What changes have I made in my personal life....

Real Estate Agent with Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices 01238708

For our Active Rain Challenge, Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, CRS, Broker, Instructor  asks:  What changes have I made in my business and or in my personal life? 


When this question first came across via the Active Rain Challenge, I immediately thought about my business changes and wrote a post about it; clearly, I would be remiss if I did not share my personal life changes as well.  

On March 13th, 2020,  the Governor of California shut down the state. The clock was turned back and brought me to my childhood in Communist Hungary, standing in line for limited supplies of food and other essentials that the government controlled - every aspect of life, business etc.  “ Fear”  was introduced at every level  from politicians, news and social media. The message was always the same:  Fear for your life, fear for your family. 


Thanks to the U.S. Military Academy, the U.S. Army Ranger and Airborne Schools and my parents, I have been well trained to be aware of danger and how to manage anxiety, stress, and panic. I understood when and how to manage my own apprehensions and started trying to come up with some solutions to the instantaneous changes to our way of life. 

Leadership by Example: First I wanted to help lead Diane and let her know that everything will work out and we will get through this together. She was much more affected than I was as her daily office routine, interactions with co-workers and friends and her volunteering at Lange Foundation were stripped away from her in an instant.  Since I do the shopping and cooking anyway, I understood what needed to be increased in our in-home inventory. As we all discovered, certain items quickly became in short supply and this in turn necessitated multiple-store shopping.  It was like a scavenger hunt to get toilet paper, paper towels and water just to name a few.  Thanks to Ron and Alexandra Seigel  for giving me the invaluable tip when we were approaching toilet paper desperation when Trader Joe’s got their shipments.  Thus, sadly I did not avoid standing in line at o’dark thirty for toilet paper which is not what I visualized when I came to this country as a legal immigrant. 


Be Resilient: In order to get through this challenge which is unlike anything any of us have ever seen, we had to communicate that supplies have been replenished, not focus on the number of different stores it took to get them. Amplify the positives instead of focusing on the negative.  In my opinion, they should do with the pandemic as well.  Focus on the number of recoveries, not just alerting us of the number of deaths.  

The Biggest Adjustment we Both Had to Make: Working from home! Our home is very moderate in size.  We now need to share the square footage and be mindful of each other’s working environment. I have been working from home for 15 years or more so our challenges are very different.  Diane gave up the structure of an office routine, while I was not at all used to having her during the working hours.

We have had honest and open discussions on adjustments and how to be considerate of each other’s feelings, needs and emotions while being  empathetic to each other’s moods and needs. We both understood that all of this will take a long time to overcome and a team effort.  Our part was and continues to be managing a bad situation and making our lives comfortable as we slog through this. At the same time, we try to be of help to our neighbors as well, those who have lost their jobs and/or live alone.  When I look around I realize that while I personally feel challenged, there are many others that in a much more challenging situation than I am. 

To summarize, I think I improved on my cooking skills since the restaurants we frequented were shuttered for so long.  Our wine store had an overflow of excellent wines whose prices were reduced when the restaurants closed, so we had a real unexpected treat there.  Being book lovers, this has given us the opportunity to read more books since we try to stay away from the TV as much as possible (although we are now enjoying October baseball).  We are probably even more appreciative of our  physicians, veterinarians, and dentist. And we are very grateful that we have both kept our jobs while many have lost them. I am grateful that Real Estate even with Social Distancing is highly active. 


Wishing you a safe and healthy life and I look forward to your comments.

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Endre Barath,Jr. Realtor at Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties DRE# 01238708



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Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
Superior Service!

Good morning Endre Barath, Jr. I love your blog, but most importantly, Thank you for your service!

Oct 22, 2020 07:14 AM #32
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Endre Barath, Jr. - Congratulations on your FEATURE here on ActiveRain. What a great article! What struck me the most was this one line:

"Focus on the number of recoveries, not just alerting us of the number of deaths."

I also felt as if I was being pinned down and struck by fear, no thanks to the media. When my Town Hall started posting the number of deaths to the community and I read the reactions of those who never experienced anything like this in their life time, day-by-day, I got angrier at the daily death count and immediately contacted the Town Hall and told them how I felt. I let the Communications Director (young enough to be younger than my youngest child) know that it might be a good idea to look at our demographics and to recognize the number of seniors living in Flower Mound. Then, I shared what memories I had coming home from school and watching the daily body bag counts returning home from Vietnam. It was very upsetting, distracting to students, like myself and to our parents, neighbors, and especially the seniors who lost family members as a result of WWII & I, including the number of Holocaust survivors who lived in my commuity. Plus, I added, hearing about how seniors and those in nursing homes were most dying, was very distrubing and I felt would contribute to heart attacks and suicide. I did get my point across and they stopped.

