuyer Brokerage - Washington, DC
Washington DC Real Estate

Thanks for the organization tips! I loved the book, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. Have a great weekend!

Jul 15, 2017 10:01 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO

Victoria Henderson Marshall Henderson Marie Kondo has been a tremendous inspiration for many people. Because you enjoy her work, you might enjoy Julie Morgenstern as well.

Jul 15, 2017 01:13 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Lauren it's pretty scary to think of anybody being 100% totally organized. Hey I'm pretty good at it but there are times when it's like - what the heck happened to this closet or drawer!  Very fun post!!

Jul 15, 2017 12:51 PM
Lauren Williams, CPO

Anna Banana Kruchten, CRS I agree completely about being 100% totally organized. That kind of need can be very painful - the perfectionism often causes people to freeze and do nothing, or to live in an endless loop of rebuilding/restructuring/fine-tuning and never feeling "done." 

Jul 15, 2017 01:18 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Lauren, those darn cats can be a trouble maker, as mine sits in front of the screen so I cannot see it!   Great post.

Jul 15, 2017 03:00 PM
Lauren Williams, CPO

Joan Cox My cat is 19, blind, going deaf and losing his sense of smell. And causes more trouble now than when I first got him and he was four.

Jul 15, 2017 06:14 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Lauren- Ok, then I'll read the book!!  LOL  I am forever trying to find ways to be better organized and sometimes I overdo it. 

Jul 15, 2017 04:46 PM
Lauren Williams, CPO

@Kathy Streib The short list: Getting Things Done by David Allen, It's Hard to Make a Difference, anything that appeals to you from Julie Morgenstern, Making Peace with the Things in Your Life by Cindy Glovinsky, and anything that appeals to you by Judith Kolberg.

Jul 15, 2017 06:19 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

                  Thank you Lauren Williams 

Jul 15, 2017 05:47 PM
Lauren Williams, CPO

Kathy Streib Thank you!

Jul 15, 2017 06:12 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Lauren Williams ,

I'm so glad that Kathy Streib featured your post in her "Ah-ha" series this morning. Thank you for the organizing tips and the selection of some some great reading.

Jul 16, 2017 05:26 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO

Dorie Dillard You are welcome.

Jul 16, 2017 07:50 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Lauren. I love your title and the book you describe sounds wonderful too.

Jul 16, 2017 05:54 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO

Sheila Anderson Good morning to you as well! I agree, Ms. Paul's title for her book was inspired!

Jul 16, 2017 07:51 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Lauren. I can only stay organized so long before I slip! Enjoy your day!

Jul 16, 2017 06:57 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO

Wayne Martin Slipping is human. And we learn from our mistakes.

Jul 16, 2017 07:52 AM
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Platinum - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

Great post!  I can see why Kathy chose to high light it this week

Jul 16, 2017 07:26 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO

Kristin Johnston - REALTOR® Thank you!

Jul 16, 2017 07:53 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Getting organized can be an intensely frustrating experience.  Our stuff and how we are used to having it, is an odd source of comfort.  Upsetting that in a good way is stressful.

Jul 16, 2017 09:27 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO

Chris Ann Cleland You've just summarized the dilemma quite well!

Jul 16, 2017 09:36 AM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

That sounds like a book I should read. About once a week I have to attack my desk and organize all the random notes I've taken over the past few days - otherwise I spend all my time hunting through piles.

Jul 16, 2017 09:32 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO

Marte Cliff It's my new favorite. My tied-for-second are Making Peace with the Things in Your Life by Cindy Glovinsky and anything by Julie Morgenstern.

Jul 16, 2017 09:38 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Lauren

Well I can certainly identify with the cat on the laptop creating problems. as well as needing to make some more improvements in my organization. I'm pretty good about it but every now and then something happens to make we realize there are gaps!

Jeff

Jul 16, 2017 09:44 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO

Jeff Dowler I've spent the last week completely revamping my filing because I want it simpler these days. Needs change over time.

Jul 16, 2017 10:41 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Lauren Williams - thanks for the additional information on organizing tips.  It is also a matter of mind and action.

Jul 16, 2017 11:59 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO

Grant Schneider Yes, very much so, maybe even "mind over matter." 

Jul 16, 2017 01:33 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

As organized as I am, and I'm very organized, I still can't fine things sometimes. So frustrating. 

So glad Kathy shared your post this week!

Jul 19, 2017 08:01 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO
Casual Uncluttering LLC - Woodinville, WA
Professional Organizer: Puget Sound homes

Sharon Tara Frustrating for me too, when things slip. I actively gauge my mental state with measures like: "How appealing does filing sound?" The more appealing, the more stressed I am. And the worse I'm doing at it, the more stressed I am.

Jul 19, 2017 04:38 PM