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There's no Such Thing as a D U M B Question!

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Real Estate Agent with Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 REB.0759001

Our business is an every evolving business. Within the past 6 months alone there have been changes in how appraisals are managed, changes to the way lenders can conduct a transaction, changes to how properties are transacted due to the complexities of short sales. We as business professionals, and essentially the guardians and navigators of a real estate sale don't always have all of the answers. How can we expect our clients to not be confused and doubtful?

Clients don't want to let us know their degree of confusion or how little they have absorbed. Unless we create the comfort zone for them at the onset of the transaction there will be hesitation on their part. We have an obligation to let them know early in our relationship that it's acceptable to make us stop and clarify a point. We have t let them know that there is no such thing as a dumb question. After all, the money being spent or borrowed is not our money. At the end of the transaction we walk away and there is only one person or couple left with the financial obligation, and as we have seen over the past 18 months, if we do not let them know that it's permissible to stop us and ask a question they could find themselves with serious problems down the road.

When meeting clients for the first time, I lay out the rules, and one of the rules is to ask questions, no matter how foolish they think it might be. Many times, our pride makes us pause when we have doubts, and even though we may think we know the situation, we cannot expect to have all of the answers unless it's something that we deal with non a daily basis. We can not assume that the clients, whether first time buyers or even people that have bought and sold several homes over the years are current with the obligations and conditions that they may encounter as they progress through a transaction. We don't know all the answers, how can we expect them to be aware.

We should also let them know that it's okay to stop anybody that is working for them and ask the questions. We can get so complacent in our jobs because of the routine, that we almost anticipate the next step in the process. To someone making their first purchase there is nothing routine about the deal to them. They need our guidance, but guidance without the understanding of what's going on is like leading a herd of cattle. If that leadership slips just a little then that herd of cattle is destined for trouble.

We need to let them understand that it's expected of them to ask questions. Ask the loan officer to clarify details. Ask the inspector to back up and go over that again. Ask the lawyer to explain the conditions on the mortgage contract, Ask questions and don't leave that point until the question is properly answered. We must let them know that there is no such thing as a DUMB question.

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Marcia Hawken
WILLIAM RAVEIS - Naples, FL
Naples Luxury Specialist

Ed, Believe it or not it applies to clients who have bought and sold properties all their lives.  When my clients move to FL there are many new ways of doing business and many disclosures they have never encountered before. I tell them there are no silly questions.  Good post. 

Sep 02, 2009 11:08 PM
Leslie Helm
Tennessee Recreational Properties - Jamestown, TN
Real Estate For Trail Riders

I agree! The only stupid question is the one you didn't ask!

Sep 03, 2009 12:37 AM
Dick and Dixie Sells
Sells Real Estate, LLC - Trinity, FL
Realtors, Tampa Bay Florida Homes For Sale

True, I tell folks, ask away! And don't think if you did it that way where you're from means we do it that way here. So many new forms and such. Yes, ask away. Thanks for the post.

Sep 03, 2009 02:24 AM
Matt Listro
National Credit Fixers - Matt Listro - Vernon, CT
Your Credit Repair Expert

I agree with Leslie: "The only stupid question is the one you didn't ask!"

:)

Sep 03, 2009 03:09 AM
Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor

Ed--But is interesting how many people will say, but I didn't know.  However they didn't ask either.  Guess we have to ask the questions.  Thanks.

Have a great day!

      Mary

Sep 03, 2009 05:40 AM
Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon
Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd - Westminster, CO
Helping people Transition at all ages!

Ed,

I think it really sets a great tone in working with buyers or sellers to play out the situation and anticipate what roads they might be going down.  Each time we go down a road it is a new journey so making it fun and light helps ease the pain of bumps in the road which are ALWAYS there.  I like to describe the fact we could come up upon things I have not encountered before with the changing rules and regulations so letting them know you might be asking questions too makes everyone feel comfortable with that format!

Carra Riley AKA Cosmic Cow Pie

Sep 03, 2009 07:06 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Ed, if you don't think there are stupid questions then you should listen to some that I ask ...... LOL

Seriously, a huge part of our job is to make sure that our clients feel comfortable enough with us to feel free to ask us whatever is on their mind.

Sep 03, 2009 08:37 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Marcia, you make an escellent point about clients that change rigions, and assume it's business as usual.

Leslie, we're supposed to be mind readers also!

Dick and Dixie, my point exactly

Matt, it's amazing how much trust a client will place in our hands without asking a question.

Mary we're mindreaders, and sometimes their parents.

 

 

Sep 04, 2009 10:23 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Carra, so long as we get the point across we're doing our job.

George we all ask questions that raise eyebrows. Haven't you ever gotten that wierd look from your wife?

Sep 04, 2009 10:25 AM
Russel Ray, San Diego Business & Marketing Consultant & Photographer
Russel Ray - San Diego State University, CA

I cannot help either my Marketing & Business Clients or my home inspection Clients if I don't ask lots of questions. Quite often they don't know what they want or need, and by asking questions I can determine that and then guide them and help them get where they want to go.

Sep 04, 2009 12:43 PM
William James Walton Sr.
WEICHERT, REALTORS® - Briotti Group - Waterbury, CT
Greater Waterbury Real Estate

Sure isn't. I've gotta run, but will be back to edit this to be more thorough.

Sep 04, 2009 03:20 PM
Al & Peggy Cunningham, Brokers
RE/MAX West Realty Inc., Brokerage - Brampton, ON
Our Family Wants To Help Your Family!

We believe in asking questions, sometimes it helps the instructor or professional think of something they forgot to tell you!  Good point though Ed, that we breeze through what we know thinking the clients are following us! Have a great weekend!

Well written and great reminder Ed for us all to 'slow down when explaining the usual stuff to clients', featured in "Best in Your Field"

Sep 05, 2009 11:39 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Russell, sometimes we have to be mindreaders in order to help them

Al & Peggy questions are good especially when they make happy clients

 

Sep 05, 2009 02:38 PM
Edward Kenzer
Realty Executives Platinum - Palmdale, CA

Ed,

I like to sleep at night during my transactions. The only way I can do this is if I know my customers understand everything they need to know about the process. Sometimes the most important question is the one I ask them to make sure that they do understand.

Sep 08, 2009 07:50 AM
Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

Ed, very timely I found this AFTER my post, LOL. You are so right, there is no such thing as a dumb question. I am struggling with trying to come up with something new to give to my clients when an offer has been accepted. 

Off to find Louie... 

Sep 08, 2009 01:30 PM
Steve Merson 512 412 1621
Keller Williams Realty - Austin, TX
CNE, e-PRO

Couldn't agree more Ed!  I always encourage my clients to ask questions all time.......no matter how dumb they might think it is.  It is certainly a lot more dumb NOT to ask!

Sep 16, 2009 01:57 AM
Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner
Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395 - Mission Viejo, CA
Orange County & Lake Arrowhead, CA (949)510-2395

Oh...you mean that the client can't ask a dumb question :).....you mean that you weren't reassuring ME that I'm not that dumb.....oops! Was that a dumb question.

Oct 16, 2009 09:22 AM