However, day-by-day, there was backlash from people who never experienced anthing like Vietnam. They wanted to hear the statistics of how many people were dying, contracted the virus, etc. So the Town resumed with their daily reports.

It wasn't until recently, the Town stopped reporting the numbers because people learned, numbers do lie! 

Oct 22, 2020 07:33 AM #33
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Endre Barath, Jr. - I see similar things in what we both have  done.  One thing appears clear is that we leverage our strenghs and power through this.  I too got better at cooking and wow, I also lost weight!

Oct 22, 2020 07:45 AM #34
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

Hi there Endre Barath, Jr. - it sounds as if you reacted quite well on a personal level. Good for you. 

Oct 22, 2020 08:08 AM #35
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Endre Barath, Jr. - I have had 2 workspaces throughout my real state career.  I have my own personal office at CB so I can go there whenever I want. But I mostly work at home when not with clients. My husband is on the opposite side of the house.  We do yell a lot at each other because we can't hear each other if we don't. LOL!  I certainly empathize with you and Diane with finding the routine that works for each of you. 

Oct 22, 2020 08:39 AM #36
Shannon Jones
The Shannon Jones Team - Long Beach, CA
Long Beach CA Real Estate

Resilience is key!

Oct 22, 2020 11:19 AM #37
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Endre Barath, Jr. I loved your post! Luckily I was on automatic delivery with Amazon for toilet paper. I had decided I was tired of carrying rolls from the car and decided to buy bulk before the Pandemic hit.  Now my food online and love it. Really enjoyed your post 

Oct 22, 2020 11:41 AM #38
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Endre it is amazing that the life many around the world fight to get out of, is a life that some in this country are ready to welcome. 

I have a feeling they would soon be among the fighting force is their wish ever became a reality.

Oct 22, 2020 11:43 AM #39
Kimo Jarrett
WikiWiki Realty - Huntington Beach, CA
Pro Lifestyle Solutions

The state's restrictions and regulations has impacted most businesses, which also affects consumers, yet, with the erosion of our freedom, it's a sampling of what might occur should we evolve into a socialist state and that would be a lifestyle change I don't care to experience. 

Oct 22, 2020 08:40 PM #40
Brenda Mayette
Miranda Real Estate Group, Inc. - Glenville, NY
Getting results w/ knowledge & know-how!

I love that you & Diane leaned on open communication to help navigate your new work environments.  ;)

Oct 23, 2020 04:39 AM #41
Gloria Todor
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services - Newtown Square, PA
& Doug Durren (484) 431-3686 in SE PA

Endre, Glad you and Diane, and kitties, have bonded more at home during this surreal time.  That is the real up side to this time, more opportunity to hone in on the things we love. Your past experiences have been helpful for sure. Creativity with cooking, etc, has been a big bonus.  Is that a butternut squash soup?  Looks yummy!

Take care.

Oct 23, 2020 10:09 AM #42
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI  indeed adopt and survive:)Endre

Oct 23, 2020 10:34 PM #43
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

James Dray  you are so right it just depends on how you react to the change can make a huge difference, Endre

Oct 23, 2020 10:35 PM #44
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Michael J. Perry  I so agree with you, reminds my of December 7th, September 11th.... Endre

Oct 23, 2020 10:36 PM #45
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Nina Hollander  yes cooking and having pets made life easier for me, Endre

Oct 23, 2020 10:37 PM #46
Ricki Eichler McCallum
CastNet Realty - Corpus Christi, TX
Broker,GRI,ABR, e-Pro, TAHS

Hi Endre,  Glad you and Diane worked together to make things easier.   It is an adjustment especially in a small space.  Your training helped and of course, those great meals you planned and served helped a lot.  I too, have missed the restaurants but have had fun cooking things I haven't cooked in ages.  All caught up now, but still not going out. :(

Oct 24, 2020 09:18 AM #47
Steve Higgins
RE/MAX Kelowna - Kelowna, BC

Hi Endre,

Good post. Congrats on being a featured post. I had to laugh as I read the part when you mentioned challenges on getting certain items I knew exactly where you were going with that. Your soup looks delicious!

Oct 24, 2020 06:39 PM #48
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400  for me it has always been a roller coaster ride, for Diane a steady income... and yes we are greatful for it, Endre

Oct 24, 2020 10:59 PM #49
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Kat Palmiotti  for us eating out did impact us at least four or five times a month so doing the numbers that is like 50 plus dinners we missed out on, Endre

Oct 24, 2020 11:01 PM #50
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

I agree with so many points here--especially the adjustment on working from home! I miss going to the office every day.  And my husband is retired--so he is here all the time -- and I'm trying to work-I sneak into the bathroom to make phone calls! 

Oct 26, 2020 01:56 PM #51
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