I hate to admit this, but I see it more often then not. I am generally called in to give Feng Shui perspectives on homes for couples. In years past the husbands were not home or made themselves scarce but now they WANT to hear and sit in on the consultations.
Often times there are disputes about what should go where, what kind of furniture will be purchased, how a home will be decorated and in what style. And for some reason, when it's "home turf," the husbands always lose out---they don't get a say in colors to paint, furniture (or the way it is set up), any "decorating" decisions in the home. I know I may get some flack over this, but I have to tell you, they are quite resentful; and rightly so I believe. They live there too but women truly do Rule the Roost!
And some of these lovely couples, without realizing it, put me in the middle. I stop them as soon as I see this is happening and give them a Feng Shui Perspective, telling them I do NOT take sides (this I learned the hard way, years ago). But I do say this as well:
A HOME is your oasis, it is SHARED space and should be loved by BOTH of you. Really, he might have an old, tired, ugly lounger that makes him happy---let him keep it as much as you don't like it, Ladies! It's out of place, takes up too much room and doesn't go with the decor at ALL but it may be loved. These are not what arguments should be about. Your home doesn't have to rate a perfect scale of 10 in beauty but it DOES have to feel good for BOTH of you. Share the decisions about everything in it and watch him really be happy to get home at night!
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